CrazyBlaze said:
I think if for a long term relationship yes. Maybe not right away but eventually. Its respectful to their partner that they don't hide something major like that. If their partner didn't know and after ten years of being together and knowing a lot about the other, or at least thinking they do, and their partner finds out the will wonder what other secrtets the other is hiding and it could take a long time for their relationship to recover. I think maybe after one or two years they should tell their partner. If their partner really loves them then it should not matter and eventually they will come to terms with it. At least much quicker than if they waited a long time to tell them.
It should be right from the start, that way the other person can't back-out right away and save themselves the time that would be wasted in a relationship that would go nowhere because that other person would have never been for such a relationship.
I mean seriously, you said one or two years would be fine. That would be outrageous, that is a long time, time that could have been spent in pursuit of a relationship that meets their standards. Why even waste people's time by hiding information from them. It's rather selfish isn't it.
Oh, so the "woman" really likes a guy, and wants to know if a relationship is really possible. So "she" hides the the fact that she was once a guy, to find out what the other guy is like before revealing the information. It is basically lying to that person and taking up his valuable time with something that he most likely won't approve of and will explode with rage when he finds out that his relationship has been a lie.
Why does said "woman" have to date a guy for a year to see what he is like, and then reveal the information. "She" can still get the information by revealing the fact right off so that the guy can immediately deny "her" of he wants to. Why is "she" entitled to waste time in someone's life because she is interested that person.
If I had been duped by such a person, I might forgive a few days if nothing major happened, but beyond that I would sue that person so fast "she" wouldn't be able to get word in before she is in court. If there isn't a legal precedent about such a thing, I would do everything in my power to create one. I would find it negligent of "her" to not reveal such a thing to me, because if the relationship did last awhile, that would mean that "she" was leading me on, and since I'm that kind of person, I would have spent money on "her", which would be money wasted because I now find that it was a sham of a relationship. Knowing myself, I would definitely have emotional damages. If there isn't a legal precedent somewhere in that, I think the world is insane for not having one.
So, if a person doesn't reveal such a thing on day one, "she" is a bad person. Don't waste people's time by leading them on.