Aerodyamic said:
dfphetteplace said:
Are those really antisocial symptoms, or just being an asshole?
I'm leaning towards the asshole explanation, myself. And I mean that literally... I think I'm probably more of an asshole than a anti-something personality dis-whatever.
When people stop coming up with more labels to differentiate themselves from the other equally irritating assholes, and just admit that we're ALL different variations of jerk, we can start working on the social remedies, rather than the medical ones.
Isn't asshole a label too though? Then...so is jerk.
Anyway, I only picked one.
*Incapacity to maintain enduring relationships.
The others I'm a little sketchy on:
*Callous unconcern for the feelings of others and lack of the capacity for empathy.
*Gross and persistent attitude of irresponsibility and disregard for social norms, rules, and obligations.
It more that I sometimes find it difficult to express myself properly, so it ends up looking that way sometimes. By the time I realise what I've done it's too late to do anything about it and I end up feeling crappy about myself.
*Incapacity to experience guilt and to profit from experience, particularly punishment.
I feel very guilty a lot of the time, even for things I reasonably shouldn't, but I don't do anything that warrants punishment, ostensibly being an adult, so I can't say it's of any benefit to me. It just makes me 100 times worse than I already feel about something.
*Markedly prone to blame others or to offer plausible rationalizations for the behavior bringing the subject into conflict.
Again, this is somewhat true and untrue about me. I actively avoid conflict at all times, even where it may not necessarily be of the violent sort. However, I do tend to rationalise people's reactions to me as being solely their problem rather than something I can change with respect to myself. If I'm walking down the road, and come across a group of people, I get very skittish, my head goes down and I try to avoid their gaze. I start to limp slightly and cringe, because, usually at this point they're laughing and I'm concocting revenge fantasies (not that mind you I'd ever act on such a flimsy pretence). Despite the fact that I'm here typing about it, it's unlikely that I'm going to go out and change anything.
*Persistent irritability.
Nope, I'm fairly mellow. Even to the point where the
only time I get panicked or flustered is in group social situations. Seriously, I ran full force into the backing of a bookshelf recently, eye first. Despite a little nausea, I didn't really get any kind of feeling, nor worry that I'd busted my eye up completely (it was fine, just a lot of blood and some scarring). And it wasn't shock either, just, nothing.
Now I think about it, the word that best describes me is: Asocial. Well, minus the lack of empathy bit. But, certainly not Anti-social.