sex isn't supposed to be about feeling. or doing it with someone just because you want to or can. its about how you feel with that person. what you feel FOR that person. your trading bodily fluids with that person. its not something you can just do and close your eyes to. otherwise its known as fucking. and that's asinine.
what you little kids think is "love" is really just lust. why? because once sex starts to get a bit boring, your either cheating on your partner, or fighting because its all you can do. you cant stand one another. but your still having sex.
here's some rules for you all to go by.
1.) no sex on the first date (or day).
2.) do not say "i love you" unless you know you do. if you THINK you do, then go off by yourself for awhile and think about it. if you can find fault with her and STILL love her, then ok. it might be real. if not, and you keep saying "she's perfect" your just lying to yourself. being able to live with another person's faults is admirable, and usually indicative that you care about that person quite a bit.
3.) get to know this person. don't pull a George Washington and ask to marry her (or have sex with her) after 3 weeks (or 3 days).
im not saying stop having sex. what im saying is have sex for the right reasons. don't just whore yourself out there and try to bang every "piece of ass" that happens along your way.
and for fuck's sake. wear a condom.
also: 21th? seriously? this is why im saying what im saying. it is 21ST.