Poll: Am I in the Wrong Here?

[xXAsherahXx]

My best guess was that he was having a bad day. You witnessed part of it. Did your friend overreact? SURE! Perhaps more was going on with him than you were aware of. Either way, sounds like you've forgiven him already.

If you want to save/strengthen your friendship, take him out to eat, or just bring some food over and have a sit down. Dont worry about getting anything fancy. Spend as much or as little as you can afford. Apologize for pissing him off and let him know you forgive him for getting so angry. Tell him that you were just joking around like the 2 of you always seemed to do, and ask him, "Next time if I am going too far to just let me know to back off. Blowing up like you did without warning is going to make it hard to be friends."

Of course you are going to actually have to back off if he asks you to. On the other hand, you have also set up a rapport such that if he is really pissing you off you too can say "hey man, knock it off."

Honestly, letting him know that I forgive him would just piss him off even more. He's a thick headed one that constantly believes he is better than anybody else he comes across. His opinion just has to always be the final word. If I tell him that, I might as well just punch him in the face. It's not like you could have known that, but yeah, he functions very differently than, say, all humans do.

 

[sir.rutthed]

Problem here is you're friends with an asshole. Messing with your friends shouldn't provoke such a reaction if it's they way you all interact.

 

[t3h br0th3r]

unless by 'gens' you meant bare, sweaty,and std infested genitals' your friend overreacted.

but if you knew he had mental issues and was fixated on his gaming chair then why would you screw with it, after a stressful situation to boot?

 

[SkullKing84]

Problem here is you're friends with an asshole. Messing with your friends shouldn't provoke such a reaction if it's they way you all interact.

Exactly what I was going to say. So... yeah. Your friend is an ass, who over reacted.

 

[MaxwellEdison]

Physically attacked?
Over a chair?

He literally has mental problems. Not like "Oh, he's fucking dumb." As in, "I am, in all seriousness, suggesting you consider contacting his family over this incident to inform them that their son needs medical help."

...Gotta ask though, is it a nice chair?

 

[The Human Torch]

A gaming chair? Really? REALLY?!

 

[MaxwellEdison]

Looking over the comments...did people miss the part where he got attacked over making a balls joke?
Or do people seriously promote violence in order to protect the sanctity of a chair?

 

[xXAsherahXx]

Physically attacked?
Over a chair?

He literally has mental problems. Not like "Oh, he's fucking dumb." As in, "I am, in all seriousness, suggesting you consider contacting his family over this incident to inform them that their son needs medical help."

...Gotta ask though, is it a nice chair?

It's a decent chair sits on the floor and rolls backwards. Upholstered with leather and has speakers on the sides. It's a pretty damn nice chair, but I still don't think his actions are justified, especially because I've sat in it many times before without a problem.

 

[Reptiloid]

What, are you both in kindergarten? This thing you've described isn't a problem, a conflict, or something that needs solving. It's nothing. Stop acting like immature little shits and just let it go.

 

[Dr. Pepper Unlimited]

You both were acting stupid. You didn't respect his wishes to respect his property, and he overreacted to the situation.

 

[silent-treatment]

Wait so you chill with him until he gets his car all sorted out, and he freaks out over something that frankly me and my friends do all the time (when we were younger, but still if it happened now it wouldn't be that big of a deal). Unless there is something else that happened I think he needs to calm down.

 

[MaxwellEdison]

It's a decent chair sits on the floor and rolls backwards. Upholstered with leather and has speakers on the sides. It's a pretty damn nice chair, but I still don't think his actions are justified, especially because I've sat in it many times before without a problem.

Oh, I don't think it's a problem, I was just wondering how nice the chair was If it were made of diamonds that shattered when in contact with testicles, that would be a different issue.

 

[iNsaneMilesy]

He aint your friend mate. At this point you are just hanging because know no different. I think its time to expand your horizons and get better ones. "Friends" break balls sure, but they dont attack eachother and outright bully.

 

[Right Hook]

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I went ahead and said he was in the wrong, especially after you said he disregards your stuff just as much. However I think you need to take into account that people place certain boundaries, you obviously overstepped one of his and while his reaction was ridiculous, he was still rightly able to have it and kick you out. What it comes down to is deciding whether or not being friends with him is worth putting up with his strange behavior, if it is worth it then just leave the damn chair alone next time.

I had a friend very similar to this and while he trusted me, he wouldn't let most other people touch his stuff, I thought it was weird but I was still good friends with him so I left him alone about it. Other people would complain to me and I basically would just say that it is who he is, take it or leave it. You aren't going to likely change his behavior so you are better off just abiding by it if it doesn't bother you.

 

[Sparcrypt]

More than likely there is something else going on that is stressing him out and caused the overreaction.

Or it might be that when he asks you nicely to not touch something and you decide to do it anyway he got really mad.

Either way, you were both being a bit stupid, but him much more so. Throwing your friends out of your house for something like that is idiotic.

 

[Sparrow]

As much as I'd like to go to whole supposedly level-headed "you're both in the wrong" route, but your friend sounds like a psycho. On the pros and cons side, the guy DID travel out to find you and jump start your car when the rest of your friends didn't, so... I'd say you shouldn't let it ruin your friendship, as dorky as that sounds (yes, I did just un-ironically say "dorky") because the guy sounds like a nice fellow. Maybe he's got a few quirks here and there, just don't let it get to you.

 

[Vampire cat]

I guess be the bigger man and deal with it? Also, how is this a wall of text? It actually scares me a bit to think that such a compact and to-the-point can be considered a wall by anyone Oo.

I didn't think people would really care to read the whole thing, so I wrote that in. Am I going to jail?

Afraid so... Teller, cuff the bull.

 

[Woodsey]

While I think what you did sounded rather crass,

If your mate can't laugh at you pretending to rub your balls on something, he's not a mate.

OT: He sounds like a fucking psychopath. And "don't touch my chair"? Seriously? I could understand that if it was something that had even the remotest chance of breaking if someone came into contact with it.

"If your friend doesn't have the same lowbrow sense of humor as me he's not your friend!"

Right, grow up already and learn that not everyone needs to share your pathetic sense of humor.

Yes, because I wrote that with a completely straight face.

 

[Twilight_guy]

Two points, why the heck are you explaining your early day when things like a mock AP test and not relevant to this story and assume the usually about 50 percent of what you say is true, your friend probably overreacted a bit and you acted like kind of a dick so he got mad. It's not your house so you have to follow his rules and if you think he's such a pain then don't be his friend.

 

[xXAsherahXx]

As much as I'd like to go to whole supposedly level-headed "you're both in the wrong" route, but your friend sounds like a psycho. On the pros and cons side, the guy DID travel out to find you and jump start your car when the rest of your friends didn't, so... I'd say you shouldn't let it ruin your friendship, as dorky as that sounds (yes, I did just un-ironically say "dorky") because the guy sounds like a nice fellow. Maybe he's got a few quirks here and there, just don't let it get to you.

It was my friend's car that didn't start because he left the headlights on. I was the one who called to get our other friend over.