Healing a broken heart

[Sethzard]

at age 14, the best advice is wait.

 

[goatzilla8463]

Now that I think of it, I'm pretty sure falling in love was the dumbest thing I've done in my life. And I've done shitload of dumb thing in my life.

Oh, you're back... HI!

OT: You probably should go out with someone else and that will make her jealous and she'll come begging you for your affections.

Read what I said again. I'm the one with the crush. She only likes me as a friend.

How do you know that?

People change their ideas on who they love you know.

And jealousy works quite well. As you said, she is a close friend. If you spent enough time with another girl, this "friend" of yours may view you in a different light.

 

[cikame]

Time... such a lame answer but there is no cure.

 

[Robyrt]

I was in a similar situation when I was 15. As it turns out, I was too obsessed with Girl A to notice Girl B, who had been nursing a similarly passive-aggressive crush on me the whole time.

Now, ten years later, Girl A and I remain good friends, and we both have healthy long-term relationships. Best of both worlds

 

[Parallel Streaks]

Supplement your pain with a heroin addiction.

..I can now see why they didn't want me as the Agony Aunt on my local paper.

Dicks, all of 'em.

 

[Abedeus]

Bla bla bla, you are 15, get over it.

I yesterday lost my dog that has been with me for 13 out of 17 of my years. You don't see me making threads about it, no matter how much it hurts.

 

[Zersy]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

Hahaha i've been in the exact same situation and yes it's just a pain in the ass

(Mine's more annoying since she broke up with him allowing me to move in and get even closer but then like a week before i was gonna ask her out she tells me she back with him which ofcourse did not feel good)

simply stay real good friends and in simple be a better person then her guy. play it cool and as they say "go with the flow" , don't force yourself into their relationship cause thats just dumb.

and perhaps these 2 things might help forget about it since they made me feel real happy i'm single.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6uVLdEP_p_M

and

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jW4D0T5mhCw&feature=related

 

[Arkhangelsk]

If you play your cards right, this is actually your chance.

If she brakes up with him ( and dont worry, sooner or later she will) you will be there. Can you figure out the rest?

I'm reminded of this:
http://xkcd.com/513/

One of the few XKCDs I agree with.
DO NOT BE THIS GUY. Move on. There's nothing else you can do. Head to the XKCD forums and read the thread on that comic. Read how nerdy and CREEPY that situation is.

Againo. Not. Do. This.

I wasn't planning on doing that. If I were to end up with her, I wouldn't lure her into it in a creepy way like that. It should come by itself.

Usually helps to concentrate on something else, work towards another goal. Has helped me in countless different situations.

I'm right now taking my frustration out on my guitar. And with that I mean playing until my fingers burn. Does that count?

dude i hate to say this but i was in your exact position once (although i was 16), decided to come clean with her and got a ruined freindship and alot of laughing from poeple (not her though fortunately) for my trouble

just wait it out, when they split up play that comforting friend turned saviour card and get laid, although that last bit takes a bit of skill

That I won't, and I'm not interested in her for her slamming body. I like her, but my main intentions isn't to get laid.

 

[Silver Scribbler]

Booze! That is all.

 

[AvsJoe]

That must've hurt, but try to imagine what it would've felt like if she didn't have a boyfriend, but instead told you she was gay. Yeah, that happened to me. Hurt like a ***** for days because of that one.

 

[wootsniper]

hmmm, i gues the only thing you CAN do is kill the boyfriend right?

 

[Satin6T]

Screw the friend zone, it's easier to get out of it than everyone thinks
bide your time, she'll be yours eventually

 

[Lynx]

The main healer is time, of course. But don't be idle while time is passing - fill it, with games, other friends, exercise, any activities will do. Some will suggest meeting other girls - also a good idea - but that's just another way (a great way!) to filling the passing time.

After a few heartaches, you realize that your life depends on no one but you. Live your life well, and you'll be a better "catch", and more likely to meet/find the person you connect to best, who connects to you just as well. Not that it ever gets easy, really, but hey! Billions and billions of people have been through the same thing and so will you.

Exactly.

Do what you normally would have done if she wasn't in the picture. Or do something you've planned to do for ages but never got around to. Do not be idle, occupy yourself with something fun, that takes effort and activity, and soon enough you'll wake up feeling a little lighter at heart by every morning.

Take comfort in the fact that this too shall pass. Because it will.

 

[JanatUrlich]

Dude if she's gotten a boyfriend, you've missed your chance. The only thing you can do now really is wait until they break up, then make your move.

Don't pussy out, just do it!

 

[Da pyro man 999]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

Dude, its a common problem. Its happend to me alot. But stay strong

 

[JamesJoltWolf]

if your really good friends she wouldnt of gone out with you she would of said "oh i dunno we should just stay friends tbh" so just move on theres plenty more girls out there good luck

 

[BaldursBananaSoap]

Boo hoo. Move on. You'll forget about her in no time, then it will be some other girl. Just don't make a thread about that too.

 

[Dark marauder]

There is a useful item to heal a broken heart The SEARCH BUTTON

 

[StarStruckStrumpets]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

I'm 14. I've experienced this, I have shared your paid, and I know this isn't what you need, but experience has told me:

There is nothing you can do.

She's probably insanely in love with her boyfriend, filling her head with the delusions that his a nice guy and that he won't break her heart and leave her crying body on the floor. Then, she'll cry on your shoulder. Once she's bled out, she'll ignore you and find another boyfriend. Honestly, never become "good friends" with someone if you want to date them. For the most part, it's a disaster. Sorry, I'm a bit too negative.

 

[Rotukai]

Bud it is all just something to learn from at your age... I thought i met the woman of my life, my soul mate when i was 18. We got a flat together, got engaged etc and a year later we split and cause of living in the flat im still paying off debts from it. Working two jobs etc and it ended 2 years ago. Some people are very lucky and find love young but alot of others find it when they are older. Just stay friends with her, and just be there for her as a friend would.