Esotera said:
If you did hypothetically do this, then I would have partly brought it on myself for leaving so much personally identifiable information on this forum and other sites, and talking to random strangers on the internet. My family would also be at fault if they didn't recognise that something was seriously wrong with my mood & try and talk to me about it. You would also deserve a portion of the blame, because you made a deliberate effort to highlight this information for someone who has mental health issues.
And I know I'm being that guy, I'm trying to be Devil's Advocate to stop this thread turning into the self-righteous wankfest that it is almost inevitably going to degrade into. The situation isn't black and white and almost certainly involves more than just bullying.
I am sure the story is not black and white as I don't know they whole thing that has happened, however in a straitforward view of this girl doing nothing offensive to promote this level of aggression (say she released personal info of others or something equally bad)then there is no excuse for this bullying. That is black and white.
I am quite sure that if a woman didn't walk by herself at night then she wouldn't be raped on the street. I am sure if no one person period walked outside at all at night they wouldn't be mugged. If we didn't drive we wouldn't be in car accidents. If we didn't go into the shower we wouldn't slip on a bar of soap and kill ourselves.
The reason your argument is so very, very wrong is because you equate her actions as a cause that validated the result. If I rob a liqour store then when I go to jail it is right to say I brought this on myself, because I did. A cause with a known outcome. If I break a law then I will face consequences.
Now I am sure your argument right now is "she should have known this would happen if she posted videos of herself toppless online". For starters we will ignore that she was 12 years old and really didn't know better. This is still the same argument some people bring to rape victims. You know if you dress provocitively then some guy will attack you on the way home, so why do it? Does that mean that the rapest doesn't carry 100% of the blame?
There are so many idiots on the internet, but that is their right. What is not a right is to harrass and abuse someone constantly. I can't stand outside your house and shout obsenities all day. I can't threaten you, or intimidate you.
So there is the difference here. She did something that while stupid, was perfectly in her rights to do so. The same can not be said for her bullies. Your devils advocate position is jsut plain foolish for trying to defend the actions of these people based on one silly action from a young girl. Your attitude only enables this sort of behaviour.
I will agree that her parents should have noticed and done something, but that is easier said than done. That is why more education needs to be put forward to try and teach children, and adults as well, that this sort of behaviour should not be tolerated at all. Hopefully then we can get rid of this blaming the victim mentality that seems to exist in society.