Getting Rejected : What's the worst that could happen?

[BlindMessiah94]

I've often heard the statement:
"Ask her out, you've got nothing to lose. The worst that could happen is she'll say no."

WRONG.
There is much worse that can happen, and you have lots to lose.
So, I ask you escapists, what is the worst rejection you have ever received when asking out a member of the opposite (or same) sex?

I once had someone laugh at me, then proceed to avoid and ignore me for a year, while spreading rumours about me.

Misery loves company, so let's hear it.

EDIT: I am not in school and am 24, as that seems to be a popular assumption. Also I didn't create this thread to garner sympathy or anything, or because I've grown too cowardly to ask anyone out. I literally only created it so we could all share how we've all been hurt and maybe laugh about it a little together and heal.

 

[Jory]

It depends on the girl though. If it's one of your long time friends and you move in the same circles of friends, you have a lot to lose. If it's just some random girl, it really doesn't matter.

OT: I haven't been rejected. Not that I'm irresistable, I just like to be very sure that they'll say yes when I ask.

 

[AvsJoe]

I've never gotten worse than a smack before so I consider myself lucky.

Actually, that's not true. I was pining over a girl for quite a while and when I finally got the courage to ask her out I found out she was a lesbian. That really freaking hurt; much worse than a smack.

 

[SonicKoala]

Sure, worse stuff could happen, but when it comes to asking out girls, it seems to me that the potential gain more often than not FAR outweights the potential loss, so I still think it's a risk worth taking.

OT: I've never been rejected - I suppose I'm just lucky... I guess.

 

[comadorcrack]

The worst thing that can happen is you get a boner during and she goes off giggling to her friends who make gestures as to the small size of your manhood and spread it around school and post up flyers about it until i cant take it any more and I hold her ***** face under the water and she prays too her false good and the last bubble pops and then the police burst it and I go the prison and get assaulted twice a day for 15 FUCKING years!

...

Or you know... Something like that I dunno...

 

[BlindMessiah94]

Sure, worse stuff could happen, but when it comes to asking out girls, it seems to me that the potential gain more often than not FAR outweights the potential loss, so I still think it's a risk worth taking (and if you don't think that, I'd strongly suggest growing some balls - you're clearly lacking them).

OT: I've never been rejected - I suppose I'm just lucky... I guess.

Haha sorry I should specify - the risks have never stopped me before. I'll always keep asking girls out and going for the gusto. It's not the balls department I'm lacking.
I once went two years straight without a date and I must have asked out like 2 dozen girls or something? All rejections.
I've also had spells where I'm hitting them out of the park.

At the moment though I'm bitter and cynical and would like to hear everyone's painful stories.

 

[ace_of_something]

hmmm I asked out a chick I was on swim team with in high school. She said no politely, her friends teased me (and my twin brother) for about a week.

That's the worst I can think of.

(And she is now a local news lady, damn! I could've been rich!)

 

[Deleted]

When you're the last two people on Earth.

 

[SamFancyPants252]

I would prefer the 'get really close and then go for the long awaited kiss' thing often seen in Hollywood.
Okay, it doesn't happen often in real life but hey....it would be my ideal approach if I was going to go for a girl. Which I'm not.

OT: the worst thing that could happen on an ask out is her laugh and think it's a joke and make fun of you until you're wrinkly and the far side of 90, or she could say something awful about you that she utterly despises leaving you feeling like jumping off a building and your insides feel like they've been through the Necromorphs' family reunion parties.

 

[Lexodus]

Not me, but a friend asked out a boy at her college and found out he was married to a Russian mail-order bride. Now that's gotta suck.

 

[KdS_22]

It really depends on whether or not you would want to be "friends" with the girl. Most of the time, it is way more beneficial to go ahead and ask a girl out than to hover in the "friend zone" for a while - if you have intentions of asking her out. My own experience has been that girls would rather you be upfront with them. If they say yes, then awesome. But if not, then depending on how you handle it you don't have to sacrifice a friendship with them.

As far as random girls go, heck yeah go for it. Nothing to really lose man.

OT: Only been rejected once i guess, but she was dating another guy at the time (unbeknownst to me) so I'm suprised I got as far with her as I did.

 

[Jharry5]

I asked someone out at my school...
She said no.

Then the news spread like wildfire, everyone found out. I didn't hear the end of it for six months. Hardly a day went by when I wouldn't have at least one joke session made about it.
Hmm... I wonder who started that? [/bittersarcasm]

But yeah, that destroyed my confidence.
[sub]It's never really recovered...[/sub]

 

[TheNamlessGuy]

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[XJ-0461]

When you're the last two people on Earth.

Hot damn. We have a winner.

Certainly beats my Fight Club quote...

 

[Deleted]

When you're the last two people on Earth.

Hot damn. We have a winner.

Certainly beats my Fight Club quote...

Thank you, thank you. I.. I don't know what to say. First I'd like to thank my Mom, for giving me access to the internet, and myself, for being this awesome. OH, and the Escapist, without it none of this would have been possible!

 

[sephiroth1991]

If she is a female spider, she will kill you!. I would say to the person who said

"Ask her out, you've got nothing to lose. The worst that could happen is she'll say no."

Fuck that!

 

[eatenbyagrue]

Never had anything really bad so far. The first two girls I've asked out are still good friends who I see regularly, and the third is my current girlfriend of 4 months.

So yeah, I guess I'm a happy atom.

 

[Queen Michael]

She actually said "okay!" to a cup of coffee after I'd asked her if she wanted to have a cup of coffee. But when we sat down to one, it became clear she thought I'd just wanted to talk about anime & manga (her interest in such things being what motivated me to ask her out in the first place) and hadn't considered the idea that I might want to date her. Dang.

 

[Daveman]

She'll never look you in the eye again and constantly avoid you. If you try to clear the air she'll just blank you even though you've been good friends for years. *facepalm*

edit: I guess I'm lucky actually that all my friends like me more because I'm literally fucking awesome and she's always been slightly heartless.

...and now I feel bad for bitching.

 

[Ildecia]

lets say its one of those people that can never keep their damn mouth shut; but you want to go out with then because you know then really well.



she tells EVERYONE that you tried to ask her out; and people; being the pretentious and judgmental people they are; start to make bullshit rumors and dumbass comments about you