Let me just tell you this as a lady.
We aren't puzzles, we aren't enigmas, and we aren't some sort of video game course. We are people. And as people we come in all sorts of personalities, quirks, interests, passions, dislikes, etc.
There is the stereotype of if you want to show a women you love her give her roses. Me- personally- I like videogames, and plushies (especially Pokemon and dragon ones) you give me one of those and I'm considering you someone who has taken the time to really know me.
I don't care about whether or not you have model abs. As long as your clean and well kempt I'm okay hanging around you. Show some fucking personality. Being nice is only a baseline standard for me tolerating being around you. But it gives me nothing to go on. Period.
And honestly it's different from person to person. The only way to get yourself a girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever is to first and foremost GET TO KNOW THE PERSON. Know what they like, dislike. Know their ticks. Snuff out any major negatives that you can see grate on you as time goes on. (Does she like to leave her junk on the table and never pick up after herself? Does that piss you off) Make sure that when you do get angry with them, that you can always bounce back from it. Nothing is happy roses in relationships. You should be able to get pissed at your spouse and deep down know that in a few days time you both can talk out the issue and put it past them.
There are no "rules" There are never rules to dating. Only guidelines. From there it is up to you to find out about this person you covet. AND to find out if you love them in a shallow sense, or if you can truly see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person.
We aren't puzzles, we aren't enigmas, and we aren't some sort of video game course. We are people. And as people we come in all sorts of personalities, quirks, interests, passions, dislikes, etc.
There is the stereotype of if you want to show a women you love her give her roses. Me- personally- I like videogames, and plushies (especially Pokemon and dragon ones) you give me one of those and I'm considering you someone who has taken the time to really know me.
I don't care about whether or not you have model abs. As long as your clean and well kempt I'm okay hanging around you. Show some fucking personality. Being nice is only a baseline standard for me tolerating being around you. But it gives me nothing to go on. Period.
And honestly it's different from person to person. The only way to get yourself a girlfriend/boyfriend/whatever is to first and foremost GET TO KNOW THE PERSON. Know what they like, dislike. Know their ticks. Snuff out any major negatives that you can see grate on you as time goes on. (Does she like to leave her junk on the table and never pick up after herself? Does that piss you off) Make sure that when you do get angry with them, that you can always bounce back from it. Nothing is happy roses in relationships. You should be able to get pissed at your spouse and deep down know that in a few days time you both can talk out the issue and put it past them.
There are no "rules" There are never rules to dating. Only guidelines. From there it is up to you to find out about this person you covet. AND to find out if you love them in a shallow sense, or if you can truly see yourself spending the rest of your life with this person.