Poll: Is it wrong to help someone cheat?

[Belated]

And by "help someone cheat", I mean "bang somebody who's taken", to put it bluntly.

On one hand, most of us wouldn't question that cheating is wrong. If you had a partner and he/she cheated on you, you'd be pretty upset. You wouldn't want anybody to cheat on you, so why would you ever help somebody cheat on somebody else? The idea of getting with somebody who's taken just fills you with guilt. It's hard enough to find somebody to love. What right do you have to drive a stake through somebody else's relationship?

But on the other hand, is it really your foul at all? What about the hypothetical person who's taken? Aren't they the ones in the wrong for following you to the bedroom? You cast your line, but they don't HAVE to take the bait. They can turn you down. But they chose not to. So should it really be your responsibility to avoid them if they're taken already? Why doesn't that responsibility fall solely on him/her?

So, I ask you Escapists, is it wrong to get it on with somebody who's taken? Or is it not your problem? Vote, and tell us what you think!

 

[struwwelman]

If you know that they're in a relationship then it's wrong. Almost as bad as cheating while in a relationship.

 

[rokkolpo]

It's a bit of a dick move.

 

[Sneeze]

It just wouldn't be right in my opinion, personally I wouldn't feel right doing it, heck I probably wouldn't even be able to do it if you follow. But yeah, no, it's pretty wrong.

 

[DocBalance]

Of course it's wrong. My friends come to me for relationship advice/help/recon all the time, but if it was ever to snare someone who was already in a relationship, I would promptly pimp-slap them and walk away.

 

[Rascarin]

I wouldn't do it, personally. Someone is going to be getting hurt, and you can pretty much guarantee that the person on the other side of the relationship will be blaming you too (as well as their partner, of course).

 

[Tulks]

Having been, at some stage, each vertice on the love triangle, I'd steer clear.
That someone's shopping around for a bit on the side may indicate something missing from or wrong with their relationship, but it's still not worth getting in the middle of it.
As Hobbes said, "Do not that to another, which thou wouldst not have done to thyself."

 

[GeorgW]

I would never do it, but I don't judge people who do. I do look down on people who cheat. I know people that have been cheated on, I've never experienced it myself though, but I can imagine it sucks. The whole blame lies in the person cheating, not who they're cheating with. But I would never sleep with someone taken out of principle.

 

[Arizona Kyle]

And by "help someone cheat", I mean "bang somebody who's taken", to put it bluntly.

On one hand, most of us wouldn't question that cheating is wrong. If you had a partner and he/she cheated on you, you'd be pretty upset. You wouldn't want anybody to cheat on you, so why would you ever help somebody cheat on somebody else? The idea of getting with somebody who's taken just fills you with guilt. It's hard enough to find somebody to love. What right do you have to drive a stake through somebody else's relationship?

But on the other hand, is it really your foul at all? What about the hypothetical person who's taken? Aren't they the ones in the wrong for following you to the bedroom? You cast your line, but they don't HAVE to take the bait. They can turn you down. But they chose not to. So should it really be your responsibility to avoid them if they're taken already? Why doesn't that responsibility fall solely on him/her?

So, I ask you Escapists, is it wrong to get it on with somebody who's taken? Or is it not your problem? Vote, and tell us what you think!

Yes the blame is BOTH on you and the other person... Even the thought of cheating on someone should shame you

 

[gazumped]

If someone was about to murder someone and you handed them the knife to stab them, would you have done something wrong?

Obviously cheating isn't quite as bad as murder, but you get my point. Saying 'it's not my problem, I'm not technically doing anything wrong' is basically saying 'yeah, I can get away with it on a loophole so I'm gonna totally screw this person over!'

 

[McNinja]

And by "help someone cheat", I mean "bang somebody who's taken", to put it bluntly.

On one hand, most of us wouldn't question that cheating is wrong. If you had a partner and he/she cheated on you, you'd be pretty upset. You wouldn't want anybody to cheat on you, so why would you ever help somebody cheat on somebody else? The idea of getting with somebody who's taken just fills you with guilt. It's hard enough to find somebody to love. What right do you have to drive a stake through somebody else's relationship?

But on the other hand, is it really your foul at all? What about the hypothetical person who's taken? Aren't they the ones in the wrong for following you to the bedroom? You cast your line, but they don't HAVE to take the bait. They can turn you down. But they chose not to. So should it really be your responsibility to avoid them if they're taken already? Why doesn't that responsibility fall solely on him/her?

So, I ask you Escapists, is it wrong to get it on with somebody who's taken? Or is it not your problem? Vote, and tell us what you think!

I'm sorry, I'm failing to see how this isn't a bad thing to do. It is cheating. Because someone is cheating. It's that f**king simple.

 

[Artina89]

It all just seems a lot more trouble than its worth, not to mention both parties are equally to blame (unless one person is single and is unaware that the other person is in a relationship). If someone is unsatisfied in a relationship, isn't it better to try and either talk it out with their partner, or if they are uncooperative and unwilling to listen, then calling time on the relationship? Or am I being stupid?

 

[Paksenarrion]

It's clear OP has made up his mind. My guess is, he's desperate for pantsu and is willing to do anything at this point in his life to get it. It's flattering to be found attractive by someone, and you'll start thinking, "Is it wrong to sleep with someone who finds you attractive? They're willing, right?"

You won't find any long term partners like this, but then again, I'm sure that was not your intention.

 

[maddawg IAJI]

Well...is it your fault if you help a person break into a house? Legal system says yes, it is. You share responsibility. You aided in the act, therefore, you are just as at fault.

 

[Lucifus]

When ive been cheated on im more annoyed that they have told me rather than the actual cheating taking place. If someone feels they should own up its to get rid of a guilty concious rather than doing anything meaningful. Even if I know its going on I just dont want to be told. However a sure fire way to get me annoyed is if someone slept with an ex or a friend.

Oh and cancelling plans so they can shag someone will get me annoyed too.

 

[kurupt87]

To be honest, the blame falls squarely on the person who is in the relationship. Either they are not worth dating (they've just cheated on their partner) or they have a crap partner (they've just cheated on their partner). Why take responsibility for someone elses actions?

Very rarely are you going to get someone who is genuinely happy with their relationship to cheat on their partner.

If anything, you can help the bad couples split up as they're clearly not a good fit. So yeah, you can argue you are actually helping them.

 

[LandoCristo]

If you know that they're already in a relationship, you should probably turn them down. But if they make you believe that they're single and/or available, then it's not your fault that he/she lied to both you and his/her partner.