Is this how we should handle Dick Pics?

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TheLaughingMagician said:
Can you not tell the difference between two people who are intimate sharing pictures of themselves and sending a stranger an unsolicited dick pic? Do you think those two scenarios are basically the same?
Can you tell me the difference between those two situations purely based on the image of a penis?

Because, I can't, and given revenge porn is illegal, I imagine it's pretty difficult for any justice system to so too. So, how about "Don't send naked images of people to other people without their consent"?
 

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Did they strike you as particularly young?
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It's really bizarre. I wonder if this is tied to specific demographics or social circles or if this is becoming the norm.
I dunno, I commented as such in my initial post, but I have no idea. Seeing as I'm 39, married, and not in the dating market, I can't really comment what is normal protocol with the young kids in the dating circuit. But when I was still dating, sexting was fairly common, but, at least for me, I waited until the mutual sexual attraction was established before we started sending clips back and forth. I sure as hell never opened with that when first meeting a woman, though how long I would wait would depend on how quickly she was wanting to get to the sexy-time. Some of the girls I dated were quite happy to get to that stage very early on, others, not so much. But once they were like "yep, send me that pic", it was on.

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Dick pics in and of themselves aren't a big deal, just like tit pics, or vagina pics aren't either. The act itself devoid of any malice. If the person is sending them unsolicited, that's a different story.
I didn't specify unsolicited, but that was my point.
Just wanted to clarify, your wording seemed to be speaking to the broader act entirely.
 

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The Lunatic said:
TheLaughingMagician said:
Can you not tell the difference between two people who are intimate sharing pictures of themselves and sending a stranger an unsolicited dick pic? Do you think those two scenarios are basically the same?
Can you tell me the difference between those two situations purely based on the image of a penis?

Because, I can't, and given revenge porn is illegal, I imagine it's pretty difficult for any justice system to so too. So, how about "Don't send naked images of people to other people without their consent"?
Fair point, as this form of retaliation isn't exactly like "Telling people that someone flashed me", it's more, grabbing the guy who's flashing you, and then turning him around to a public and saying "HEY! LOOK! He showed me his penis! Look at it! This is what he showed me!" Which, you know, they might not have wanted to see said penis, just because you felt justified in showing it to them as a form of payback.
 

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The Lunatic said:
TheLaughingMagician said:
Can you not tell the difference between two people who are intimate sharing pictures of themselves and sending a stranger an unsolicited dick pic? Do you think those two scenarios are basically the same?
Can you tell me the difference between those two situations purely based on the image of a penis?

Because, I can't, and given revenge porn is illegal, I imagine it's pretty difficult for any justice system to so too. So, how about "Don't send naked images of people to other people without their consent"?
It is considered " cyber flashing", however sending dick pics via snail mail was covered under federal obscenity laws. The difference between the guy sending a dick pic to someone without their consent, and then that person who received it taking that same picture and sending it to someone else as " proof" this is what they did, is that one is being used as evidence to verify that this was what was done to them.

If the original sender did not get consent from the person they sent it to, the person they sent it to should not need the original sender's consent to use that photo as evidence. It should be treated as "cyber flashing":

http://www.bbc.com/news/technology-33889225

The public should be made aware that this person did such things, as with any other crime, and this includes their spouse, parents, neighbors, coworkers, employer... If they don't want people to know about it, they should not be doing this in the first place.
 

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Happyninja42 said:
The Lunatic said:
TheLaughingMagician said:
Can you not tell the difference between two people who are intimate sharing pictures of themselves and sending a stranger an unsolicited dick pic? Do you think those two scenarios are basically the same?
Can you tell me the difference between those two situations purely based on the image of a penis?

Because, I can't, and given revenge porn is illegal, I imagine it's pretty difficult for any justice system to so too. So, how about "Don't send naked images of people to other people without their consent"?
Fair point, as this form of retaliation isn't exactly like "Telling people that someone flashed me", it's more, grabbing the guy who's flashing you, and then turning him around to a public and saying "HEY! LOOK! He showed me his penis! Look at it! This is what he showed me!" Which, you know, they might not have wanted to see said penis, just because you felt justified in showing it to them as a form of payback.
I thought the article said she didn't do that... that she gave them the option to view the evidence however if they choose to. Which is different than forcing it upon them as was done to her.
 

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I'm a little conflicted on this.

You're job is to look sexy, to be honest I class you about the same as a prostitute ... you're selling your body for cash, at least hookers have to have some skill. You can be as dumb as bricks, as long as you continue to look sexy, you have a job.

Men find that erotic and if you think for one second that men aren't fapping over you, you're too naive.

On the other hand, what the fuck is wrong with these men. This women like to show skin, so I'll show her my skin (I really wanted to type "fore" there but I restrained my self). She will like that!".

They shouldn't be sending dick pics! Is the only reason flashing isn't more common is 'cos you can be arrested for it? 'cos this seems to support that idea.
 

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Lil devils x said:
Happyninja42 said:
The Lunatic said:
TheLaughingMagician said:
Can you not tell the difference between two people who are intimate sharing pictures of themselves and sending a stranger an unsolicited dick pic? Do you think those two scenarios are basically the same?
Can you tell me the difference between those two situations purely based on the image of a penis?

Because, I can't, and given revenge porn is illegal, I imagine it's pretty difficult for any justice system to so too. So, how about "Don't send naked images of people to other people without their consent"?
Fair point, as this form of retaliation isn't exactly like "Telling people that someone flashed me", it's more, grabbing the guy who's flashing you, and then turning him around to a public and saying "HEY! LOOK! He showed me his penis! Look at it! This is what he showed me!" Which, you know, they might not have wanted to see said penis, just because you felt justified in showing it to them as a form of payback.
I thought the article said she didn't do that... that she gave them the option to view the evidence however if they choose to. Which is different than forcing it upon them as was done to her.
Ah, did it? Well that's different. I was mostly responding to the flow of the conversation, not the article itself. As most people were simply debating the ethical nature of sending out pics to other people, as retaliation to being dick pic'd yourself. If she's at least putting up a warning, then I have no real issue with this, other than the fact that this is something for the authorities, and not sending it towards the legal agencies, is only going to make it take longer to get it acted on. If she's living in an area where it's not against the law, I still think the authorities should be involved. If only to establish a precedence of the problem. "Hey chief, look, we're getting like 3000 dick pic complaints a month, we really need to do something about this. The air is full of dicks flying back and forth! It's like a dickpocalypse out there!" and maybe then the various legal agencies would take it more seriously, and pass laws.
 

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omega 616 said:
I'm a little conflicted on this.

You're job is to look sexy, to be honest I class you about the same as a prostitute ... you're selling your body for cash, at least hookers have to have some skill. You can be as dumb as bricks, as long as you continue to look sexy, you have a job.

Men find that erotic and if you think for one second that men aren't fapping over you, you're too naive.

On the other hand, what the fuck is wrong with these men. This women like to show skin, so I'll show her my skin (I really wanted to type "fore" there but I restrained my self). She will like that!".

They shouldn't be sending dick pics! Is the only reason flashing isn't more common is 'cos you can be arrested for it? 'cos this seems to support that idea.
Model =\= having sex. Model =\= prostitute. We have all types of models... male, female, children, elderly.. that in no way makes them prostitutes. Being paid to have sex and being paid to have your picture taken is not the same thing at all, and I have difficulty understanding how anyone could compare the two. In fact, Prostitutes do not even have to " look attractive" to have sex for money. People pay for unattractive prostitutes all the time...
 

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inu-kun said:
How does one get in position to be sent dick picks anyway?
Step 1.) Sign up for any online dating platform with a female user name.
Step 2.) Wait.
Step 3.) Dicks.
 

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Lil devils x said:
omega 616 said:
I'm a little conflicted on this.

You're job is to look sexy, to be honest I class you about the same as a prostitute ... you're selling your body for cash, at least hookers have to have some skill. You can be as dumb as bricks, as long as you continue to look sexy, you have a job.

Men find that erotic and if you think for one second that men aren't fapping over you, you're too naive.

On the other hand, what the fuck is wrong with these men. This women like to show skin, so I'll show her my skin (I really wanted to type "fore" there but I restrained my self). She will like that!".

They shouldn't be sending dick pics! Is the only reason flashing isn't more common is 'cos you can be arrested for it? 'cos this seems to support that idea.
Model =\= having sex. Model =\= prostitute. We have all types of models... male, female, children, elderly.. that in no way makes them prostitutes. Being paid to have sex and being paid to have your picture taken is not the same thing at all, and I have difficulty understanding how anyone could compare the two. In fact, Prostitutes do not even have to " look attractive" to have sex for money. People pay for unattractive prostitutes all the time...
you're selling your body for cash
That is what I meant by it ... one does it for sex and the other (in this case) is doing it for sex appeal.
 
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I can't help feeling there's a bit of a double standard at play here. If a woman sent a man a naked picture and he sent it to her father, I expect the man would be ridiculed for being a misogynist creep. If it's wrong for a man to do, why is it okay for a woman to do it to a man? Surely it's wrong to do this irrespective of the genders of the parties involved? While I get the intent (humiliation can be a powerful tool in altering behaviour), I find myself troubled by the lack of consistency in responses.

Also, from what I understand, many jurisdiction are now introducing laws that make it an offence to retransmit a naked image sent to you by another person without their consent (to prevent revenge porn, blackmail, etc.), so surely this type of behaviour would run afoul of such laws in many places.
 

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Bilious Green said:
I can't help feeling there's a bit of a double standard at play here. If a woman sent a man a naked picture and he sent it to her father, I expect the man would be ridiculed for being a misogynist creep. If it's wrong for a man to do, why is it okay for a woman to do it to a man? Surely it's wrong to do this irrespective of the genders of the parties involved? While I get the intent (humiliation can be a powerful tool in altering behaviour), I find myself troubled by the lack of consistency in responses.
It's only a double standard if we actually have the other thing to measure.

Right now it's a "what if" based on an "I expect".
 

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What turns on a woman is confidence, personality and possibly good looks. Not a photo of a reproductive organ.
You forgot the 3 most important things...power, a big bank account, and the guy's popularity with other ladies.
 

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altnameJag said:
Bilious Green said:
I can't help feeling there's a bit of a double standard at play here. If a woman sent a man a naked picture and he sent it to her father, I expect the man would be ridiculed for being a misogynist creep. If it's wrong for a man to do, why is it okay for a woman to do it to a man? Surely it's wrong to do this irrespective of the genders of the parties involved? While I get the intent (humiliation can be a powerful tool in altering behaviour), I find myself troubled by the lack of consistency in responses.
It's only a double standard if we actually have the other thing to measure.

Right now it's a "what if" based on an "I expect".
No, a quick look at the news does show that women send unsolicited sexual pics, just not nearly as often as men.

http://thelibertarianrepublic.com/edward-snowden-plagued-with-unsolicited-nude-photos-of-women/

This article really seems to sum it up quite nicely:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2015/12/01/when-women-send-unsolicited-naked-pictures-it-isnt-revenge-its-harassment/
 

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the December King said:
altnameJag said:
Bilious Green said:
I can't help feeling there's a bit of a double standard at play here. If a woman sent a man a naked picture and he sent it to her father, I expect the man would be ridiculed for being a misogynist creep. If it's wrong for a man to do, why is it okay for a woman to do it to a man? Surely it's wrong to do this irrespective of the genders of the parties involved? While I get the intent (humiliation can be a powerful tool in altering behaviour), I find myself troubled by the lack of consistency in responses.
It's only a double standard if we actually have the other thing to measure.

Right now it's a "what if" based on an "I expect".
No, a quick look at the news does show that women send unsolicited sexual pics, just not nearly as often as men.

http://thelibertarianrepublic.com/edward-snowden-plagued-with-unsolicited-nude-photos-of-women/

This article really seems to sum it up quite nicely:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2015/12/01/when-women-send-unsolicited-naked-pictures-it-isnt-revenge-its-harassment/
So where's the double standard? The post article was saying "sending unsolicited vulva pics is a bad, don't do that, it's like sending a dick pic."
 

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This woman is some random stranger on the internet and this story makes for a feel good against harassment whether it's true or not but in no way is this a good idea.

Picture it likes this, would you want your friends or relatives trying to try and track down strangers who send them abuse? of course you wouldn't, if it's bad block, if it's really bad phone the police but more importantly try to avoid putting your real self out on sites beyond ones where you control who talks to you.

If this woman is real she probably got a lot more crap after this article, people will see this as a challenge.
 

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Charlie Kelly KOTR said:
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It's also really stupid, as it's only one small step from your phone to the internet as a whole. It's so easy for a phone or computer to be hacked and for potentially embarrassing photos to be leaked, it's just better to never take them in the first place. A good rule of thumb is to never have anything you don't want the entire world to see on a device connected to the internet.
That is a pretty insane way of thinking. I am not supposed to take some sexy pics for my SO because there is some kind of miniscule chance that they end up online?
Nonsense. Nobody is "hacking" my phone or my computer. The fact that you think "hackers" are on the prowl for John Does dick pics means you haven't the slightest idea about what is going on.

The way shit you take (pics or video alike) end up on the Internet is if your SO leaks it. It isn't because of any "hacker" browsing your "Nude Pics" folder on your desktop.
"That's an insane way of thinking!"
"I'm not gonna let the assholes win!"

-Jennifer Lawrence probably

Seriously, having your picture taken nude, or even your nude PORTRAIT PAINTED has a rich history of "leaking". If you're so young that you don't know that yet, take the scholarly route instead of the tradesman's, you'd regret the latter.

By the way, you scoff at "hackers" being "on the prowl for John Does dick pick", but... you remember the huge hack and dump of Snapchat? That was like... 85% John Doe dick.
Jennifer Lawrence is not a random John Doe. Jennifer Lawrence is an actor people obsess over.
You'll get a lot more mileage out of things if you read to the end.
I have no interest in looking at a snapchat dump of dicks but how many of those where from hacking some random unimportant persons stuff to find them rather than from the fuckwits who send dick picks to women they don't know?
 

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altnameJag said:
the December King said:
altnameJag said:
Bilious Green said:
I can't help feeling there's a bit of a double standard at play here. If a woman sent a man a naked picture and he sent it to her father, I expect the man would be ridiculed for being a misogynist creep. If it's wrong for a man to do, why is it okay for a woman to do it to a man? Surely it's wrong to do this irrespective of the genders of the parties involved? While I get the intent (humiliation can be a powerful tool in altering behaviour), I find myself troubled by the lack of consistency in responses.
It's only a double standard if we actually have the other thing to measure.

Right now it's a "what if" based on an "I expect".
No, a quick look at the news does show that women send unsolicited sexual pics, just not nearly as often as men.

http://thelibertarianrepublic.com/edward-snowden-plagued-with-unsolicited-nude-photos-of-women/

This article really seems to sum it up quite nicely:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/soloish/wp/2015/12/01/when-women-send-unsolicited-naked-pictures-it-isnt-revenge-its-harassment/
So where's the double standard? The post article was saying "sending unsolicited vulva pics is a bad, don't do that, it's like sending a dick pic."
... Yeah, sorry about that- you're right.

I'd like to see the solution to the problem made less sex- specific, I guess.
 

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Gengisgame said:
This woman is some random stranger on the internet and this story makes for a feel good against harassment whether it's true or not but in no way is this a good idea.

Picture it likes this, would you want your friends or relatives trying to try and track down strangers who send them abuse? of course you wouldn't, if it's bad block, if it's really bad phone the police but more importantly try to avoid putting your real self out on sites beyond ones where you control who talks to you.

If this woman is real she probably got a lot more crap after this article, people will see this as a challenge.
You do not want to control who talks to you in the business community, that is why you want yourself to " be out there" for people to contact you for business. That is how she gets contacted for many job offers, like many people in the business world. Doctors, lawyers, scientists, professors, engineers, models, actors, musicians, investors, inventors, marketers and MANY more careers this is how you do business. Telling people to " control who contacts you" is telling them to hide and harm their careers. Women should be able to do the same as men in an online environment and expect to not be targeted just for doing so.

Yes this woman is for real, AND this was not the first time she advertised doing so and said the more that found out she was doing it, the LESS pictures she receives. Her actions actually reduced the number of people doing it, not increased it. They have to be willing to have their family and friends find out this is what they are doing.. most of the people who do this are not okay with that.

I do think her having to do all the work is too much of a hassle for one person though, that is why there needs to be a service for this...
I am sure they would make a killing as many women would be willing to pay to have this done for them to put a stop to it.
 

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If you send a picture of your ween to a stranger, and that stranger does something unfortunate with it, doesn't the responsibility kind of begin with you?

The stranger didn't hack you.
The stranger didn't break into your home and steal it.
The stranger is a stranger, not a trusted friend who asked for a picture of your ween and then disseminated it.

Would you email your bank account information to a stranger? Probably not, right? If you did, and got robbed, would you cry about it? How surprising, on a scale of 1 to 10, would that result be?

The woman described in the OP is being vindictive, certainly, but that's the risk with strangers. You cannot predict their behavior. Perhaps the stranger you're sending your dick to will be impressed and down to fuck. Perhaps they'll be vindictive, and forward it to your mother. I'll leave it to the senders of dick pics to decide if that's the kind of gamble they find invigorating.