Help me see into the mind of a guy.
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He's interested. And frightened out of his wits to ask you out. He might be on a web forum somewhere asking its denizens "There's this girl in my college math class, I think she might be interested but I'm afraid to ask her out HALP!"
You've got three choices:
1) Go take the initiative and ask him out. Might not be ladylike but he'll be putty in your hands.
2) Wait around for him to ask you out. Hope you're ready to wait until graduation.
3) Take a third option and go for a guy with more confidence.
You've got three choices:
1) Go take the initiative and ask him out. Might not be ladylike but he'll be putty in your hands.
2) Wait around for him to ask you out. Hope you're ready to wait until graduation.
3) Take a third option and go for a guy with more confidence.
Either A: He thinks you're hawt, and wants to sleep with you, or B. He has a crush on you. These are, in fact, two different things. Or, he is just really easily distracted (doubtful, he he keeps looking at you specifically).Chancie said:
Go up and say "Hi! I don't think we've met!" If he goes all smooth and Casanova on you, it's probably situation A. If he reacts normally or slightly panicky, it's probably situation B.
Yes. Staring does equal interest usually. Sometimes not, but the way you described it it sounds like it does mean interest.Chancie said:
Maybe he thinks you're hideous and, like a car wreck, he just can't look away... I never claimed to be helpful.
not really i like this girl and i dont have any serious problemsKobie said:
other than that this crush would be social suicide to ask out/go after (she's a popular girl and im a bit of a nerd ).i would say talk to him in a non awkward way e.g can a borrow you "x" and then you can see over time if he's descent.What you have to realise is that males tend to think with their reproductive organs rather then their head...So based on what you said and my own personal experiance: I'd have to say yes, that guy has a thing for you. (Either that or he's just a weirdo)
Don't worry, guys do the stare thing as a meek sign of affection. That, or sexual interest.
I suggest speaking to him on a formal level.
I suggest speaking to him on a formal level.
As much I would like a girl to offer to spend time with me by asking such a thing, I would not recommend that Chancie to do that.Plurralbles said:
Seriously? She doesn't even know the guy, and you are asking her to invite the guy back to her place. I've never been in a relationship before, but I'm pretty sure in a proper relationship, the guy isn't invited in on the first meeting/date, heck you are actually recommending it before they go out on a date.
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Confront the guy, ask him what he is staring at. Chances are he likes you, I've done the same thing with girls I've been interested. I don't do it anymore, because every time I have gotten up the courage to ask a girl out, she has shot me down. My self-esteem is shot so I'm regrouping for the time being.Chancie said:
I would say he is shy, I know I am, because again I have been there. There is a small chance that the guy is a creep, just be cautious with what you say. If he is interested in you, and you aren't in a relationship, give him something that will give him hope, nothing big, just maybe offer to have lunch at the campus cafeteria or something like that. Then if you don't like him, tell him you are not interested, because then you will know him some from talking to him at the lunch meeting. It shows that you are the type of girl that doesn't turn people down just because of looks.
Over the past few years, every girl that I have asked out has said she is either in a relationship, married, or getting married. I feel even I couldn't be that unlucky with who I'm interested in.
What I am saying is, be honest, because that is what a guy truly wants to hear, the truth. I've heard many times that guys love the chase, the games that take place when trying to get with a girl. That is a lie. A proper guy just wants to get to know a girl before he gets into a relationship. For me, that comes before any thoughts of dating or anything else that could come after. Yes, I will look at a girl and think she is hot or whatever, but the most important thoughts for me are, does she have a nice personality or does she like anything I like.
Okay, I went a little overboard, but only because, if this guy is like me, a shy person, I sympathize with his problems.
I agree. If people didn't actually go around doing perversively cruel and twisted things like this then we would have quite a few less shy people like the person the OP mentioned.feather240 said:
My guess would be
1) Yes, he's attracted to you,
2) He's probably has as little experience with the opposite sex as you describe, and
3) He feels, to some extent, that it's better not to seek your company than risk hurt feelings, rejection, and/or to look foolish in front of his peers.
If you want his attention (which I don't really think has been clarified), you would probably help allay his fears a lot if you learned his name and just said "Hello . How are you doing on the assignment?" (Or some such.)
1) Yes, he's attracted to you,
2) He's probably has as little experience with the opposite sex as you describe, and
3) He feels, to some extent, that it's better not to seek your company than risk hurt feelings, rejection, and/or to look foolish in front of his peers.
If you want his attention (which I don't really think has been clarified), you would probably help allay his fears a lot if you learned his name and just said "Hello . How are you doing on the assignment?" (Or some such.)
I would recommend something more than just burrowing something from the guy. If lending things to girls was a way to show them I'm a nice guy for dating, or that they were interested in getting to know me, than I should have had over 50 different girlfriends in the past 5 years, hundreds in my lifetime. I'm still at 0 girlfriends, only a few girls that are friends, not close either.Flimsii said:not really i like this girl and i dont have any serious problemsKobie said:
I say ask the guy what he is staring at, have a real talk with him. A real conversation with a guy will give enough information on what a guy is like, not just the conversation, his eyes will tell all, where he is lieing or a sleaze. The guy lending her something will tell her nothing. Even jerks or creeps let girls borrow things.
There is a thing called a profile, everyone here has one. If people don't state their gender in thread that requires people to know what gender they are, there is a good chance that they have it shown in their profile and that is why they didn't state it.Plazmatic said:
Probably both.NeutralDrow said:
Considering most guys just ogle women and don't really have any intentions of dating them--just gawking at them.
But he's a kid and from what she says he's not a creep and is just shy.
Whatever comes next is so self-explanatory; I feel like if I have to tell you what to do in that situation that it would mean very bad things for the continuation of our race.
