Let us review.
Valve has one of the best anti-cheat and anti-grief systems in gaming. We have the ability to vote people out of a game for being jackasses. You are not forced to buy anything from the store. You are not forced to wear hats. You are not forced to craft, trade for, use, or even keep any item you find. You are not forced to wear this hat which you call an insult. You are not forced to play this game. You are not forced to make a mountain out of a molehill.
I am sorry you feel the way that you do. Should you give up entirely on TF2, you will be missed. The next time I stand upon my last control point in the final seconds, whilst my team dies around me until I am the last man remaining, I shall think of you. When my minigun chews the last of it's ammo, the last sentry falls, and the BLU bastards finally take me, I shall cry a single solitary tear while looking at the team roster and seeing that we have one slot left unfilled.
Or maybe you will find a way to look past the bullshit they've tacked onto this game, as I have, and you will fight beside me to glorious victory. As my body falls, you will charge out of the respawn room firing not one, not two, but three unboosted crockets into the mass of BLUs while their pitiful Sniper stands in the back and curses his own cowardice for not running ahead and dying with his team. On this day, perhaps I shall even let you touch one of my guns. Maybe I can make extra Sandvich, and we will eat together while laughing at the corpses of our fallen enemies.
What do you say, comrade?