Confidence is Shaken

[Chase Yojimbo]

I used to have a massive deficit of confidence when I was younger and that didn't change until I was about 16 (thought even then it was still bad). I used to be afraid of pretty much everything, and it wasn't until I made a self realisation that "Whatever happens, happens - If I am caught in a situation of some kind I will deal with it or I will fail to". That might sound harsh, but it's actually a massive motivator.

Another key point is understanding yourself - who you are and what you think about, how you act. Everything. Knowing yourself and realising that the greatest enemy you will ever face in the world is in fact, you (doubt, fear and the like).

Physical exercise and going to the gym really boosts my confidence levels. Having a good workout makes me feel good about myself and that I've done something useful and beneficial with my time. You'd be surprised how much you gain when you go to the gym.

These points might not mean anything to you nor might they help you in anyway - so the only thing I can suggest is just be yourself. I know from experience that pretending to be something I am not doesn't work at all.

I was supposed to go to the Gym today, however i was to depressed and i decided that i would ask the Escapist and, in lamen terms, ***** about it. I think i will go now, though i am a bit late.

 

[SmartIdiot]

I was ina very similar situation to you a few years ago... I'm still not quite sure how I got out of it. All I can offer is grit your teeth, dig your claws in and keep on. Perhaps you should take a step back aswell and assess the things you know you're good at. You need to be honest with yourself too, none of this wishy washy 'I'm not good at anything'. Find your strengths and measure them up against your weak points. You may find that they outweigh them, that's always a good confidence booster.

 

[ImprovizoR]

Just go out, make some friends and drink yourself until you puke. That outta do it. I'm being serious. Also going to the gym or running in the park is a good idea.

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

Thank you everyone, i feel a lot better now.

 

[s0denone]

hey, I pressed post early by mistake, then edited!

Haha the mod must have thought it was pretty funny, since you only got 1 day probation Don't worry, it's nothing.

OT: Confidence issues, eh? I wouldn't take advice from a random online forum. I would consult a psychologist for this sort of thing. Talk about your problems and your innermost thoughts. Everything stems from something else, and sessions with someone trained in such matters will do you much more good than listening to complete strangers, knowing nothing of your situation, muttering and rambling incoherently.

Still, best of luck!

 

[Chase Yojimbo]

hey, I pressed post early by mistake, then edited!

Haha the mod must have thought it was pretty funny, since you only got 1 day probation Don't worry, it's nothing.

OT: Confidence issues, eh? I wouldn't take advice from a random online forum. I would consult a psychologist for this sort of thing. Talk about your problems and your innermost thoughts. Everything stems from something else, and sessions with someone trained in such matters will do you much more good than listening to complete strangers, knowing nothing of your situation, muttering and rambling incoherently.

Still, best of luck!

Actually i am very glad i asked this random forum for their opinion, and feel like a great weight is off my shoulders. My confidence was not the will of others but myself, and it took over a year of suicidal depression to get to this point that i am feeling now. I regained an old friend, one that i thought betrayed me when it was me who betrayed him.

I feel i am actually worthy of my forum title now, i feel clearity.

 

[Marmooset]

hey, I pressed post early by mistake, then edited!

Hey, it's OK. That song brings back pleasant memories. They used to always sing it to me in prison.

 

[Shycte]

hey, I pressed post early by mistake, then edited!

The awesome song should have earned you forgivness.... ;(

 

[Lucifron]

OP

You can learn much from this man:

http://www.tuckermax.com/

The lesson to be learned isn't "be an asshole and you're awesome", but rather how not to give a shit about what other people think and to live life on your terms. As a bonus, his stories are also funny as hell.

 

[Zaik]

If you can't be confident, stop caring. They look nearly the same.

 

[Doctragon]

I have a question for the escapist. Lately my confidence has been severely shaken. My brother just told me he gave up with me and instead of being angry and doing something about it i get depressed and trudge around all day.

Sometimes i am to shy, and even than i am to sensitive, for as long as i remember i just was a sensitive boy in school. Instead of being angry, being a man, i would cry in a corner and wish it all away like a boy. I am going to College starting september, and i hope to get better after that, since i had a mental breakdown before i even graduated Highschool. Am i going the right path to have a clearer mind, or am i still a boy wishing everything away.

Insight in the Thread would be nice from everyone that reads, anything negative like 'shut up you little pussy' will not be allowed, this is a sensitive man/boy/thing asking for helpful Advice/Insight. Also i don't believe i ever done this type of confession for help on this scale.

I think you've got some good advice here. I'm also very lacking in confidence and tend to really worry about things. Even when I have had good moments and not worried at the time, I usually do later on. Since this happens to myself and I don't know how to help myself my advice is limited. It really helps to have a few friends and/or family you feel really comfortable with. That you can act like an idiot and they won't care or at the very least they won't point it out. Of course, this doesn't always work and sometimes I still think about it but it often helps. Other than that, maybe find something to take your stress out, be it your writing, working out at the gym or gaming. Something, anything, to make you feel calm, take your mind off things etc.

The only other thing I can offer you is someone to vent and/or talk to. While I might not be able to fix your situations if it'll help you to talk about them, anything at all, then feel free to PM me. I'm in somewhat of the same boat and I want to help. Hope you feel better! Good luck at college!