I'm pretty sure we all can agree arguing with drunks is pointless waste of time and you can never win. My problem is the person I keep fighting with isn't drunk but uses the same illogical arguments. And lives in my house.
If you want the back story, pretty much my brother is a failure who can't live on his own because he needs someone to baby him. He's 22 dropped out of college 4 times, isn't able to hold a job and likes to get shitfaced and use to do hardcore drugs. He's also a slob that destroys anyplace he lives. He moved back home and is getting progressively more annoying. If my family kicks him out he tries to kill himself (and I don't mean on the street, I mean they bought him an apartment and forced him in a dorm).
Now he is doing better. After a run in with the law he's gotten off drugs. He has a job that my parent have to wake him up for and tell him to go. He takes his meds as long as my mom leaves out his dosage with a note (otherwise he'll take them all at once to get high). He also signed up for classes, but never went and failed every one. Then he brags about how he's a responsible adult when instead of paying back the loans he has, he buys videogames and booze. If you tell him a responsible adult gets up on his own, he throws a fit saying that's to hard or that he did it once.
How do you tell a 22 year old he's not allowed to eat in his room because he doesn't bring down his dishes, cooks to much and leaves it to mold which smells awful, and he keeps spilling shit on the stairs. I've asked him nicely but he runs on drunk logic and goes "I'm an adult you can't tell me what to do." to the point my parents gave up trying to argue with him because it is exactly like arguing wit a drunk. Even if you point out exactly why he'll just come up with excuses, "I was drunk when I wiped that mustard on the wall." That doesn't make it okay, but he doesn't realize that and I can't figure out how to make him.
If you think I should move out, I don't have the money and go to college full time. My parents blew all their money on him.
If you want the back story, pretty much my brother is a failure who can't live on his own because he needs someone to baby him. He's 22 dropped out of college 4 times, isn't able to hold a job and likes to get shitfaced and use to do hardcore drugs. He's also a slob that destroys anyplace he lives. He moved back home and is getting progressively more annoying. If my family kicks him out he tries to kill himself (and I don't mean on the street, I mean they bought him an apartment and forced him in a dorm).
Now he is doing better. After a run in with the law he's gotten off drugs. He has a job that my parent have to wake him up for and tell him to go. He takes his meds as long as my mom leaves out his dosage with a note (otherwise he'll take them all at once to get high). He also signed up for classes, but never went and failed every one. Then he brags about how he's a responsible adult when instead of paying back the loans he has, he buys videogames and booze. If you tell him a responsible adult gets up on his own, he throws a fit saying that's to hard or that he did it once.
How do you tell a 22 year old he's not allowed to eat in his room because he doesn't bring down his dishes, cooks to much and leaves it to mold which smells awful, and he keeps spilling shit on the stairs. I've asked him nicely but he runs on drunk logic and goes "I'm an adult you can't tell me what to do." to the point my parents gave up trying to argue with him because it is exactly like arguing wit a drunk. Even if you point out exactly why he'll just come up with excuses, "I was drunk when I wiped that mustard on the wall." That doesn't make it okay, but he doesn't realize that and I can't figure out how to make him.
If you think I should move out, I don't have the money and go to college full time. My parents blew all their money on him.