Cheating?

[Vrex360]

He might not be cheating but if he's showing he has eyes for other girls and is loudly vocalizing the fact then clearly he's not a very good boyfriend.

I mean it's okay to say Scarlett Johannson or Zooey Derchanel are hot because they are celebrities who you will most likely never meet in person, much less sleep with, but someone who is right there in the relevant social circle is off limits for flirting with especially in the presence of your girlfriend, as that CAN escalate into full on cheating.

 

[GBlair88]

Not cheating but it wasn't clever. Hardly reason to dump him though so there must have been other issues. Or perhaps his ex is just very insecure.

 

[The Geek Lord]

That's a bit pathetic. I don't know any girls like this. Although, were they American, cos you guys are a lot more uptight over there

No, we're just dip shits. Here... IN AMERICA.

... Sorry. On topic, it wasn't cheating, but it was fucking retarded. I'm not very good at the whole "social" thing, but even I know what is and isn't within acceptable limits.

 

[Aesir23]

It's not full out cheating, but I can definitely see why it would cause a dispute at least. It's just plain disrespectful for someone to make those kind of comments while their girlfriend is right there!

Besides, it shows that he doesn't exactly care a lot for her feelings on the subject if he can't activate his mouth filter long enough in order to keep that stuff to himself.

But that's just my impression, I just know I'd be pretty pissed off and insecure if my supposed boyfriend was making those sort of comments to another girl.

He might not be cheating but if he's showing he has eyes for other girls and is loudly vocalizing the fact then clearly he's not a very good boyfriend.

I mean it's okay to say Scarlett Johannson or Zooey Derchanel are hot because they are celebrities who you will most likely never meet in person, much less sleep with, but someone who is right there in the relevant social circle is off limits for flirting with especially in the presence of your girlfriend, as that CAN escalate into full on cheating.

Also, this. Exactly this.

 

[AWDMANOUT]

It is not cheating, it it stupidity.

LOL. Sorry. Couldn't resist.

But yeah, that's kinda stupid. You don't oggle at other women's chests if you're in a relationship.

Just unclassy.

 

[BoosterGold]

Yes it is cheating.
Ask any girl and they will say that cheating isn't really about sleeping with other women its having an emotional investment in another woman. This could be through intimate physical contact or through emotional contact. Emotional infidelity is an worse form of cheating as it requires a lot more care and effort. you friend talking to this other woman online was a clear form of emotional infidelity.
Just My opinion though

 

[Kurokami]

Heres a little discussion that id like to get some adivce on. cause recently my friends broke up cause he called another girl hot on msn and said she had big boobs.
now i dont really think that was cheating.
whats your views?

Was the girl hot and have big boobs? Or perhaps his friend?

If either one's true its not cheating. Actually its not cheating regardless, but its very well justified in those cases.

 

[2fish]

It is not cheating, it it stupidity.

LOL. Sorry. Couldn't resist.

But yeah, that's kinda stupid. You don't oggle at other women's chests if you're in a relationship.

Just unclassy.

He took the bait boys get 'em he is one of them under cover grammer cops.

Spoiler

Unclassy is probably the best term I have seen used thus far. I do have one question for the OP did he say in passing "there was this girl on MSN with huge tits" OR was he talking about them alot?

 

[fenrizz]

She broke up with him because of that?

Well then..
I can only assume that they are under the age of 15, and that they have not been together for very long.

Yes, it's bad taste, and a tad disrespectful towards his girl.
But it's hardly an offense that should cause a breakup.

 

[skeliton112]

I think that you can look but dont touch. So no.

 

[tomtom94]

If you've got a girlfriend, you shouldn't really be complimenting other girls in that way, I mean do you honestly expect that to go down well?

I have a friend whose girlfriend went psycho when she found out he was talking to a couple of other girls on Facebook...and sending them porn links (long story). She spent three hours yelling at the girls, then forced him to delete them and stop talking to them. Unfortunately, they're still together.

 

[EchetusXe]

It is a bit harsh but then how would he get into that situation whilst still being a respectful and loving boyfriend?

 

[BoosterGold]

If you've got a girlfriend, you shouldn't really be complimenting other girls in that way, I mean do you honestly expect that to go down well?

I have a friend whose girlfriend went psycho when she found out he was talking to a couple of other girls on Facebook...and sending them porn links (long story). She spent three hours yelling at the girls, then forced him to delete them and stop talking to them. Unfortunately, they're still together.

I agree with that no arguments

From the way you describe this, I think it is unfortunate she decide to stay with your friend. If I ever did something like that, sending girls porn through Facebook, I would help my girlfriend kick my ass, then dump me for her. then again I don't know the whole story

 

[FC Groningen]

I'd consider kissing and beyond cheating. Although I can see why the ex would feel offended or at least uncomfortable.


Apart from that, it should be possible to compliment other girls if you're in a relationship. Believe me, women among women still gossip and check out other men so it would be very hypocritical if they blame you for still checking out other women. Its probably the way he brought and phrased it though.

 

[Bellvedere]

Did he tell the other girl on MSN that she was hot and had big boobs or his (ex) girlfriend on MSN that there was another girl that was hot and had big boobs?

Technically it's not cheating. Flirting is pretty harmless and mostly just done for fun. It makes both parties feel good about themselves. If he actually wanted to do anything with the other girl beyond that, then yes.

Cheating and lying is unforgivable but being sleezy with friends (yes boys and girls can be friends) is fine.

I suppose it really depends on the persons in question. People can still find other people attractive while in relationships, whether they would even want to get with them if presented the opportunity is completely different.

 

[tomtom94]

If you've got a girlfriend, you shouldn't really be complimenting other girls in that way, I mean do you honestly expect that to go down well?

I have a friend whose girlfriend went psycho when she found out he was talking to a couple of other girls on Facebook...and sending them porn links (long story). She spent three hours yelling at the girls, then forced him to delete them and stop talking to them. Unfortunately, they're still together.

I agree with that no arguments

From the way you describe this, I think it is unfortunate she decide to stay with your friend. If I ever did something like that, sending girls porn through Facebook, I would help my girlfriend kick my ass, then dump me for her. then again I don't know the whole story

Long story short, it was a dig at me (cause I was and still am friends with these girls). I'm not sure how much relevance was attached to him sending them porn, but I think we all treated it as a small and humorous joke. The conclusion we've drawn is basically that his girlfriend is a clingy ***** who doesn't want him so much as talking with anyone else.

 

[BoosterGold]

If you've got a girlfriend, you shouldn't really be complimenting other girls in that way, I mean do you honestly expect that to go down well?

I have a friend whose girlfriend went psycho when she found out he was talking to a couple of other girls on Facebook...and sending them porn links (long story). She spent three hours yelling at the girls, then forced him to delete them and stop talking to them. Unfortunately, they're still together.

I agree with that no arguments

From the way you describe this, I think it is unfortunate she decide to stay with your friend. If I ever did something like that, sending girls porn through Facebook, I would help my girlfriend kick my ass, then dump me for her. then again I don't know the whole story

Long story short, it was a dig at me (cause I was and still am friends with these girls). I'm not sure how much relevance was attached to him sending them porn, but I think we all treated it as a small and humorous joke. The conclusion we've drawn is basically that his girlfriend is a clingy ***** who doesn't want him so much as talking with anyone else.

Now I feel bad sorry for judging so harsh with out all the facts man, but now that I hear all that I feel bad for your friend and hope everything works out for the best, and again sorry for jumping to conclusions. Peace and Love

 

[Eggsnham]

Not cheating, but still...

That's a bit of a dick move.

 

[BonsaiK]

Heres a little discussion that id like to get some adivce on. cause recently my friends broke up cause he called another girl hot on msn and said she had big boobs.
now i dont really think that was cheating.
whats your views?

I say stuff like that all the time to my girlfriend, but then she's bi so she just says "yeah they are pretty big". In fact, she's often the one pointing that stuff out to me.

Everyone has different views on what they consider acceptable though.

 

[ThreeWords]

Heres a little discussion that id like to get some adivce on. cause recently my friends broke up cause he called another girl hot on msn and said she had big boobs.
now i dont really think that was cheating.
whats your views?

I can offer nothing; context is everything, and a single sentence has almost no meaning on it's own. It depends on the guy, the conversation, the nature of his connection to the girl he complimented, etc etc

However, my first thoughts are: Bloody hell, she dumped him over a compliment? He's probably better off without such a jealous girl breathing down his neck...