Rey, I'll grant you, but Captain Marvel is to, well, Marvel, what Supes is to DC - practically invulnerable.You can argue they are impossibly skilled but Rey and Captain Marvel take it to a whole new level where they walk away with not even a scratch.
Lack of emotional scars? Sure, but that's another issue.
I'll agree to disagree about them being interchangeable, but the idea of the lack of a clear dynamic, and the lack of one leading it? Well, if we're looking at it in that context, Trinity 'leads' the relationship in the first film, in that for the majority of it, she knows more than Neo, and is 'better' than him. Which is to be expected, given the context. After that, it's not a 180, but Neo's got super powers, and Trinity sacrifices her life for him twice, effectively.Neo and Trinity are these very androgynous, interchangeable characters. There's no clear dynamic between them, and neither of them seems to "lead" the relationship.
In the real world, things are far more equal, but in the Matrix itself? Yeah. I don't think this is a problem really, but one's clearly "the special."
I'll agree to disagree about most of your post, but I'm cutting back in here, because if anything, this is the opposite of one of the core ideas of the Matrix.As the Matrix trilogy itself pointed out, people are too chaotic and complicated to ever really fit into a simple, heteronormative life-model. Some part of them, the parts that don't fit, the parts that are excessive or perverse, are going to leak out.
If I had to sum up the core theme of the Matrix as simply as possible, it would be "choice vs. control," but in-universe, most people CAN be controlled, and controlled very easily at that. What's more, even when presented with the choice to break that control, they'll take the velvet prison. Consider that:
-The Matrix becomes stable when the concept of choice is introduced. 99% of all test subjects accept the Matrix's programming (bluepills)
-Of the 1% that are left, they're controlled as well, albeit indirectly. Zion is destroyed five times prior to the film, and the machines can basically destroy it at any time, only doing so at the end of a cycle. The real world's not a matrix, but the people there are still under another form of control, and like those in the Matrix, don't even know it.
-The One, prior to Neo, chose five times in a row to perpetuate the cycle, rather than going against it. And even at the end, in the seventh version of the Matrix, we're at a point where most humans are going to choose, albeit subconciously, to remain inside the Matrix. Free will ends the cycle and allows the Matrix to be stable, but that free will means that billions of humans will live their lives plugged in, and they'll enjoy it, damn it.
So, yes. The Matrix does present a storyline where choice 'beats' control, so to speak, but even at the end of all things, it's clear that humans are easy to control. Most people are going to choose the Matrix, and the people of Zion are unaware as to how they've been manipulated over centuries. The films are humanistic, but there's a cynical view as well, and among it is that the vast majority of people will go along with things without questioning them.