Healing a broken heart

[Skuffyshootster]

Kill her boyfriend?

 

[Craig FTW]

Take solace in the fact that you'll be the 'male friend'. Boyfriends HATE the Male Friend. The Male Friend is that guy their girlfriend insists is just-a-friend, but the boyfriend knows that he likes her and is constantly wary. Eventually, the Male Friend drives a wedge between the two.

Sadly though, you are just-a-friend. But you can at least piss off her boyfriend.

On another note, can boys and girls ever be in a truly platonic friendship? I don't think so. Not truly platonic. I think at one point or another at least one of them will have thought about "it". I've yet to be proven wrong.

btw I agree here, I've been not liked as the 'male friend' it's fun as hell =D
I think it's the other way around for me though, my best friend's girlfriend doesn't like me.
The 'Male Friend' of The Boyfriend. how odd.

And also I have never thought about 'it' with this one not-totally-friend I know. although she bugs me, and seems like she thinks about "it" much more than I would(even though I wouldn't)

Oh the girlfriend often doesn't like her boyfriend's friends. Same goes the other way.

And your "friend"... Well my point is still proven. She's thought about it with you, i.e. not completely platonic.

Hmm well-played sir.
Yet I may trump you, as I have one friend who we are completely friends, I've never thought about it, I know she hasn't, we've known each otehr forever and she's never made the SLIGHTEST hint of even flirting. And I don't mind one bit.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Kill her boyfriend?

Don't think that'd work.

 

[AkJay]

We all go through this, the best you can do is quite your bitching.

 

[Akai Shizuku]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

I know how you feel, dude. Let's be honest here, relationships rarely work out these days. Just wait until she dumps him (and she will) and you're home free.

If by some divine anti-miracle it does work out, you'll have to move on. Keep in mind that this is not likely. When she does dump him, this will be an excellent opportunity for you to comfort her and give her all the emotional support she needs to realize that you are the one and blah blah blah all that mushy stuff makes me want to vomit.

Good luck.

 

[pumpkinlad]

The same thing happened to me, so just be patient and try again later, or move on, either way, good luck

 

[CuddlyCombine]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

I think you should keep trying, if you know that's where your heart is. I had the same thing happen with my now-girlfriend; we were best friends for an excess of four years, and she knew I felt strongly about her, but she didn't reciprocate and went out with other guys. It hurt me incredibly every time, but I persevered because I knew I loved her. Now we're together and couldn't be happier.

So, I say, ignore people telling you to give up; that's an option you should choose only if you know it's something that you'll probably find in a short length of time. But if you have so much in common and feel so connected, keep trying. And remember to always be there for her; don't let your anger and pain get in the way of your relationship. Show her how much she means to you.

Gym = solution. Seriously, works magic. Want quicker results, get yourself some protein whey etc depending on your build.
Then, go to a designer clothes store (Diesel etc), and get a good haircut from somewhere swish like T&G.
Sounds....kinda gay...but really makes a world of difference. Though, at your age, you should just be burning the days away on Halo or something. You'll kick yourself if you don't, ironically =p

That disgusts me. I can't think of the kind of person who would do everything they could to look good just to attract girls. If they don't feel attraction to you and you're a skinny nerd, then they don't feel attraction to you at all. I don't care if they slobber over your muscle-bound body a year later; that's purely shallow and meaningless.

That's just my opinion, of course. I respect that you have your own.

 

[Zildjin81]

Killing spree!

Or wait and see I guess. Yeah that could work too.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

You were to slow, hit yourself on the face for it.

... Wouldn't that hurt?

 

[AntiChrist]

Does she consider you a close friend? Does she trust you with her emotinal life and does she hold your guidance in high regards? If so, then you might be able to tamper with her feelings toward her boyfriend. Use every flaw (trivial or not) she brings up regarding him during your conversations in order to make her question their relationship. The keywords are: Subtlety and patience.

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Does she consider you a close friend? Does she trust you with her emotinal life and does she hold your guidance in high regards? If so, then you might be able to tamper with her feelings toward her boyfriend. Use every flaw (trivial or not) she brings up regarding him during your conversations in order to make her question their relationship. The keywords are: Subtlety and patience.

That sounds evil. I wouldn't want to mess with her happiness. She's just not some girl I want, I care about her, she's a great friend, and I wouldn't try to mess with her head just so I can get what I want. That's sick. What kind of person would I be if I did that?

 

[Megacherv]

(I'm fully aware that I'm asking for love advice on a game forum and that I'm just 15, teenage thing bla bla bla, and that you're probably sick of it, but I had to)

So here's the deal. I've been having a huge crush on a girl I know for some time. I get all nervous and such when I'm around her. We're pretty close friends and we enjoy each other's company. But, I just found out, that she's just got a boyfriend. Obviously this feels like a fucking stab in the gut. And I just don't know what to do. She's one of the few persons that knows me really well, we have almost everything in common. And now, I feel crushed. What do my fellow Escapists think?

Don't worry man, it's not personal. She probably doesn't know that you like her that much.

There there, we'll take care of you, don't you worry

 

[TriggerUnhappy]

If you really are pissed about her having a boyfriend, take solace in the thought that they probably won't remain together for the duration of High School, and even if they do, how many Escapists here ACTUALLY knew someone who made a High School relationship work outside of High School?

I don't think that's going to help cheer him up. As for your problem OP, I'm in a similar situation that's just as odd. I'm not even best friends with the girl (we talk for around 10 seconds a day, and occasionally text each other for a few hours), and yet she trusts me with some of her closest secrets, confuses the hell out of me. It's quite frustrating for me though, in that my rational side has known for quite some time that it's impossible, however the feelings never seem to disappear. Hell, I even tried to avoid her for awhile to get her off my mind, and she tracked me down and said she "Missed talking to me". It's not like I even told the girl I liked her. Regardless, you should probably try and get your mind off her or even talk to her less if that helps, just try not to get hung up on it. Best of luck to ya man.

 

[Valiance]

Just think, if you told her how you felt about her all that time ago, you would have made out alright.

Inaction is the worst course of action, I'm sure we all know it from experience, and here's your first one.

 

[similar.squirrel]

I have this problem in reverse. A good friend of mine is smitten with my girlfriend, and I don't want either to get hurt.

 

[Sigel]

You could get over it, but you could also go for the girl as well. Does she know how you feel about her? Did you ever ask her out? Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Plus if you are all fifteen, they will probably break up relatively quickly.

 

[Pegghead]

Is the guy a complete ass-hat who mistreats her? Then challenge him to fisticuffs! If he's a nice bloke who treats her well then leave it alone, if you truly wanted what was best for her you'd let it be.

 

[silasbufu]

from what you have said so far..she seems to see you as "THE FRIEND" ..so there's not much of a chance from here on..advice is useless; the heart wants what it wants..just go on

 

[Arkhangelsk]

Thanks for all the advice. I still feel like a total idiot for not telling her in time, at least I'd have a fraction of a chance then. But we live and learn (and shiv and burn). But I still have this nagging urge to tell her how I feel even when it's too late. Just get it off my chest and move on. Just feels so bad to hold it in. I've always repressed many things on my mind and it's probably not the healthy way to go. Normally I don't have anyone to talk to about this sort of thing.

 

[AntiChrist]

That sounds evil. I wouldn't want to mess with her happiness. She's just not some girl I want, I care about her, she's a great friend, and I wouldn't try to mess with her head just so I can get what I want. That's sick. What kind of person would I be if I did that?

Unless you're planning on mistreating her if the two of you hook up, I fail to see how winning her over will bring her unhappiness. Quite the contrary, if she falls in love with you, you would both prefer that she dumbs her current boyfriend.

It's a win-win situation, really.