Slayer_2 said:
Comrade_Beric said:
Slayer_2 said:
ZephyriaSoul said:
Slayer_2 said:
In my first example, the transgender person is a drunk driver getting behind the wheel of the car (undergoing a mutilation you could loosely call "surgery"). The results of their actions are their own fault and they have no one else to blame when they get wrapped around a pole.
I wouldn't say it's much of a choice to be like this. The surgery, yes, it's a choice. But the actual transgender part of it...I was born like this.
Great, dress up in heels and a skirt, find a nice guy, whatever. Undergoing experimental surgery and hormone treatments is a terrible idea, in my opinion. Surgery should be mostly reserved for critical health-affecting conditions, a last resort if nothing else will do.
I don't really get it, I'll admit. If I woke up tomorrow in a female body, I'd think it was epic. And I'd be a lesbian, most likely. I sure as hell wouldn't have surgery.
Probably because you've already been a male your entire life and the change would be something new. Imagine if you'd never had your male parts in the first place... Could you really say that you cannot possibly see how someone in your position might want surgery to fix the problem?
That'd make it harder, I think. Can't miss what you never had. I'd miss the convenience of having a dick, but I certainly wouldn't attempt a dangerous, costly half-ass surgery.
This boils down to the case of if you have never been though the same situation as a transgender person, you can never really understand what they go through on a daily basis. Trust me, not a day goes by that I wish I wasn't transgender. From my earliest memories to right now it has been a source of unwanted stress in my life. And it is certainly not something I chose any more than someone chose to be black, or gay, or where they were born. You can and do choose your religion however.
Because you are not transgender, you will never understand the profound disconnect and self hatred that often comes with your body not matching what your mind says. And so many studies and personal experiences have shown that, if the dysphoria is strong enough, this is something you can't just 'get over' mentally. Some people for whom the gender dysphoria isn't as bad can learn to live with the way they are. But that's not universally true. Nobody fits precisely into neat little boxes, everyone is different.
Despite the fact that I will most likely never be able to afford it, surgery is something I need to feel whole. Sure, I am living as a female now, and have been for years. And I am happier with my life than I have been in my past because I am living true to myself. But every day, several times a day, I am reminded that I don't have the parts I should have. I can't ever really enjoy sex because it always reminds me of what I do have that I shouldn't, and what I should have that I don't. Surgery can help with that.
The procedures for transitioning and gender reassignment surgery are not experimental these days. Procedures, therapies, hormone regimes have been worked out over decades. Most gender reassignment surgeons have handled thousands of patients in their careers. There is more to learn of course, because there is always more to learn. But it's not like people are stumbling their way though the dark on this.
As I have said before, I don't have a problem with someone who doesn't find transgender people attractive, or who wouldn't date them, or even those who feel uncomfortable around us. Everyone has their own tastes, preferences and biases. But please understand, being transgender is not something we choose. If anything it is more like a birth defect. One that doesn't show up until later in life. And like other birth defects, it can vary in severity. Some people it's not so bad, and doesn't severely impact their lives. Some people it does have a strong impact on but with time, therapy and adjustment they can deal with it. For some people, it affects them so much that they need surgery to help overcome it, in addition to the time, therapy and adjustments.
But make no mistake, it is not a mental condition. It can't be cured though therapy, drugs or praying it away. Those things can help to cope... none of them deals with the core problem, your body and mind not agreeing on gender. And of those things, the body is the one that can be changed to bring them in alignment with each other.