First of all let me say that I am in favour of equality.
The problem I have personally is that when someone who just happens to be a feminist does something stupid and is called out on it, people defend them by claiming that it's all about gender, and how those with issues are just being sexist.
I have issues with Anita Sarkeesian not because she's a woman. She's a feminist who judges an entire medium in her videos based on fallacies, poorly thought out research and does so using (Sometimes using really outdated) examples that barely fit into her argument.
If someone like, say, Susan Arendt did something similar to Feminist Frequency, pointing out the flaws of the industry, that'd be fine because she could be trusted to know the ins and outs of the industry, and not be patronising doing so, but Anita?
She doesn't deserve hatred for her videos, they're just not good as educational tools.
As for Zoe Quinn. It's not that she slept with 5 guys. Sleeping with 5 guys would be fine if she didn't have a boyfriend (she did) but that's a private matter.
The issue is that Zoe Quinn allegedly framed groups like 4Chan and Wizardchan in order to get sympathy* and then went on to perform sexual favours with influential people in the games industry to gain publicity for her game.
This is not a coincidence that men from both Kotaku and Rock, Paper, Shotgun had sex with her. If these allegations are true (and given previous knowledge, we're more likely to agree with the Ex's interpretation (because he hasn't lied about being targeted by Wizardchan, or about being hacked by 4Chan)) then these acts were calculated moves on her part in order to further her career in the industry.
THAT is the issue at hand here, not that Zoe slept with 5 guys, it's that the guys were members of the game journalism industry who's corruption has just been laid out for the world to see.
Zoe Quinn is just at the epicentre of it. She deserves the flack she is getting. The only reason the 5 men aren't yet is because
1. they've (tactifully) remained silent,
2. Zoe is already guilty of lying, see the * + numerous internet sources.
and 3. Because we're is still soaking up the information, and if all roads lead back to Zoe, why wouldn't she be the first target?
After a consensus is reached on what happened, then the process can begin on the 5 guys. Who knew? Who should apologize? Who should resign? etc.
Unlike some of the journalists, Zoe also doesn't have an editor to act as a shield, so Zoe is getting the full force of this with little defence other than her own, aside from Phil Fish (which God knows what that amounts to at this point).
*and we know this because 4Chan denies involvement. Guys. 4Chan? They never deny shit. Their general course of action is to either pridefully accept the accusation, or blame 9Gag or Reddit. That didn't happen in this case.
And by the way, I'm seeing lately in these gender discussions some people coming in and claiming that those not on the side of women are all 'neckbeards' or 'immature', creating strawmen and making sweeping generalizations about the opposing party.
Can we please cut this shit out? I'm pretty sure the sword cuts both ways and assuming one thing on an entire group of people (men specifically) and then acting on those actions by being hostile is pretty much the definition of sexism.
Anyway, that's my opinion, feel free to disagree, but I don't know how I could express my views any more clearly.