Been considering making this thread for a while, and I'm waiting for BLR to finish updating so I'll get right down to it. This is going to be a short book, so prepare your orbital sockets. This will not be a catchall for every woman out there, and I am not an expert, but this may get you heading in the right direction.
First off, Confidence:
"Be confident!" they say, and it's true, women do love confidence. But let's face it, you may as well tell someone to "Be rich and famous!" because without knowing how it's bloody useless advice. I'll start with the obvious stuff and move on to the abstract.
Body Language-
Sometimes the most important things you communicate are the things you never speak. Not verbally anyhow, but people take notice quite easily on a subconscious level. To appear confident you must appear relaxed and open, crossed arms or a hunched position indicate a closed/defensive posture which does the exact opposite. Alternatively people who make wide sweeping gestures as they speak or fidget slightly are also at opposite extremes beyond the "Core" of confidence.
A confident speaking is often standing straight, or in a somewhat relaxed slouch. If they gesture while speaking, it is within the range of their chest, no further than elbow length with the arm extended. They will often smile, and make eye contact, though not constant eye contact. Occasionally tilting your head to consider what has been said or making an observation will give you an excuse to take your eyes off someone, which will make them more relaxed than staring them dead in the eyes the entire time.
Alternatively, not looking someone in the eye further indicates a lack of confidence, and furthermore disrespect should they be wandering, though that ties into the next subject, behavior.
Behavior-
So you're talking to this girl with huge breasts and a low cut shirt.
You want to know what's going to impress her more than staring at her ta-tas? Not staring at them. Not even glancing. Despite how society tells them to dress like sluts, most women don't enjoy men leering at them, or at the least tolerate it. By simply maintaining eye contact and never letting it slip below the neckline, you will usually gain quite a bit of respect from a woman (even if they don't understand that what it is they are feeling for you).
They will /notice/ how every other wanker out there is taking mental images for the spank tank, but REMEMBER you are the guy who didn't even glance once.
This is just one part of a sub-section of behavior you must master. Disinterest.
Be friendly, show good eye contact and a smile when you see her, greet her in a friendly manner but don't drop everything the moment you see her to talk or spend all your time talking with her. Be the first one to break off the conversation the first few times, and wait for her to break off the conversation other times after that.
If you're busy with something or talking to someone else, let her wait.
DO NOT be nasty about it and DO NOT purposely waste her time. Just send her an unspoken message that "I appreciate you, but you aren't the center of my attention."
Ultimately no matter how many guys come on to a girl at a party, the one they will almost always end up looking for is the guy who introduced himself and talked with for a bit before excusing himself and going elsewhere.
Ultimately it gets them wondering "Why isn't he constantly trying to get into my pants like these other guys? Where is he going instead of talking to me? Why is he different?" though ultimately she is thinking about you, which is the point.
How to build a relationship-
First and foremost, women are not objects. Do not see them as a goal to be completed. This also means they are not goddesses beyond your reach. They are human and fallible just like anyone else. When you want to build a relationship with a woman, start as a FRIEND!
Don't worry about the friendzone BS, that only happens to guys/girls hanging out with someone genuinely disinterested in them sexually, in which case it was never going to happen.
So as I mentioned, approach them like a friend, like anyone of the same sex you were trying to get to know and hang out with. Discover common interests and discuss them. Even if you don't seem to have much in common, you're in the same physical location on a regular basis so you have SOMETHING in common.
Physical Intimacy and Comfort-
The most natural way to build an intimate relationship is by building comfort with someone. It wont happen immediately, but once you can completely be yourself around this person without judgement (The way friends just talk without caring what people around them think, being as loud or obnoxious as they please) you know you are ready to proceed with trying to push your luck a little bit. First of all, you need to be physical, but not in a lude manner. When you walk, walk close to her.
WHEN you tease her, and you SHOULD tease her and I will get into why later, experiment with being physical in small ways. Such as a harmless poke or gentle nudge. These things build physical intimacy which is essential to things down the road.
Once a woman feels comfortable with you physically, you're pretty much there. But you need to carefully judge what degree she is comfortable with, and work your way up.
A really good way to judge the level of intimate comfort is a back massage. Leaning how to work someone's shoulders and neck like kneading bread can turn women into putty, and can make MASSIVE gains in comfort and physical intimacy if she's willing and enjoys it. Hell I can't count the times I got "things" started by giving a little kiss on the neck while giving a back massage. Its a very easy and effective way to bridge the gap between moderately intimate physicality, and "extremely intimate" physicality.
Mental intimacy and comfort-
This is the hardest and most obscure region, considering it varies so much between people and situations. Ultimately there's a few simple, salient points to consider.
If you can make her laugh, not just a "lol" but a hearty chuckle on a regular basis she will feel more comfortable with you. Furthermore, you need to listen more than you speak, and really acknowledge what she is talking about. Or if you can't be arsed you can literally repeat the last few things she said in the form of a question to keep her talking. People LOVE to talk, and by simply being observant and interested, they can think you are a great conversationalist.
That being said, don't relegate yourself to being someone's verbal punching bag or diary.
Another bit as I mentioned before, you ABSOLUTELY MUST TEASE YOUR CRUSH! I'm not talking about infantile things like rumors or physical things like pushing her around. You must make observations of her insecurities, and poke fun at little things that she is not extremely sensitive about, but rather things you can immediately make her feel better about as well.
If it's something she's sensitive about, she will end up dwelling on it and feeling bad, if it's something you can poke fun at, but also reverse and make her feel better about...it's a very complex process.
It's hard to explain without sounding like an ass, but it's sort of a form of bullying, which is why you have to be extremely careful about her sensitivity. If done right, you remind her to be humble, and that you can recognize her flaws, which makes her worry about how she appears and appeals to you. She WANTS to look good for you, and wants to be a better person when you are around, because you recognize those parts of her that are bad, but ALSO don't hold them against her.
If you never tease her, she will gain an inflated opinion of herself, and not care how she appears or acts towards you, this is why some women love dating assholes, because they feel others don't really recognize them as a whole...at least as far as I can figure.
Well, that's it. Feel free to ask/troll away!
First off, Confidence:
"Be confident!" they say, and it's true, women do love confidence. But let's face it, you may as well tell someone to "Be rich and famous!" because without knowing how it's bloody useless advice. I'll start with the obvious stuff and move on to the abstract.
Body Language-
Sometimes the most important things you communicate are the things you never speak. Not verbally anyhow, but people take notice quite easily on a subconscious level. To appear confident you must appear relaxed and open, crossed arms or a hunched position indicate a closed/defensive posture which does the exact opposite. Alternatively people who make wide sweeping gestures as they speak or fidget slightly are also at opposite extremes beyond the "Core" of confidence.
A confident speaking is often standing straight, or in a somewhat relaxed slouch. If they gesture while speaking, it is within the range of their chest, no further than elbow length with the arm extended. They will often smile, and make eye contact, though not constant eye contact. Occasionally tilting your head to consider what has been said or making an observation will give you an excuse to take your eyes off someone, which will make them more relaxed than staring them dead in the eyes the entire time.
Alternatively, not looking someone in the eye further indicates a lack of confidence, and furthermore disrespect should they be wandering, though that ties into the next subject, behavior.
Behavior-
So you're talking to this girl with huge breasts and a low cut shirt.
You want to know what's going to impress her more than staring at her ta-tas? Not staring at them. Not even glancing. Despite how society tells them to dress like sluts, most women don't enjoy men leering at them, or at the least tolerate it. By simply maintaining eye contact and never letting it slip below the neckline, you will usually gain quite a bit of respect from a woman (even if they don't understand that what it is they are feeling for you).
They will /notice/ how every other wanker out there is taking mental images for the spank tank, but REMEMBER you are the guy who didn't even glance once.
This is just one part of a sub-section of behavior you must master. Disinterest.
Be friendly, show good eye contact and a smile when you see her, greet her in a friendly manner but don't drop everything the moment you see her to talk or spend all your time talking with her. Be the first one to break off the conversation the first few times, and wait for her to break off the conversation other times after that.
If you're busy with something or talking to someone else, let her wait.
DO NOT be nasty about it and DO NOT purposely waste her time. Just send her an unspoken message that "I appreciate you, but you aren't the center of my attention."
Ultimately no matter how many guys come on to a girl at a party, the one they will almost always end up looking for is the guy who introduced himself and talked with for a bit before excusing himself and going elsewhere.
Ultimately it gets them wondering "Why isn't he constantly trying to get into my pants like these other guys? Where is he going instead of talking to me? Why is he different?" though ultimately she is thinking about you, which is the point.
How to build a relationship-
First and foremost, women are not objects. Do not see them as a goal to be completed. This also means they are not goddesses beyond your reach. They are human and fallible just like anyone else. When you want to build a relationship with a woman, start as a FRIEND!
Don't worry about the friendzone BS, that only happens to guys/girls hanging out with someone genuinely disinterested in them sexually, in which case it was never going to happen.
So as I mentioned, approach them like a friend, like anyone of the same sex you were trying to get to know and hang out with. Discover common interests and discuss them. Even if you don't seem to have much in common, you're in the same physical location on a regular basis so you have SOMETHING in common.
Physical Intimacy and Comfort-
The most natural way to build an intimate relationship is by building comfort with someone. It wont happen immediately, but once you can completely be yourself around this person without judgement (The way friends just talk without caring what people around them think, being as loud or obnoxious as they please) you know you are ready to proceed with trying to push your luck a little bit. First of all, you need to be physical, but not in a lude manner. When you walk, walk close to her.
WHEN you tease her, and you SHOULD tease her and I will get into why later, experiment with being physical in small ways. Such as a harmless poke or gentle nudge. These things build physical intimacy which is essential to things down the road.
Once a woman feels comfortable with you physically, you're pretty much there. But you need to carefully judge what degree she is comfortable with, and work your way up.
A really good way to judge the level of intimate comfort is a back massage. Leaning how to work someone's shoulders and neck like kneading bread can turn women into putty, and can make MASSIVE gains in comfort and physical intimacy if she's willing and enjoys it. Hell I can't count the times I got "things" started by giving a little kiss on the neck while giving a back massage. Its a very easy and effective way to bridge the gap between moderately intimate physicality, and "extremely intimate" physicality.
Mental intimacy and comfort-
This is the hardest and most obscure region, considering it varies so much between people and situations. Ultimately there's a few simple, salient points to consider.
If you can make her laugh, not just a "lol" but a hearty chuckle on a regular basis she will feel more comfortable with you. Furthermore, you need to listen more than you speak, and really acknowledge what she is talking about. Or if you can't be arsed you can literally repeat the last few things she said in the form of a question to keep her talking. People LOVE to talk, and by simply being observant and interested, they can think you are a great conversationalist.
That being said, don't relegate yourself to being someone's verbal punching bag or diary.
Another bit as I mentioned before, you ABSOLUTELY MUST TEASE YOUR CRUSH! I'm not talking about infantile things like rumors or physical things like pushing her around. You must make observations of her insecurities, and poke fun at little things that she is not extremely sensitive about, but rather things you can immediately make her feel better about as well.
If it's something she's sensitive about, she will end up dwelling on it and feeling bad, if it's something you can poke fun at, but also reverse and make her feel better about...it's a very complex process.
It's hard to explain without sounding like an ass, but it's sort of a form of bullying, which is why you have to be extremely careful about her sensitivity. If done right, you remind her to be humble, and that you can recognize her flaws, which makes her worry about how she appears and appeals to you. She WANTS to look good for you, and wants to be a better person when you are around, because you recognize those parts of her that are bad, but ALSO don't hold them against her.
If you never tease her, she will gain an inflated opinion of herself, and not care how she appears or acts towards you, this is why some women love dating assholes, because they feel others don't really recognize them as a whole...at least as far as I can figure.
Well, that's it. Feel free to ask/troll away!
