The French language is beautiful, no? Anyway, this is a relationship thread, so if you don't want to read that, leave now. :/
As for the rest of you, here's my situation:
I am 17. My parents have never had any type of "dating" or "sex" talks with me, leaving me wondering if I'm even allowed to date in their household, what their rules are regarding it, etc. Hell, I don't even have curfew or anything; I don't get to just leave the house. I have to ask to go anywhere, and they always require me to tell them wherever I go, why I'm going, etc.
As a result, I've never been on a date.
That isn't the only reason though; I haven't really wanted to. Yes, I've met girls who I liked, but never really wanted to go out with them. No reason why, just never had the desire. However, about a week or two ago, I started noticing one who I would like to go out with.
Now, I don't know her well at all, (don't even know her last name XD), and don't have any idea if she'd accept. This isn't my problem. My problem is what to ask her to, if I decide to ask her out. This is especially problematic given the fact that my parents basically dominate any social life I have; I have no freedom in this regard. I also cannot drive yet, as I don't have my license. Even if I did, I wouldn't have a car.
So, here is something that I am thinking about doing: We both have Biology together. The final is on the 24th, and after it is over, which is about 11AM, we get to leave the school. I am thinking that I could ask her to hang out, get lunch and get to know each other after the exam. This is my first problem. Would this be a good "first date" type thing? Does this seem like a good idea to begin with? Now, would asking now or Friday (classes end Friday) be a good idea, planning it in advance, or would it be better to ask as a "spur of the moment" type thing after the exam? The exam isn't until the 24th, and I'm kind of wondering if this is too far in advance, especially for just a casual meeting.
My second thing is in regards to my parents. Now, after the exam, they don't really have any say in what I do. They will be at work, and unable to do/know about what I do until they get home. Would it be best to tell them, and hopefully initiate some sort of conversation myself, or should I just go ahead with this plan? Would having some sort of talk with them be beneficial to me? Should I start asking for things like a curfew? I don't really know if that's "normal" or not. This is all sort of new to me, as I've never really been a "social" person. This is something I'd like to change, as I'm not currently happy with my situation.
So, in short:
1) I want to ask a girl I don't know well out. Would asking her for an "after-exam" lunch date be a good idea? Is asking 1.5 weeks in advance too early, or would it be better to do this as a "spur of the moment" thing? Basically, tell me if this is a good plan.
2) My parents and I have had zero communication regarding dating. Absolutely nothing. I don't know what they allow, or what their policies regarding it are. Would initiating a conversation with them about it be a good idea or should I just tell them I have date and hope they start something up?
I'm very...amateurish in this regard, something I'd like to change up this year. This is the first step, but I'd basically like some advice and support.
Thanks for listening, and if there are any questions to help clarify, I will answer them.
As for the rest of you, here's my situation:
I am 17. My parents have never had any type of "dating" or "sex" talks with me, leaving me wondering if I'm even allowed to date in their household, what their rules are regarding it, etc. Hell, I don't even have curfew or anything; I don't get to just leave the house. I have to ask to go anywhere, and they always require me to tell them wherever I go, why I'm going, etc.
As a result, I've never been on a date.
That isn't the only reason though; I haven't really wanted to. Yes, I've met girls who I liked, but never really wanted to go out with them. No reason why, just never had the desire. However, about a week or two ago, I started noticing one who I would like to go out with.
Now, I don't know her well at all, (don't even know her last name XD), and don't have any idea if she'd accept. This isn't my problem. My problem is what to ask her to, if I decide to ask her out. This is especially problematic given the fact that my parents basically dominate any social life I have; I have no freedom in this regard. I also cannot drive yet, as I don't have my license. Even if I did, I wouldn't have a car.
So, here is something that I am thinking about doing: We both have Biology together. The final is on the 24th, and after it is over, which is about 11AM, we get to leave the school. I am thinking that I could ask her to hang out, get lunch and get to know each other after the exam. This is my first problem. Would this be a good "first date" type thing? Does this seem like a good idea to begin with? Now, would asking now or Friday (classes end Friday) be a good idea, planning it in advance, or would it be better to ask as a "spur of the moment" type thing after the exam? The exam isn't until the 24th, and I'm kind of wondering if this is too far in advance, especially for just a casual meeting.
My second thing is in regards to my parents. Now, after the exam, they don't really have any say in what I do. They will be at work, and unable to do/know about what I do until they get home. Would it be best to tell them, and hopefully initiate some sort of conversation myself, or should I just go ahead with this plan? Would having some sort of talk with them be beneficial to me? Should I start asking for things like a curfew? I don't really know if that's "normal" or not. This is all sort of new to me, as I've never really been a "social" person. This is something I'd like to change, as I'm not currently happy with my situation.
So, in short:
1) I want to ask a girl I don't know well out. Would asking her for an "after-exam" lunch date be a good idea? Is asking 1.5 weeks in advance too early, or would it be better to do this as a "spur of the moment" thing? Basically, tell me if this is a good plan.
2) My parents and I have had zero communication regarding dating. Absolutely nothing. I don't know what they allow, or what their policies regarding it are. Would initiating a conversation with them about it be a good idea or should I just tell them I have date and hope they start something up?
I'm very...amateurish in this regard, something I'd like to change up this year. This is the first step, but I'd basically like some advice and support.
Thanks for listening, and if there are any questions to help clarify, I will answer them.