I have a friend, who I'll call Nym. Now Nym got out of a long-term relationship about six months ago, and was honestly a wreck. After a little bit of moping, she got into this game called Hobbit: Kingdoms of Middle Earth, which she got insanely into. While talking on the chat, she became interested in this guy, H. Bob. She and H. Bob hit it off, and became somewhat of an item. He made plans to travel from Wales to the US to see her, they would talk a lot, and they did have a lot in common. Now, for about the last six weeks or so, things haven't been as great. His plans to travel to the US were cancelled because his new job has a probationary period of six months, and he couldn't take off the month he planned to go see her. Further, he works a lot, and barely has time to talk to her substantially at all. It got so bad that she had a little breakdown, and they had a fight. However, they're still together.
Now, she has a new friend, Jacob. Jacob was an acquaintance of hers that she only really got to know recently. He's admitted feelings for her, and she's explained that she's (more or less) taken. However, they're becoming good friends. They share a lot in common, have a good time together, he dotes on her, and he's just the kind of guy to go on spur of the moment adventures with her that most of our friends aren't. Her only gripes is that he's a bit shorter than she'd like (Which is silly, because she's 5'11"), and not a dominant enough personality. I don't think the latter should be a problem, because being in a relationship for almost 7 years now, I know sometimes you'll have to tweak people to be more what you want. Relationships take work, after all.
I really want my friend to be happy, and both of these men do make her happy. But I think she should just try to date Jacob, because H. Bob is seeming less and less like an option. She's developed some feelings for Jacob, but feels that she would be betraying H. Bob. But Jacob is the one that can be there for her, constantly and in person, which is something H. Bob simply can't do. He only talks to her through the Hobbit game or a texting app, hasn't been able to call in weeks, and won't get Skype or something similar.
I told her that I would put up a poll, and she's really interesting in seeing how others view the situation.
Team Bob or Team Jacob?
I'll let America (And really anywhere else) decide!
Now, she has a new friend, Jacob. Jacob was an acquaintance of hers that she only really got to know recently. He's admitted feelings for her, and she's explained that she's (more or less) taken. However, they're becoming good friends. They share a lot in common, have a good time together, he dotes on her, and he's just the kind of guy to go on spur of the moment adventures with her that most of our friends aren't. Her only gripes is that he's a bit shorter than she'd like (Which is silly, because she's 5'11"), and not a dominant enough personality. I don't think the latter should be a problem, because being in a relationship for almost 7 years now, I know sometimes you'll have to tweak people to be more what you want. Relationships take work, after all.
I really want my friend to be happy, and both of these men do make her happy. But I think she should just try to date Jacob, because H. Bob is seeming less and less like an option. She's developed some feelings for Jacob, but feels that she would be betraying H. Bob. But Jacob is the one that can be there for her, constantly and in person, which is something H. Bob simply can't do. He only talks to her through the Hobbit game or a texting app, hasn't been able to call in weeks, and won't get Skype or something similar.
I told her that I would put up a poll, and she's really interesting in seeing how others view the situation.
Team Bob or Team Jacob?
I'll let America (And really anywhere else) decide!