I saw my best friend naked

[LooK iTz Jinjo]

Yeah I think if you've ever played sport at any level about Under 10's then you've probably seen some of your friends naked. As a man that has played senior football for almost a decade, it's safe to say I've seen more than my fair share of dick.

I think for a mature adult with a friend you know well, this really isn't an issue.

 

[Username Redacted]

mostly due to my roommates lacking in the pointy bits that could damage areas normally covered by clothing.

Are we talking about dicks or...?

We are talking about dick, singular as I only have the one penis and shoulders as one of the cats views humans who're crouching as platforms. Protip: you don't want a cat trying to balance on your shoulders before inevitably sliding down your back without a shirt on.

How on earth do you deal with public changing rooms... ? Loads of the same genitals as you floating about in them!

It sounds as if, to me, that you are making a deal about nothing. Bodies are bodies. She has the same bits as you... what's the problem?

Changing rooms are only kind of a problem when the really elderly gents decide to go what I like (?) to call the full Captain Morgan. Serves as stark reminder of our own mortality while leaving approximately nothing to the imagination.

 

[AMMO Kid]

This past summer I lived in a house with four other guys and I was naked all the time. I slept naked even though I had a roommate. I would eat breakfast naked in the morning. I would watch movies with no clothes on. It was kind of a running joke. I'm a fan of shaved bush and one of the other guys would brag all the time about how he had never shaved his, so one day I just walked around the house naked complaining about how cold my dick was and it just went from there. I guess it's different for guys because we all thought it was hilarious.

 

[Lightspeaker]

It's only as embarrassing as you yourself make it. It's just the human body, and it's not like she's a complete stranger either. So I don't really see a problem. Besides, you two live together. It was bound to happen eventually.

Pretty much this from the first page sums it all up in my opinion.

I guess its a bit different for everyone but for me...well I've never had that much of a nudity taboo. Okay I don't parade around naked but if someone sees me naked in passing its not really a big deal. I was never brought up to see nudity as some "big thing" really in my household (hell, we rarely even shut the bathroom door when someone is showering or taking a bath) and that's been reinforced by me doing a bunch of theatrical work over the years, in which case you can rarely afford to be too "shy" about being naked or semi-naked in front of people because sometimes you just have to change...right there and then. And everyone just gets on with what they were doing like a mature person.

Basically if you let it make you awkward then you'll be awkward about it. If your friend felt embarrassed then the apology was warranted, but if she has accepted your apology then you shouldn't let it get to you.

In all honestly though I'm surprised your friend was that embarrassed about it considering she apparently goes around naked so often. I mean...it was virtually inevitable it would happen.

 

[sanquin]

Pretty much this from the first page sums it all up in my opinion.

I guess its a bit different for everyone but for me...well I've never had that much of a nudity taboo. Okay I don't parade around naked but if someone sees me naked in passing its not really a big deal. I was never brought up to see nudity as some "big thing" really in my household (hell, we rarely even shut the bathroom door when someone is showering or taking a bath) and that's been reinforced by me doing a bunch of theatrical work over the years, in which case you can rarely afford to be too "shy" about being naked or semi-naked in front of people because sometimes you just have to change...right there and then. And everyone just gets on with what they were doing like a mature person.

Basically if you let it make you awkward then you'll be awkward about it. If your friend felt embarrassed then the apology was warranted, but if she has accepted your apology then you shouldn't let it get to you.

In all honestly though I'm surprised your friend was that embarrassed about it considering she apparently goes around naked so often. I mean...it was virtually inevitable it would happen.

Huh, I come from a similar situation. Family never really locked/closed doors when on the toilet or taking a bath. And other people just went on with their thing. Same with friends. Some of them have no problem swimming topless, even though they might barely know some people. Because when it's a friend of a friend, it's all good. And hey, I have to admit, I find a confident woman not afraid to show some skin just because others might see more attractive. Nude beaches, topless sunbathing on any beach, and changing in groups are actually quite common here. Plus I go on LARPs, where seeing people outside their tents in their underwear is normal, since the tents are usually too cramped for changing into outfits.

So in short, I guess upbringing has a lot to do with it. If you were brought up by parents that saw the human body as something to be ashamed of in front of others, you'll be likely to take over that habit as well. It'll probably be difficult to break through a mentality that you were brought up with, but I'm sure the OP and her friend can work things out.

 

[greatcheezer2021]

geez loueez just talk to your friend.

ive seen one of my best friends stark nude, and there was nothing to be thought of it. and we had only been roommates for less than a month, let alone know each other only for a few weeks. hell i even drawn one of my female friends nude. whatever you are worried about, you can reach some closure/ or compromise through communication.

if something bothers you that much, just talk to your friend until they understand whats bothering you. talk to one of your other friends until they understand. if that doesnt work then you should seek help.


when around naked bodies, dont act like a fucking hyena.

 

[zumbledum]

What should I do to get over it? I know with time we'll come to ignore the incident but I wanna solve it, not ignore it. I feel like it's just me who feels awkward and I don't know if talking about it is the best because she seems absolutely fine about it (she's a bit of a tomboy so I don't know if this has happened to her before with someone else besides her boyfriend...?)

Has anyone gone through something like this?

well ive seen most of my friends either naked , having sex or on the throne over the long years of communal living but i cant say its ever been more than a moments amusement. i would think if its bothering you the thing to do is to tell her what you just told us and talk about it.

 

[sanquin]

I would think if its bothering you the thing to do is to tell her what you just told us and talk about it.

Good advise as well. Posting this on the net rather than talking to your friend about it could be seen as 'avoiding the problem'. I'm not saying I'm judging. It's human nature to want to avoid things they're uncomfortable with, unconsciously or not. I've done it too, and will probably do so again in the future. But the only thing to really solve this is to talk to your friend, and tell them what you've told us.

 

[Joccaren]

I'm with, seemingly, most other people on this.
What's the big deal?

Here's a secret: I shower naked.
Actually, if my family wouldn't shoot me, I'd spend my entire day naked. Nudity ain't a thing. If it wasn't illegal, I'd be of two minds to just pull 'em down in public and take care of myself. Seriously. Its a bit of skin. It ain't sacred. You've been seen naked before, and you will countless times in the future. Unless you're planning on being a nun and taking a vow of celibacy, but even then I wouldn't be surprised if you were seen naked again.

Unless you're hyper self conscious about your body, I can't see the big deal. If you are, then I can't see why you're hyper self conscious about your body. Don't care what its like, if you're able to work and live with it, all's good.

So, yeah, honestly, not seeing the big deal. It'd be like walking in and seeing a room-mate calling their family. Yeah, a bit of private time needed, but not something to get all worked up over.
For desensitisation training, I recommend an hour of porn twice a day. See enough naked people, you'll realise just how little of a deal it is.

 

[Artina89]

One of my house mates walked in on me when I was in the shower about a year ago. The lock on the bathroom door was broken and so we had taken to writing a note on the bathroom door when it was occupied, well my house mate just walked in because he really needed the loo. We didn't make a big deal about it and we are still house mates to this day. It isn't that big of a deal really unless you make it one, but that is just my opinion.

 

[Belaam]

Um... calm down.

My wife lived in a college dorm where five women shared one big bathroom. She was on the bottom bunk and her roommate slept nude on the top bunk - pretty much saw her nude from inches away any time she opened her eyes at the wrong time in the morning. In fact, I'm pretty sure she's seen all of her old roommates/friend naked. I've seen same-sex friends naked in Basic Training. And mixed gender friends naked swimming at hot springs near the town I grew up or at one or another friend's homes in jacuzzis/pools. Oh yeah, high school P.E. showers.

In fact, it's starting to feel unusual that you haven't seen her naked before.

You'll be fine. She'll be fine.

I'm not even sure what the worst case scenario is here.