Jammy Fingers said:
tkioz said:
stop blaming video games and start wacking the little shits when they act up.
I'm sorry but hitting your child is supposed to stop them being violent?
Studies have found that in fact authoritarian parenting leads to behavioural problems in later life as they're children either become overly passive of excessively rebellious or violent.
The key to stopping violent behaviour lies in overcoming the reason why they feel it necessary or acceptable to be so.
I'm sorry but that is complete and utter dross. A smack or a wack doesn't meant a bruise or blood or broken bones, take your hand and give yourself a love tap on the other hand, feel that slight stinging feeling? It works wonders on children, lets them know when they've done something wrong.
The key is to do it sparingly, it should never be expected or feared, it should come out of no-where and only ever for the first offence, after that you're far better off using other discipline tools, such as a missed meal, no TV, no computer, whatever, but for a first time offence the surprise works wonders. Same as only ever yelling when they are in danger, never raise your voice in anger, only when you need their undivided attention when they've done something dangerous.
A child should
never fear their parents, or their actions, you don't want fear, you want to teach them boundaries, and too do that sometimes you need to shock them with a little smack.
Seriously when people talk about hitting children it's like they expect blood and broken bones, no, my grandmother use to give me little love taps on my backside when I was being a little bastard, but it was rare, but she had other, better ways to control and shape my behaviour, and that's what parenting is, shaping the behaviour of the child, people are too emotional about it.