I'm throwing this out there simply cause I'm not sure if I'm the person your describing or not. Full disclosure while confident in many parts of my life, asking woman out has never been one. I've had girlfriends but I'm still shaking off a lousy year of being a friend to a girl whom I was interested and she knew I was interested (I don't hide my emotions)and was using me as a rebound guy and ego booster between random guys she would date.
Anyways onto the story, the last girl I was interested in started off a friend. We meet at a party I was throwing and their was nothing sexual at all. We quickly became friends and bar buddies, going to bars and watching each other backs. After, five months of this I just woke up and realized I had feeling for her. Soon after I realized this she broke up with her current boyfriend. (I had nothing to do with the breakup. I stayed neutral cause I was still her friend.) After half a day of flirting I asked her out. Kinda flubbed it and she told me not interested, mostly cause she just broke up with someone and wasn't ready to date. I say okay tell her I'm gonna need a couple of days but it's cool. After those few days I start talking to her again and she tells me she dating a girl now and start going into detail about how awesome she is, we're both drunk at the time. I get really depressed and mad all at the same time. I don't even really know why cause I'm really happy she's found someone. We get in a huge fight that I can barely remember and after the ceremonial defriending on facebook, I realize I was an asshole and wrote her a hand written letter saying I'm sorry and telling her she's always been a good friend to me. Anyways that was a month ago and we haven't talked since. I can't tell if I was one of those self entitled "nice guys" and fucked it all up or what. If I was tell and advice on how not to be one would be awesome.
Sorry, it was so long. I can't write a short statement to save my life.
TLR Had a close friend, Asked her out, got rejected, she starts dating someone else, we get in a fight, I apologize but we haven't talked since. Am I one of those "nice guys" if so advice on how not to be one.
Anyways onto the story, the last girl I was interested in started off a friend. We meet at a party I was throwing and their was nothing sexual at all. We quickly became friends and bar buddies, going to bars and watching each other backs. After, five months of this I just woke up and realized I had feeling for her. Soon after I realized this she broke up with her current boyfriend. (I had nothing to do with the breakup. I stayed neutral cause I was still her friend.) After half a day of flirting I asked her out. Kinda flubbed it and she told me not interested, mostly cause she just broke up with someone and wasn't ready to date. I say okay tell her I'm gonna need a couple of days but it's cool. After those few days I start talking to her again and she tells me she dating a girl now and start going into detail about how awesome she is, we're both drunk at the time. I get really depressed and mad all at the same time. I don't even really know why cause I'm really happy she's found someone. We get in a huge fight that I can barely remember and after the ceremonial defriending on facebook, I realize I was an asshole and wrote her a hand written letter saying I'm sorry and telling her she's always been a good friend to me. Anyways that was a month ago and we haven't talked since. I can't tell if I was one of those self entitled "nice guys" and fucked it all up or what. If I was tell and advice on how not to be one would be awesome.
Sorry, it was so long. I can't write a short statement to save my life.
TLR Had a close friend, Asked her out, got rejected, she starts dating someone else, we get in a fight, I apologize but we haven't talked since. Am I one of those "nice guys" if so advice on how not to be one.