Poll: Girlfriends: Are they worth the effort?

[danudey]

My girlfriend and I basically started our relationship playing Resident Evil 5 and drinking large amounts of wine. If I go have a shower and leave her alone, she'll be playing Left 4 Dead 2 online in a matter of minutes (and when I come back, she welcomes the company in split-screen). I put down my controller once while playing FFXIII and she picked it up; her first time playing a FF game and she was doing as well as I was at grinding mobs in the Arclyte Steppe.

What I'm saying is, having a girlfriend isn't necessarily the opposite of your current life; if you find a girl that you truly work well with, having a girlfriend is an *extension* of what you already have. When it's a shitty day outside, we stay at home and play video games; when it's nice out, we get out and enjoy it, or we stay at home and play video games. I do basically what I would have done anyway, except with someone else next to me to keep me company and share the experience with.

So yeah, it can be worth it, and if you find the right girl, it's no effort at all.

 

[NotAPie]

To me I don't think so anymore but there are people out there that are worth all the effort.

 

[Thomas Rembrandt]

Thank you for your replies, though I am not sure, if you understood what I was asking. I am sitting in my apartement all day, not quite happy but more or less ok with myself, and always have to read how much better people with girlfriends are supposed to be, kind of like nerds are inferiour to 'real' people (even Yahtzee uses this kind of worldview). I am just curious, wether the effort to go out and make an ass of yourself to get laid(or loved) is sooo much better than being alone.

PS: sorry, i forgot to add the NO option. Hangover.

 

[Rayansaki]

It really depends, if you find them to be a bother you don't need a relationship. If you meet someone you really like to be with, and is compatible with you, you won't consider that relationship to be a bother or effort anymore.

 

[RaikuFA]

in my experience, women are shallow manipulative creatures that ***** over the fact that they want a good guy and one comes along but he dosent have the look, hes a rapist to her.

someone needs to start beating these whores with a crowbar

 

[ChantoriaDemona]

This makes me laugh, mainly because I'm a girl and my boyfriend is the one that complains that I spend too much time playing video games. He plays his guitar hero and car racing games which pretty much are easy to put down whenever. But I mainly play RPG's(shadow hearts, final fantasy, dragon quest) and action (god of war, prince of persia), so usually I end up getting really into the story and don't want to put the controller down. So actually it's opposite for us, it's him that is begging me to stop playing the game and spend time with him. Though lucky for him, I'm easily bribed to go out somewhere with the promise of getting a Tim Hortons Ice Cap(those things are so addicting).

Also to answer the question, I don't really think the sex matters all that much. But it is really nice to know that I got someone who I can depend on and feel comfortable around and just have fun with. It's always great to find someone who shares the same interests, it's also great when you don't have to go far to brag when you get beat the high score. I wouldn't really try too hard to find someone if you do go out there, it's usually best to just enjoy life how you want to and just be sociable with the people you meet. Maybe one of the random encounters you come across will end up being a person that you can actually see yourself dating. That's my opinion at least.

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

Only worth as much as the effort put in. Of course, it requires a good partner. If you can't find the partner, then it is a pain. However, the way you are questioning, it might just be better if you don't bother.

Nobody wants to coddle you or make you feel super magically confident. There is value in companionship but if it has to be explained perhaps it isn't worth it for You...

*sigh* For those that care, father of two, married, been with her over ten years. Totally worth it for me.

 

[DeathWyrmNexus]

The problem with the internet is that it's very probable that a lot of people who say ''No it's not,'' are most likely the people who have the most difficulty with communication and would probably come off as an unlikeable bloke. So instead of saying ''Well I can't really do it, but you should try,'' They try to make it seem as if it doesn't effect them and that it doesn't matter, but it does.

It's integral to human genetics and everything about us to have a partner. It may be that you need a bit of kick-off to get going but every human wants to find ''their other half'' and it's something that only those who've tried, and failed at who spread the idea that it isn't. But even they shouldn't give up hope.

So yes, it is worth the effort. Rejection and ''failing'' will always come at the start for the vast majority of everyone who tries, but eventually you'll find someone who is genuinely your ''other half.'' Don't be one of those people who give up at the beginning after one rejection and toss the whole concept out of the window.

This.

Getting a platinum trophy in God of War III (Chaos mode be kicking my arse, btw) is not going to generate people who'll fill my pension fund one day.

Also, sharing. When I got that big revelation about the Reapers on Ilum in Mass Effect, I ran into the living room, telling my lady friend, "honey, you wont believe this...!" Even video games are made infinitely better if you have someone who understands and shares your triumphs and frustrations. The missus actually clapped when I managed to finish that bloody "Get Stoned" challenge in the aforementioned GoWIII...

Also this, my joy is infinitely more joyous when I can share it. Otherwise, refer to my other post.

 

[khaimera]

I tried, I really did try, but I just don't think I'm the right person for any sort of relationship. It's not that I don't think girlfriends are worth the effort, it's that I don't think I'd be the right guy for any girl, so I might as well just remove myself from the whole equation so that some lassie doesn't make a mistake with me, as girls have done with me in the past.

Yes kiddies, my genes are so inferior that they're stopping me from breeding.

Eh, I'm happy without a relationship. Leave it to the people who know what they're doing, I say.

I call bullshit on this. Not on you being happy without a relationship, thats fine, but when you say that you would not be the right guy for any girl.

Based on my interactions with you I think you have qualities that many girls I know would love to find in a guy. You are nice, polite, funny, smart, and compassionate. Where I'm from these qualities are very uncommon. What else is there for a girl to want. Plus, I've seen you flirt on here, so I knwo you can do that. Granted, I don't really know you IRL but on here you seem like a perfectly normal guy.

OT: I think that girlfriends are worth the effort. They provide a wealth of meaningful experinces that are difficult to find elsewhere. I'm a relationship guy though. I'm always in one it seems. Now I'm married so I don't need to worrry about dating.

 

[DividedUnity]

OP you just need to find the right girl. When you do it wont be a chore to have a girlfriend.

Though I cant say ive even come close to finding the right girl yet, after many failed relationships I just opt for drunken fun but I never go the whole way because im saving myself for someone who I really like.

 

[Layzor]

They're worth a try.

 

[Morbira]

Ho's and tricks, brah. Ho's and tricks.

 

[dreadedcandiru99]

So I ask: Is having a girlfriend really worth all the effort, is this sex thing really so much better than Rosie Palms, is the jumping through hoops for a woman, the nagging and annoying talks and everything that rewarding at the end? Or are people exaggerating?

Probably not. I've lost count of the number of twice- and thrice-divorced people I've known who've sworn to me that THIS time they've really truly honestly found their one and only soulmate, seriously, not kidding around this time--and then it crashes and burns anyway.

The whole point of this rigmarole is to perpetuate the species, right? Last time I checked, though, the species was doing just fine--if anything, there're too many of us. We're past six and a half billion already, and we'll be up to ten billion by the middle of the century, at which point the planet will be even more hard-pressed to support us all.

In any case, Internet porn is way more cost-effective.

 

[Harmondale2]

Women are not "all" naging bitchs?? I love my girlfriend, shes the only one who really understands me and that I can really open up to Its not all about sex, i think you have a very warped view of relationships and women in general,

 

[Insideout Ink Demon]

In my honest opinion, a long term Gf should only be a person you could never picture your life without, n the only effort you have to make is to be yourself

 

[Hallow'sEve]

guys are better than girls

 

[Winter Rat]

Well, I keep trying to "go fuck myself" the way people keep telling me and I just can't make it work. Looks like I'm stuck with girls. And sex is to masturbation the way actually skydiving is to watching someone skydive on tv.

Seriously, it is worth it and its hard. Anything worth doing is probably a challenge. I find girls to be quite challenging to deal with, but not only is it worth it, its one of the things that has caused me to grow the most as a person. Its a mixed bag. There have been girls who tore me apart and girls who put me back together again in equal proportion.

 

[shotgunjoe]

Fuck no, my girlfriend is a *****.

EDIT: I should clarify my situation. My girlfriend and I have had an on off relationship for about seven years, with other people coming in and out in between for each of us. Basically she completely fucked me over a lot of times and I went all emo about it but then I started becoming confident with the other sex and became somewhat of a man slut. I still wanted her but I realised she was out of my reach. We started getting a bit more serious but it's only now after about six months of officially going out that I'm starting to realise how much of an arsehole she is. The tables have somewhat turned and I'm now the one that doesn't really care whilst she is being all clingy and needy, but she doesn't trust me at all (and has no reason not to). I now live in a place filled with constant accusation, and no matter how hard I try to explain, the same completely irrational ones keep coming up. I'm going to break up with her, but in a way I'm hesitant just because I spent so long completely smitten over her. Urgh.

So in short, when someone tells you to go get a girlfriend, just stick to games. It's the ultimate form of escapism, and one that I'm frequenting even with a girlfriend.