How to apologize to my sister?


Oct 28, 2023
Hello. This is kinda a complicated story and I didn't know where to put it, but I think this place fits the best.

I am 32 years old and I have a 15 year old sister. I have been raising her since she was 10 and our parents died.

A couple days back we were at a gathering with multiple people. You should know that I am very awkward socially and I say a lot of dumb stuff without thinking it in the moment.

So while we were at this gathering, violence against children became a topic, and thinking I was being funny I said that if I had a child I would beat them and even worse, I started describing that I would put hot pepper dust in their eyes as punishment among other pretty awful things.

Now I would never do this, and I think violence against children is awful, but for some goddamn reason I thought I was being funny, probably because of my very poor social skills.

When I said this, people seemed offended, so I shut up and minded my business.

However when we left, my sister (who was present) started berating me that I embarassed her and now the people there think I am doing this to her and some of them even came up to her to ask if she is ok and if there are any problems at home.

She is very upset with me currently and she says she is ashamed of meeting those people again because they believe she is being abused and she called me an idiot.

You know what, I am an idiot, and not only have I said something awful, but it never occured to me that since my sister is still a child they will think Im talking about her.

Now I want to ask you to maybe give me some advice on how to apologize to her and make things better, because I never saw her this upset before.


Became a mass murderer for your sake
Sep 23, 2010
Just off-screen
Say you are an idiot and are sorry, it'll blow over eventually. Buy her an ice cream. She's 15, everything is the end of the world for her. You just said something dumb, I don't think it's such a big deal. It's not like you accidentally molested her or knocked her off a second floor balcony into a dumpster full of used syringes or something.


Elite Member
Oct 22, 2016
Do what we did during COVID: "I'm doing [x/activity you enjoy] to [show support for the NHS/apologise to my sister]."