Luv ya Vs Iove you

[MorganL4]

I recently was at my girlfriends house, was leaving for the night after having watched Spirited Away with her; I kissed her goodnight causally said "Luv ya" and started walking to my car. Best I can tell she now thinks I meant "I love you". Now don't get me wrong I care about her and don't want to hurt her, but I have NO IDEA how to resolve this issue, or even broach the subject, would an up front approach be best?.

Any ideas? PLEASE

 

[requisitename]

This feels suspiciously like a troll to me, but I'll bite.

Maybe you start by telling her you're sorry for playing with her emotions and saying things you don't mean? I've never known anyone over the age of 12 who actually believed there was some kind of difference between "luv" and "love". Either you love someone or you don't and if you don't, you shouldn't say you do.

So, good luck with it.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

....Sooo... you said "Luv Ya", to your GIRLFRIEND, whom you don't actually LOVE?

Assuming im right, You really dont deserve a girlfriend for that. If not, please elaborate / more specific on the problem.

Because Luv = Love, there's no alternative to it.

 

[manic_depressive13]

'Resolve the issue or broach the subject'? She's your girlfriend. You're supposed to love her. And even if you don't you're still supposed to pretend you do, so I don't see the problem here.

 

[MorganL4]

Okay, since I appear to need more clarification, we have been dating for a month now, I only kissed her for the first time a week ago, and as I said before, I care about her and want the relationship to continue. I'm just not in love yet. It was really a slip of the tongue in the first place.

 

[manic_depressive13]

I still don't see the problem. As long as she didn't freak out over it, it doesn't matter. Saying 'I love you' isn't some sort of binding agreement. It's not like you asked her to fucking marry you. Just leave it be. What else are you going to do? Sit her down and explain "Remember when I said I love you? It was a slip of the tongue. I really don't."

 

[MorganL4]

I still don't see the problem. As long as she didn't freak out over it, it doesn't matter. Saying 'I love you' isn't some sort of binding agreement. It's not like you asked her to fucking marry you. Just leave it be. What else are you going to do? Sit her down and explain "Remember when I said I love you? It was a slip of the tongue. I really don't."

Good point.

 

[DreamaSkylar]

She probably didn't even notice it. It's only a big deal if you make it one. Just don't bring it up with her.

 

[Zack Alklazaris]

Your over thinking it. Drop it don't worry about it its nothing. Spirited Away is a wonderful little anime and love ya is perfectly fine after a kiss as long as you mean it.

Personally I say rawrs to my wife. (google it, Rawrs means I love you in dinosaur)

 

[Smooth Operator]

Until you mean it that word means nothing, hell it never means anything, your actions reflect your hearths true desires which is something people should get clear on.

 

[MasterOfHisOwnDomain]

Honestly, I really don't think you should worry about it. Surely you do love her if she's your girlfriend? I mean if you don't then that's kind of a terrible basis for a relationship. What's she going to misconstrue this as: have a baby with me? marry me instantly?

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

Okay, since I appear to need more clarification, we have been dating for a month now, I only kissed her for the first time a week ago, and as I said before, I care about her and want the relationship to continue. I'm just not in love yet. It was really a slip of the tongue in the first place.

Okay, that makes more sense.

Unless she's 100% clingy and requires you to live her daily life, don't fret too much, It's only been a month.

 

[artanis_neravar]

Honestly, I really don't think you should worry about it. Surely you do love her if she's your girlfriend? I mean if you don't then that's kind of a terrible basis for a relationship. What's she going to misconstrue this as: have a baby with me? marry me instantly?

'Resolve the issue or broach the subject'? She's your girlfriend. You're supposed to love her. And even if you don't you're still supposed to pretend you do, so I don't see the problem here.

Yeah, loving a girl is not a prerequisite to having her as your girlfriend, having feelings for her probably should be. And no "love" and "having feelings for" are not the same thing, they are differing levels of emotional attachment. You can't know if you love someone unless you spend time with them, and not just time you have set aside as special date time, but time where you are just being yourselves and doing your normal day to day stuff.

OT: Did she say it back? Even if she didn't just don't make a big deal out of it. My ex let slip and told me she loved me a good 2 months before I said it, and it was in the middle of a bigger conversation said quickly and quieter than everything else so it was obvious it was a slip, I just let her think I didn't hear it.

 

[Elementary - Dear Watson]

Just like Aluminum = Aluminium, Luv = Love when spoken...
With text there seems to be a social exemption to this, with text slang and the like, but spoken then it is just like having a different accent... to be honest, if you don't mean it, I'd refrain from using it in future!

Talk to her... explain exactly what you feel, or you want to take things slower... she'll understand if she's worth it!

 

[Galletea]

They are one and the same thing. Regardless of how you say it it means the same thing, and that will be different depending on who you use it with. Your girlfriend is not one of your friends that you might drink and hang around with. To her love is going to mean just that and not merely that you are quite fond of them and grateful for their company, as your friends might.

The problem you have is contextual, and now your girlfriend assumes you like her more than you do. But if she didn't freak out or demand you get married then there's no real problem. In your situation telling her the truth now could be more damaging to the both of you. Just play it down, and try not to back off too much now you've said it, or she'll think something is wrong. You never know, you might love her before long.

Assuming im right, You really dont deserve a girlfriend for that.

Well what if they've only just started going out? I didn't 'love' my boyfriend at first either. I don't think you can really love someone straight away, since you don't actually know who they really are.

 

[Karhukonna]

It sounds like you were saying it as a goodbye, rather than a confession of your feelings. Just explain the situation to her. I'm sure she understands that love takes time. And if she doesn't, she must be twelve or something.

And if she's uncomfortable, just stop saying it. Easy, simple and beautiful.