Recent content by Chugway

You have a good point, and yes, I appologized, even before we started talking about the role playing. I don't feel good about having done it, but I felt something was wrong, and I was right. She was hiding something, I sensed it, and that is why I did it. It is still wrong of me to snoop, but I...

It is a good idea, the problem is, that we already did that a couple of times, even before she started roleplaying. She has always had a thing for the Joker, and as I sayd, I was dressed as the Joker when we met. It was already "Our fantasy" and my problem is that she went and played our thing...

Thank you TheAlmighty! You and your girlfriend have given me a lot to think about. I really appreciate the time and effort you put into your reply, and it means a lot that you shared your own experience in this. Also thanks to everyone else who has helped. I have read all that has been...

I see your point. But I have never said she couldn't discuss the things she likes, and that is why I don't understand why she hides it. I only had a problem with the specific situation that was her role playing Harley and a guy on the other end role playing the joker. I told her that nicely and...

Again, thank you all for replying, it really helps to hear a lot of different angles. My main problem is, that she chose Harley, a character that is very much her in our relationship, and then RPed with a couple of Jokers, a character that is me, whom I was dressed as when we met, and whom I...

Also: someone compared it to watching porn, but I don't think that comparison works, because watching porn is from a distance. It is already made, and the people in it will never know who watches. Role-playing is one on one, two actual people talking and sharing what is in their heads, their...

Thank you all for replying. It has been great to hear some different perspectives! Just to add: We have been together for three years and we live together. We also recently got enganged. She doesn't usually do anyting to hurt or upset me, and usually puts my needs before her own, even though I...

Hello all. This is my first post here, but after reading another users question about a simillar problem and seeing four pages of kind advice, I decided to make a profile and ask you guys for help. (If this topic need to be moved, please do, and also pardon my writing, as english is my second...