camazotz said:
You guys know that its okay not to post every lecherous thought that pops in your head when you see a woman posing, right?
I'm not disagreeing, I'm just saying if you thought "that thing about the woman with the cleavage in cosplay," just assume, correctly, that every other man on the planet with normal testosterone levels probably did too even if only on an instinctual level and we really don't need to immortalize it in a post.
...or do it. Whatever. But...Secret to success in life: avoid being creepy.
Context matters. When you have a girl trying to be sexy this isn't creepy or unwelcome as it's saying she's doing the job well. Indeed guys are oftentimes expected to be exaggerated under such circumstances.
I find it more disturbing to have people criticizing her, or girls doing sexy cosplay, and acting like it's wrong or demeaning (when they are posting seriously, not making jokes). People who oftentimes claim to be feminists, but tend to forget that this is the very essence of feminism as women fought long and hard to gain the right to do this kind of thing, real feminism derives from that and does not declare it "first wave" and then attack anyone who does it or supports it. Playboy for example was a feminist publication and that's in part what made it so controversial.
People need to get use to it, women like to have sex just like guys do, and want to be seen as crazy and sexy a lot of the time. Anyone who doesn't get that, man or woman, is in denial. The thing is to understand context, it's one thing to say make sexual innuendo in regards to some woman just dressed normally and walking down the street, and say do it in response to a girl doing Black Cat cosplay and deliberately creating provocative images.
When a girl makes your little guy hard, there is a time and a place to make comments about it, this is one of the contexts where it's okay to say so, but one also needs to understand it's a show, not a case where you should say take it as a personal invitation to stalk her (which is when things get creepy). Also there are classy and amusing ways to make your appreciation apparent and that's what seperates different kinds of guys. You can convey the gist without being incredibly crude, but then again one shouldn't discriminate against someone who lacks skill with wordplay, as long as it doesn't go beyond that.
