Poll: Dating inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race?

[AnarchistFish]

I wouldn't rule out dating someone from another ethnicity but generally I don't find them as attractive. Of course there are exceptions.

 

[suitepee7]

inside, and as male. not against it, i don't particularly care either way, but it is mainly an availability issue. there simply aren't a huge number of non-white people where i live, and then they'd have to be decent looking, and then have a decent personality, and i'd also have to be single...

i'm not saying it's impossible, it is just statistically less likely and hence why i haven't tried it.

 

[Midnight Crossroads]

Most of the girls I've dated have been black or Asian, but the prettiest was definitely the one from Pakistan. Religion and family is a much larger barrier to overcome. So many people get attached to the idea of being with someone of their faith. I couldn't care less. I actually find such differences endearing.

 

[hobohazard]

Im a white guy and honestly, I feel a more interesting conversation is if we widened this to your regular friends. Your lying to me if race doesn't effect your choice in who you spend any of your time with (I also mean if you area just doesn't have any members of a specific race). My area is about 50% white, 35 to 40% Asian, and 10 to 15% other races. For me, its also mostly about interests and personality (It ends up being the former more then the latter more often then not for me) and for friendships its completely about those 2 things (If you look for attractiveness in a friend then your doing it wrong). It just happens that all of my friends currently (With about 1 or 2 exceptions if you count former friends) are white or Asian. Meanwhile some of my other friends (I use the term loosely in this case) who are more interested in sports then geek culture have about 50% of there friends (That i've seen at least) being black or Hispanic. Not saying that you are all like that, this is just what i've observed in my area, but its just how i've seen things. It also has to do with the fact that about 60 or 65% of the non Asian/white pepole I interact with regularly (Not to say that there are no white/Asians who this applies to as well, there are) ether ignore me (Mostly my fault actually, id rather spend more time with friends im already close with then waste it making new ones), annoy me and my friends regularly, or are mean to me and my friends regularly.

More on topic, yeah, I have to say I have preference towards my own race, with the exception of Asians (Still haven't figured out why) who have an even preference with me. I think of it in a way that if you put 2 girls in front of me, identical in every way except for there race, with one being white or Asian and the other a different race and gave me the choice between one of them, I would chose the one that was my own race.

 

[ReinWeisserRitter]

I don't give two shits about my, yours, or anyone's ethnicity, and neither should you. I was also lucky to have my genes clash together in such a way that it's completely impossible for others to successfully guess what my own ethnic makeup is, so at best, people can only make assumptions about me based on what they think it is, and I and my sibling also grew up as the black sheep of the family because of our mother seeing what the grass was like on the other side, and we never once were treated in such a way that our skin color was ever something we were made to think about. I've been truly fortunate to grow up where ethnicity and race where never forced on me as part of who I am or a way I was obligated to think, act, or indeed, pursue relationships based on.

I've actually been in a relationship of three years with someone whose racial makeup is quite different from mine - something I didn't even realize until your own focus on sanctioned racism gave me pause, by the way - and it's been a total non-factor except to make racist comments at one another for our mutual amusement. I never feel anything is off or doesn't fit with them, and the only issue I do have is that their family is, as is that ethnicity's wont, extremely gregarious and family-oriented, while I personally am much more solitary and dislike large groups of people, and the noise they tend to produce. Amusingly, though, even my better half has become more appreciative of a quiet, intimate setting after their time with me, and occasionally finds themselves irritated and exhausted by their family's bustle, and eager to come home to the stability and peace my lifestyle has introduced to their own.

Variety is the spice of life, they say, and I'd rather enjoy our differences - some in more measured doses than others, admittedly - than focus on petty and superficial things such as skin color and race.

 

[CrazyJew]

I live in Israel. This place is a melting pot of ethnicities and cultures. It's hard to avoid doing that.

 

[stonethered]

I mean, I DO tend to prefer women outside my ethnicity, but I wouldn't say that it's a conscious effort, really.

Actually, scratch that, I have a serious preference for Arab/Mediterranean women compared to your standard "white" woman. No point in lying to myself. Even Scottish/Irish women are generally far more attractive to me than your strictly-"average" white woman, ignoring the fact that I'm about 1/4 combined Irish and Scottish. Or maybe it's the foreign factor that makes anything that isn't average-American way more appealing to me...

This basically sums me up here. A nice, buxom Scottish girl beats out basically any other white girl every day of the week. But I've certainly got a soft spot for your Eastern Mediterranean, Persian ladies too.

But if we're all totally honest with ourselves, it has less to do with what categories we would group a person into and more to do with how attractive the particular person is. There are plenty of perfectly plain Scottish women and a fair few really gorgeous women of any arbitrarily decided grouping of humans. And I know plenty of people who married and grew old with spouses who are absolutely nothing like their ideal partner; so I think the whole argument is basically moot in the end.

Oh come on, nobody is going to post about keeping their bloodline pure?

Disappointed in this thread already.

I'm a ginger, we're a little more concerned with just keeping our genetic mutation alive. It doesn't matter whether it's pure, just that the recessive gene becomes sufficiently common somewhere down the line that we resurface to rule your pathetic planet.

Purity is overrated anyways.

 

[ObsidianJones_v1legacy]

I would love to make a list. Of people who say that while they don't mind people from other races, and will even form friendships of people with other races... but will not date outside their race.

Only because I'd like to compare their names to those who respond to the threads about other ethnicities saying they wish there was something else to play than just white male. I want to see how many say 'Race shouldn't be a big deal' there, and then say 'Only in my race' here.

Also, I can not vote because the 'It doesn't matter to me' option isn't available.

Sexual preference don't make you raciest and I'd like to point out that the poll isn't "Do you prefer to date inside or outside your Ethnicity/Race as a white person" Look back and read not only are there people posting that don't date outside their ethnicity/race, but some say they won't ever even consider dating inside their ethnicity/race, what does that tell you? FYI they're not white.

If you'd like to point out where I said the word racist, I'll continue this line of conversation.

 

[RamirezDoEverything]

I don't attract many women, so when one finally comes along and shows interest in me, I don't discriminate.

Is she friendly? Yes.
Is she somewhat intelligent? Yes.
Is she a slob? No.
Is she a reasonable person? Yes.

We've got a date.

 

[chuckman1]

Personally don't care lot but given the choices I say outside.
I like dark hair and round faces some what girls be lacking.
Also like brown skin. Kinda have a latin american thing (but not limited to that)

 

[Archereus]

I could say I would prefer to date outside of my ethnicity. And I might even say I would find it weird if others felt like they couldn't. To me the whole mystery of a different culture and getting over the obstacles that may carry attracts to wanting to date outside of my known culture. As well I can say I find most other ethnicities fairly attractive due to the fact they don't share the same physical elements of what I am used to seeing, hence making them more attractive.

 

[StBishop]

I don't think it would matter. Although I've mostly dated girls of European descent and Australian upbringing (at least having grown up here even if raised by parents from another culture).

I appear to have a type but I don't really consider my "ethnicity or race" when I like someone.

I also live in (and have lived in) pretty "white" areas which tend to be populated by European ex-pats or their descendants.

 

[AzrealMaximillion]

I usually date outside my ethnicity. Mostly because skin colour isn't a factor to my dating life.

 

[JohnnyDelRay]

Being an Asian/Euro mix, I guess it just leaves it a bit more open for me? And sorry if someone has mentioned it before, but your poll *really* needs a "don't give a shit about ethnicity option". There are beautiful, smart and caring girls in every ethnicity, by limiting yourself to really discovering someone because of their race, well it's your loss really. I was just happy to keep my options open (happily married now though). For those who may not be that keen, I will just say one thing: Give it a try! While you're young and single, there's nothing better than being informed.

You may never know what you're missing, and you may be very pleasantly surprised.

 

[dfphetteplace]

I don't really care. If I liked someone, I would date/marry if it went that far, regardless of all else. If I get along with them, then I see no issue with it. I am white, and my wife is white, but that is just the way it worked out. I see nothing wrong with dating someone different than myself.

Than pretend you don't know them than make a preference.

Regardless, I don't care. It does not enter my thoughts that if someone is from somewhere else, or has a different color skin, that I couldn't be with them.

 

[disgruntledgamer]

I don't really care. If I liked someone, I would date/marry if it went that far, regardless of all else. If I get along with them, then I see no issue with it. I am white, and my wife is white, but that is just the way it worked out. I see nothing wrong with dating someone different than myself.

Than pretend you don't know them than make a preference.

Regardless, I don't care. It does not enter my thoughts that if someone is from somewhere else, or has a different color skin, that I couldn't be with them.

If it never enter your thoughts you wouldn't of clicked on the link or bother to post. Everyone has a preference, some more than others but everyone does.

 

[dfphetteplace]

I don't really care. If I liked someone, I would date/marry if it went that far, regardless of all else. If I get along with them, then I see no issue with it. I am white, and my wife is white, but that is just the way it worked out. I see nothing wrong with dating someone different than myself.

Than pretend you don't know them than make a preference.

Regardless, I don't care. It does not enter my thoughts that if someone is from somewhere else, or has a different color skin, that I couldn't be with them.

If it never enter your thoughts you wouldn't of clicked on the link or bother to post. Everyone has a preference, some more than others but everyone does.

Or I wanted to express my opinion, as that is what the thread is about. Being a poll and all, looking for peoples thoughts and opinions. That is my thought and opinion.

 

[Riff Moonraker]

Where's the "Ethnicity doesn't affect dating habits" option?

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My thoughts exactly. It doesnt matter now, as I am married, but before then the only thing that mattered to me was whether or not I was attracted to them. Ethnicity didnt matter to me, at all. I've dated asian girls, black girls, white girls.... heck, I think I even dated a liberal girl once.

 

[Riff Moonraker]

I don't really care. If I liked someone, I would date/marry if it went that far, regardless of all else. If I get along with them, then I see no issue with it. I am white, and my wife is white, but that is just the way it worked out. I see nothing wrong with dating someone different than myself.

Than pretend you don't know them than make a preference.

Regardless, I don't care. It does not enter my thoughts that if someone is from somewhere else, or has a different color skin, that I couldn't be with them.

If it never enter your thoughts you wouldn't of clicked on the link or bother to post. Everyone has a preference, some more than others but everyone does.

A preference? All that matters to me is that there is an attraction. As far as preference goes, I guess you could say I have a severe weak spot for asian girls, but that has nothing to do with my race or anything of that nature. I'm a white guy.

 

[Griffolion]

I'm unsure by what is meant by ethnicity. Is it to do with like skin colour, or area that someone is from?

If it's to do with skin colour, then I've been with someone of African descent, but the majority of my relationships and other things have been with white girls.

I'm currently with a Caucasian American, I myself am white British.