Girlfriends (boyfriends) and getting them.

[Kuilui]

Yeah... All of my girlfriend's always put the moves on me first. The only advice I can give is don't look, they'll find you. Not really helpful, sorry.

My dad gave me similar advice years ago. I got hit on several times over the years by girls I never paid attention to. Not on purpose mind just never happened. I wasn't really into any of them though. Also the OP said dating at 16 is late...eesh I'm almost 21 and I've never done anything at all. Farthest I ever got was a hug lol.

 

[Kenjikun]

I met my gf at the Lion Pride's Inn at Goldshire on the Moon Guard server. sweeet

 

[The Stonker]

Well I haven't had any girl problems because the girls I go for most of the time have the same interests as I and we can always talk about everything behind heaven and earth, just be your self and don't listen to all this How I met your mother crap or "players" or anything like that, because people like that are very often terribly terribly lonely my friend.

But getting a boyfriend that's a different story because the guy I'm in love with is in a relationship with another girl >.< She's nice and all but I still hate her guts! XD

 

[Mimssy]

will let me independent, and won't talk down to me.

let me independent? i didn't realize independent was now a verb. XD

Hahaha, proofreading is for chumps! (and so are typos, so guess that makes me a lazy chump).

 

[geldonyetich]

Put yourself out there. Eventually another individual will latch onto you with the power of a crab on steroids. At that point, you've a significant other who demands your constant attention and resources. Congratulations, you lucky successful evolutionary link, you.

 

[PsionicAtlas]

I see what you say about confidence...and yet I completely go against it.
Due to some...events...I'm not the most confident man in the world, and yet my girlfriend still loves me wholeheartedly. I guess the real advice is to be yourself. As much of a cliche as it may be, it's true. You can never hope to have a decent relationship if you're trying to be someone else. A good sense of humor never hurts. And good god was I lucky to find a girl who's okay with me being a bloody nerd.

Are you...me? DOPPELGANGER KILL IT WITH FIRE!!!!!YAAAARGH

OT: Just start talking, and have a little bit of confidence, or if you're like me, think 'f*** it, if I don't do this now I might never get the chance again'. And the guy I quoted has some good points too. Oh and be patient too, don't rush it. I will personally admit to never having a real girlfriend or kissing a girl till I was 20.

 

[thom_cat_]

I have no problems getting girlfriends... the only problem is I seem to like the people I can't have... ie. my ex.
Yeah, so I'm fucked there until that goes away. I need to do a lot of painful waiting.

 

[Mimssy]

will let me independent, and won't talk down to me.

let me independent? i didn't realize independent was now a verb. XD

Hahaha, proofreading is for chumps! (and so are typos, so guess that makes me a lazy chump).

Oh? I am lazy too so why not we be lazy together? hmm? XD

I would, but that seems like work.

 

[Eclectic Dreck]

There is plenty of reasonable advice already but I'd say the key is far more simple than most people realize. All it takes is the courage to ask the person who piqued your interest. Yes, you will get shot down from tiem to time but don't take it personally. That doesn't mean just open with that as your question. Have a conversation first. Even this isn't tricky. All it takes is saying hi and little is asked of you in such a situation. Even if you are rebuked in the initial encounter realize that you have invested nothing more than a greeting. I'm sure most would agree that is a small price to pay for the opportunity to connect with another person (for any reason). If, after a talk you find yourself taken by the person, invite them on a simple date. Something that's easy to walk away from when things don't work out. Chances are very good that the other person may have an interest as well.

 

[AngelBlackChaos]

I don't know how it happens. I think what attracts me to a guy is confidence, and how inventive they are at getting my attention. No, im not saying write my name on a football stadium or something. Its little things, like, actually bothering to know who I am, not being afraid to get into a debate with me, and not attempting to do your best impression of a leech. Also. I cannot stand uncleanliness. x.x

when a guy is interesting to me, and hints that he would be interested, but doesnt pressure me, it can totally be a turn on. That generally will make me go ahead and ask. If you don't seem all that interested, or try too hard, im not going to go for it.

 

[Mimssy]

touche. touche indeed.

I'd say I try, but I'd be lying.

 

[Glass Joe]

The best thing to do is subtly put her down. Chicks love when you disrespect them as much as they disrespect themselves. Also, get out of your mind. Brains don't get you laid, they make you hesitate.

 

[ChicagoTed]

Yeah... All of my girlfriend's always put the moves on me first. The only advice I can give is don't look, they'll find you. Not really helpful, sorry.

Only problem; society suggests that the guy makes the first move. So if the girl makes the first move, it's very rare. And with statistics, next to never happening.

Yes but most statistics are made up, my current and ex girlfriend asked me out I thought it was pretty awesome. As for daiting advice i'd say never date a close friend I know that people say being friends at first is always a good start but from personal experiance it hurts a hell of alot more when it ends.

 

[Buizel91]

Okay I need some tips. I really like this girl. We are really good friends. We have an entire group of friends around seven people. We go to the movies many times. Maybe even this Saturday.. We have a lot of stuff in common [Comic Books, Jokes, Television, etc.] We have shared lots of awesome moments. That time we all saw Iron Man 2. I sat next to her, we talked the whole time. It felt like a date. The last movie we saw [Eclipse, she liked it I heard The Last Airbender sucked ass.] So all our friends left and we just sat on the bike rack [My parents make me wait till everyone leaves so no one is abducted] and talked. It was great. But she never responds to my text, but she used to in the spring. Also she might have a crush on my best friend. So you have an idea of how much I like her, and my reasons for being so nervous. Should I ask her out at The Other Guys [this Saturday] or Scott Pilgrim [for a romantic tune] ? Or at all? Please advice.

I have something to help =3



In all seriousness if you like her, then just ask her, the worst she can do is say no and even then you will still be good friends. i would ask her the next time your at the cinema =)

 

[RavingLibDem]

I've just passed the 5 month mark with my current girlfriend, am in love, and its all going rather swimmingly, so I feel that I should probably contribute to this thread .
Basically, I had 1 girlfriend when I was 17, for 7 1/2 months, and it went terribly, we were both nervous, shy, and in retrospect I don't believe she actually fancied me, which is always going to be a problem.
As many other people have said in this thread the main key to getting the girl you like, is confidence however, I got with my girlfriend at a friends birthday party, I'd talked to her a few times before, enough to be interested, but wasnt sure exaclty how much. As the evening progressed we got talking, and I quickly decided that I really really liked her, so I started to subtly flirt, occasionally taking hold of her hand for slightly longer than was stricly necessary, lots of eye contact, and smiling a lot. When the night came to an end I offered to walk her home, and ended up being invited in for tea... Slightly surprisingly we did actually just have tea, and ended up cuddling on the sofa, before I decided to go for our first kiss. Since then its all been almost entirely perfect, even when we've met our slight problems we've both worked through them and around them, and I am madly in love with her, and as far as I'm aware, she with me.
So basically, it will happen if you keep trying, just don't give up, and if you like someone, try your luck a little bit, you never know what will happen

 

[SwagLordYoloson]

Its best when relationships happen by accident most of my relationships started either too early or too late with the girls interest... either she just started to like me or she was about to get over me then I started liking her.

 

[anthem47]

I've let go of meeting someone at the moment, because I just don't think I'm designed for it. There are so many things about the gender wars that irk me.

1) "Guys make the first move" Honestly, I would never see someone that "waited" for me to make the first move. You're either interested or you're not and if you fall into line with that socially constructed "rule", you're not my type.

2) "I want someone who can protect me" (possibly not said quite like that, but essentially). How am I supposed to respect that? If I love someone, I'll go down fighting for them, but I don't want someone who looks to me at the first sign of trouble. I'm looking for a partner, you know? If I wanted to protect something, I'd visit a pet store. That's the first thing I liked about my last girlfriend, because if someone gave her grief she was more than capable of dishing it back.

3) "I like confidence" He's your partner, not your lawyer. I always go for bookish, insecure, neurotic, world-haters so we can read books, be insecure, share our neuroses and hate the world together, surely there is someone out there who seeks same.

Hmm, I should stop, I'm just venting now, haha. The people I have met that have filled my bizarro world criteria though, I've met completely randomly through friends of friends (I have muso friends so plenty of ballsy world-haters there!) I don't think you're likely to meet someone at a bar unless you honestly like going to bars, ditto clubs (unless you're dragged along, in which case there's a 5% chance you'll meet someone else who hates bars/clubs and was dragged along).

So yeah, do social things that you really like doing. Take a short course in something you like, it'll be filled with new people who share at least one interest. You're a reader? Join a book club! Like theatre? A touch harder, but it's surprising the conversations that get struck on during intermission. (PS, this is why gamers struggle I think. Female gamers are rare but they exist right? It's hard because there's no gamer outlet for mixing with new people, while gaming. Someone needs to open...er...a licensed bar/open LAN party?)

But seriously, if you're not confident, don't fake it. Looks lame if you fail, and if you succeed then you're just stuck faking it forever.

 

[Meemaimoh]

I have no idea how to get a boyfriend. I've only had one, but he definitely chased me rather than the other way around and I frankly have no clue how I managed to inspire his affections. Probably because I was a girl on WoW.

For boys, though...

Confidence. Self confidence is the key to many a womens heart.

Not cockiness, or arrogance, but confidence. Walk upright, carry yourself as if you mean something, and while speaking to said person of interest, make eye contact. It shows you're paying attention and are interested in what they have to say.

This is basically it. Other personality traits will attract various kinds of girls depending on what they're attracted to, but ALL girls (to my knowledge) are attracted to confidence.

 

[awesomeClaw]

1:Tie up girl with rope.
2:Carry girl to basement.
3:??????
4rofit!

Seriously though, i don´t have a clue. Since i don´t have one. *Sniff* I´m so lonely.

 

[theironbat46]

Okay I need some tips. I really like this girl. We are really good friends. We have an entire group of friends around seven people. We go to the movies many times. Maybe even this Saturday.. We have a lot of stuff in common [Comic Books, Jokes, Television, etc.] We have shared lots of awesome moments. That time we all saw Iron Man 2. I sat next to her, we talked the whole time. It felt like a date. The last movie we saw [Eclipse, she liked it I heard The Last Airbender sucked ass.] So all our friends left and we just sat on the bike rack [My parents make me wait till everyone leaves so no one is abducted] and talked. It was great. But she never responds to my text, but she used to in the spring. Also she might have a crush on my best friend. So you have an idea of how much I like her, and my reasons for being so nervous. Should I ask her out at The Other Guys [this Saturday] or Scott Pilgrim [for a romantic tune] ? Or at all? Please advice.

I have something to help =3



In all seriousness if you like her, then just ask her, the worst she can do is say no and even then you will still be good friends. i would ask her the next time your at the cinema =)

I just got done talking to her on FaceBook and she can't come. Looks like Scott Pilgrim is gonna be my last hope for the summer.