Ladies Love Cool Lex Luthor
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Bro-fist to young Lex.
Get shaved, get an awesome hat, and swagger like a baws.
Be the best you can, man!
Get shaved, get an awesome hat, and swagger like a baws.
Be the best you can, man!
Looks like this week's theme is "confidence."Lara Crigger said:
Cupid is learning that being confident about your choices doesn't mean "never doubting them." It just means staying true in the face of inevitable doubt. Curiosity is a reflex. You can't control it, so you shouldn't feel bad when it comes up -- unless you're the sort that also feels awful when you sneeze or blink. Also, curiosity is not the same as doubt. Wondering what another relationship would be like isn't the same thing as doubting the one you're in... except sometimes our conscious mind tries to make it seem that way because we feel "guilty" for even considering it. We aren't defined by our feelings, but rather what we choose to do about them.
Mislabeled is just a social anachronism. You're at the wrong age to be so right-minded, that's all. Bide your time -- your day will come. When it comes to maturity and confident self-identity, you're an early adopter... and like the first people to get the telephone, you can't really do much with it until other people get one, too.
Lex is learning that confidence is earned, not bestowed. It's not about feeling like you won the genetic lottery and got everything "right." That's not confidence. Confidence is taking an honest look at what you've got, and saying, "Alright. Here we are. Let's do this." Like Lara said, embrace it! There's something to be said for taking something you might not have planned for, and making it into "I totally meant to do that!"
So own it by shaving your head to hide it? Out of all the examples given none of those men would be considered half as sexy if the had some hair on the sides and none on top. From someone who has had to shave his head (or wear a hat) from about eighteen on, shaving is admitting that being in the process of balding is incredibly unattractive and giving up on it. I do like these articles, just take issue on that one point.
I'd like to raise a counterpoint here. A lot of people who have hair also spend a lengthy amount of time styling their hair to look serviceable. We get haircuts so we can maintain a specific look. Everyone has a style that suits them more and makes them look more attractive. For most of us, attractiveness bolsters confidence. It's not so much that you're shamefully hiding how you naturally look, but that you're taking control of your appearance so you can meet specific goals. If you're balding, the baldness might not be even, or it might be patchy, and the fact is that patchy hair is very difficult to work with. I'm not sure if that speaks to your own experience or not, but when my mom's hair was falling out from cancer treatment, she found that she felt much better about her appearance with a bald head instead of leaving her hair to just fall out.Rylot said:
Is there a difference between looking at other people while in a relationship and being curious/doubting? When it comes to fantasizing, can't those can lead to relationships breaking? A friend had her boyfriend leave her because he couldn't stop fantasizing about this other girl.
Heh. Did anyone else notice that sayin FAQ out loud sounds like 'Fuck You'? (or feck you, or fake you, or it does not matter)
Well for Cupid: I had an ex of 5 years whom only dated me as her first relationship. We had the best times ever together, but she eventually evaluated her options and wanted to be single to maybe date some other guys, and she completely changed her personality, future, and priorities to pursue these guys and be more like them so they would love her.
In the end I respected her for her choices,though it was immaturish to not know what you are looking for in a Loving Relationship.
It's cheating in my book, when you go from one guy to the next, not knowing who you truely are or what you truely want on the inside. Might as well be labeled a Porn Star, and take it up as a career, and then try to get married to a guy, when they know your are being fucked by strangers with STD's every minute of every day.
In the end I respected her for her choices,though it was immaturish to not know what you are looking for in a Loving Relationship.
It's cheating in my book, when you go from one guy to the next, not knowing who you truely are or what you truely want on the inside. Might as well be labeled a Porn Star, and take it up as a career, and then try to get married to a guy, when they know your are being fucked by strangers with STD's every minute of every day.
I will point out another short bald guy,the guy who plays Joe Longo from Mellisa and Joey. Just Google it.
Also, myself after Hajj(men are required to shave their head head the end of this pilgrimage). My profile pic was taken a year after that. Most people said I actually looked better with a shaved head.
Also, myself after Hajj(men are required to shave their head head the end of this pilgrimage). My profile pic was taken a year after that. Most people said I actually looked better with a shaved head.
Young Lex, if you haven't heard about Patrick Stewart's story with his baldness, it could persuade you to rock the Skullhead look:
Back when Patrick Stewart was in school, he too suffered from early male pattern baldness. He was mortified of it, he wore hats everywhere. His future wife and his best friend wanted him to get over it. So, after LOTS of talking didn't help, they held him down and cut the rest of his hair off. Since then, he's been looking like the Patrick Stewart we all know and love today.
Back when Patrick Stewart was in school, he too suffered from early male pattern baldness. He was mortified of it, he wore hats everywhere. His future wife and his best friend wanted him to get over it. So, after LOTS of talking didn't help, they held him down and cut the rest of his hair off. Since then, he's been looking like the Patrick Stewart we all know and love today.
If I was suffering from premature baldness as well, I would so fucking shave my head and keep it that way. It would kick ass.
Actually after thinking about that I can't remember the other two letters.
Actually after thinking about that I can't remember the other two letters.
Right. Was a bit racist there. That's how I'd say it if I were Hungarian (which I am) and used the english pronounciation of Q while saying it. Which I did. My bad.Mr.Tea said:
Damn, I think this is the best issue yet. Great job, Lara. I especially liked the first response too.
Whenever I start to wonder what it would be like to be back on the market, I just think back to all the girls I've heard whining about "why didn't he call/he just wanted to sleep with me/he already has a girlfriend/he's leading me on" and all the guys who I've heard whining about "she wants me to pay for everything/she only wants to go on dates where money is spent/she already has a boyfriend/she's psychotic and thinks we're in a relationship", and I'm suddenly very glad that I'm in a loving, long-term relationship.
After all, the next person you met could end up getting trashed on illegal substances and puking all over your bed on the first date (and yes, that did happen to my roommate. And he cleaned up her puke like a gentleman while I talked her through her bad trip).
After all, the next person you met could end up getting trashed on illegal substances and puking all over your bed on the first date (and yes, that did happen to my roommate. And he cleaned up her puke like a gentleman while I talked her through her bad trip).
For the fellow who's going bald:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOqIngh_-_A
Bald This Way!
Read the credits for a list of good examples!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KOqIngh_-_A
Bald This Way!
Read the credits for a list of good examples!