Usually the type of guys who see every girl as into them are the type of guys who consistently prove themselves right by bedding the girls. Most guys who fail seem to think no girl is into them no matter what they do. Your friend is a special form of desperate, so starved for affection that any hint of a possible future relationship will make him jump on the woman despite knowing how unlikely it actually is. What him carefully, I'm not saying this is necessarily true in his case but this often leads to suicidal thoughts or at the very least the threat of them.SonicKaos said:How does someone even get to this point in the first place? Anyone else have a friend who thinks every girl like him?
Well... speaking as someone that was quite a creep/loser in my younger days.... I think it's just a way his brain might be wired. He might need to get seriously smacked the fucked around a bit before he gets his self-control in check, because he's going to need to be stronger then most people.SonicKaos said:
There's an option 3 (although it's perhaps linked to option 2) that because you've had that sexual tension and history she simply feels like it's somewhat unfair on her relationship to be hanging around with someone who does or has made her feel that way. So it's not so much of a case of she was hoping to get off with you and now that she can't what's the point, it's more that she is aware that that may be a temptation and she feels it would be sensible to avoid it.Jonluw said:For some reason she's started drifting away from me lately. It might have something to do with her getting a boyfriend. I think there's a pattern in it you see. I lost contact with a different friend of mine a year earlier when she got a boyfriend.
That leaves two options as I see it:
1) The new boyfriend takes up a lot of time, so I'm not prioritized.
2) They were only staying in contact with me because they were trying to get into my pants.
I was mostly just joking about those two options, you know.lisadagz said:Short of having a discussion about how nice people are nice to everyone and that doesn't (necessarily) mean that they also want to shag everyone... maybe he could go to some metal/rock clubs and see if he could meet some ladies there?
There's an option 3 (although it's perhaps linked to option 2) that because you've had that sexual tension and history she simply feels like it's somewhat unfair on her relationship to be hanging around with someone who does or has made her feel that way. So it's not so much of a case of she was hoping to get off with you and now that she can't what's the point, it's more that she is aware that that may be a temptation and she feels it would be sensible to avoid it.Jonluw said:For some reason she's started drifting away from me lately. It might have something to do with her getting a boyfriend. I think there's a pattern in it you see. I lost contact with a different friend of mine a year earlier when she got a boyfriend.
That leaves two options as I see it:
1) The new boyfriend takes up a lot of time, so I'm not prioritized.
2) They were only staying in contact with me because they were trying to get into my pants.
I'm going to suggest an alternative solution.SonicKaos said:snip
i grew up being ostracized from most of the female population of where i live, from a mixture of having an incredibly short temper and being just awkward(that has changed now obviously). and i can say this is so very true it hurts. i still find myself getting way too attracted to any female who shows even a slight bit of kindness to me.Daystar Clarion said:Reminds me of another thread that was posted recently
Some guys are so starved for female attention, that any attention that isn't negative is misconstrued as affection.
Yup. Complete social isolation for many, many years. I have no friends right now and I've never had a real girlfriend (I'm 25). I think if I had some of these things, even for a little while, it wouldn't feel like such a big deal. But I don't, so I do think it's a big deal when someone notices me.Lugbzurg said:Sometimes, these people might just have been through Hell in the past. After that, anything seems like an intimate gift.