I had this discussion with my boyfriend the last night, since we´ve been together for 6½ years now and the "appropriate time" for getting kids is getting near.
he is a definite kids person and his biggest dream is having a family, career comes secondary to him, so he wants one with in about 2 years, when he has graduated from his university and gotten a steady job(probably gonna get one even before he graduates so that really isn´t an issue).
me on the other hand questions whether I´m really fit for raising kids. ever.
Kids usually really like me, a lot, but I have a lot of emotional and mental issues that I don´t think is gonna get fixed, and against common belief I do not think it is a right that every human have to create children, it is such a huge responsibility that it shouldn´t be either.
so I won´t have kids until I believe my emotional and mental luggage won´t affect my children negatively.
besides, he wants 3 and I am all for a limitations of childbirth, 1 child max per grown up.
our planet is overpopulated as it is, so want more than 2? there is always adoption.
I´ve seriously considered that if I´m ever getting kids, I´m only gonna adopt.
I like the fact that there are actual procedures and more criteria for adopting than creating, people making sure you are actually fit to be a parent, should do the same for allowance of childbirth - . -