I know my opinion on fat shaming is not popular, but here goes. "Trigger alert", I guess. XD
I see fat shaming the same way I see smoking shaming. I don't think anyone is losing any sleep over shaming smokers for their unhealthy and disgusting habit and I think fat women (because let's be real, the fat acceptance movement is a movement about accepting fat women for the most part, fat guys have always been the butt of jokes) should not be beyond public scrutiny.
Not saying you should be an ass about it, but when and if someone makes a comment about "fat and healthy" or "fat and beautiful" (or any variation tbh), I think we should make it clear that fat is NOT healthy and also NOT beautiful. Smokers smell awful and it would be ridiculous to suggest otherwise because "being a smoker is not a choice", "quitting smoking is too hard/impossible", "smelling good comes in a wide variety of different smells" or "my girlfriend is a smoker, can't quit, and I love the fact her mouth smells like an ashtray."
Yes, I'm also one of these guys who thinks the fat acceptance movement is doubling as a proxy for shaming male sexuality and preferences. I'm really tired of "curvy" girls telling me they are big and "beautiful". Please. I can accept there is a sliding-scale of what is beautiful and everyone has their own, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder and this is where the fat acceptance movement is getting on my nerves: it is legitimizing the rejection of healthy standards and trying to impose a larger (hurr hurrr hurrr) spectrum of what men OUGHT to like about women. You're free to try and convince yourself otherwise (aka delusion), but don't try to impose your delusion on me. People can lie about fat being beautiful, but there is one thing that won't lie to you: a man's erection, or lack thereof.
I see fat shaming the same way I see smoking shaming. I don't think anyone is losing any sleep over shaming smokers for their unhealthy and disgusting habit and I think fat women (because let's be real, the fat acceptance movement is a movement about accepting fat women for the most part, fat guys have always been the butt of jokes) should not be beyond public scrutiny.
Not saying you should be an ass about it, but when and if someone makes a comment about "fat and healthy" or "fat and beautiful" (or any variation tbh), I think we should make it clear that fat is NOT healthy and also NOT beautiful. Smokers smell awful and it would be ridiculous to suggest otherwise because "being a smoker is not a choice", "quitting smoking is too hard/impossible", "smelling good comes in a wide variety of different smells" or "my girlfriend is a smoker, can't quit, and I love the fact her mouth smells like an ashtray."
Yes, I'm also one of these guys who thinks the fat acceptance movement is doubling as a proxy for shaming male sexuality and preferences. I'm really tired of "curvy" girls telling me they are big and "beautiful". Please. I can accept there is a sliding-scale of what is beautiful and everyone has their own, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder and this is where the fat acceptance movement is getting on my nerves: it is legitimizing the rejection of healthy standards and trying to impose a larger (hurr hurrr hurrr) spectrum of what men OUGHT to like about women. You're free to try and convince yourself otherwise (aka delusion), but don't try to impose your delusion on me. People can lie about fat being beautiful, but there is one thing that won't lie to you: a man's erection, or lack thereof.