- Dec 29, 2009
i am a pre-op trans female (female in a mans body). as such, of course i would date a trans person. frankly i dont understand why the gender someone USED to be would hold any relevancy
Ofcourse I'm not talking about dismissing the gender they choose during conversation with friends or something. Aferall, when you're in conversation with actual men and women you don't constantly refer to them by their gender, right? You refer to them by their personality.Mortai Gravesend said:That seems like a flimsy excuse though. You can expect people to not feel quite like the person is a man or woman, but while that cannot be controlled, whether they say the person is a man or a woman can be controlled. Sure you cannot expect a switch to just flip and make them feel that way. But independent of that they can recognize them, at least in words, as a man or woman. Which they aren't quite doing if they're saying "Oh but they're really this"Casual Shinji said:You can't force someone's thoughts or opinions.D Moness said:I am saddened by the replies that say i support them but do not see them in the gender they identify with ... to me that is not supporting it.
Just because someone altered themselves from man to woman or woman to man doesn't mean you can expect everyone around them to simply flip a switch in their brain and immediate, from balls to bone sorta speak, accept them as 100% woman/man. The human mind doesn't work like that.
But you ARE calling it a "lifestyle choice," which is both insulting and dismissive.Angry Juju said:I'd prefer my partner to be genuine to be honest.. It's a lifestyle choice but it would just seem fake to me if I were to date someone who was transgender.
(i'm not calling the act of being transgender fake, so please don't read it as if i'm insulting you)
Please do not take the sometimes abrasive and even ignorant statements of a few to represent the whole. The escapist is by and large populated by mostly tolerant, kind and open-minded people. And you'll be fine at a university if you just find the right people (cliche crap yes but it is very true).VoEC said:snip