Depending on the disability the only time I think I'd have an issue would be if I had to help take care of the other person I helped take care of my disabled grandpa for the last few years of his life and I don't think I could handle that in a relationship.
Poll: Would you date/sleep with a person that has a Physical handicap ?
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I actually have. I had a one night stand with a chick who I knew that had...well...half an arm? Her arm was not fully formed as a birth defect, so it ended at the elbow.
Regardless, she was hot and had a nice rack, so if anything THAT makes me shallow and not the fact she was handicapped
EDIT: I also personally don't see anything wrong with dating, or even marrying someone who has a physical handicap. They are people too, and most of them are totally awesome and down to earth. I'd rather marry a handicapped person who is awesome than someone who is fully functional and is a *****
Regardless, she was hot and had a nice rack, so if anything THAT makes me shallow and not the fact she was handicapped
EDIT: I also personally don't see anything wrong with dating, or even marrying someone who has a physical handicap. They are people too, and most of them are totally awesome and down to earth. I'd rather marry a handicapped person who is awesome than someone who is fully functional and is a *****
Honestly I don't know, I would like to think so but I just don't know. Deaf, maybe. Mute, Maybe, chances are I would miss the voice though, not a deal breaker by any means though. Disabled from the waste down, Maybe. Might even make the cuddling easier. But like I said I don't know, no way I can unless it happens.
well what if she had a huge bulge sticking out by her tailbone/ass, and she had 3rd degree burns surrounding her ass and vagina?SckizoBoy said:
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Yeah i might be shallow, but it'd be on a case to case basis, some i could deal/cope with if i knew the person well enough and we had something going, but i'm more leaning toward the "no" side of dating.
i just don't think we could really connect the same on a physical level as i could with someone who doesn't have any kind of physical "mishap".
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I guess i should say if she couldn't see/hear/speak wouldn't bother me as much at all as missing limbs..hell i have a few family members/friends who are missing limbs, and i dont treat them any less, but if it comes to dating? that'd be the toughest i think...that or being ultra paralyzed =\ (and by missing limbs i mean like the whole damn arm/leg, or has a chunk of head missing)
but otherwise if it's like having 12 toes or missing a finger or just a weird birthmark then it wouldn't make much difference to me at all.
Depends. Sensory handicaps would present a barrier, but it would not be insurmountable. Physical handicaps depend; I can see myself with someone who was missing a limb, though it would be an ... interesting experience, to put it mildly. Beyond that I cannot imagine, but that is simply because I do not have experience with such people than that I find them inherently inferior.
I do think that there would be there fear that I was taking advantage of them somehow; "are they only obliging me because they get little of such attention?" sorta thing...
I do think that there would be there fear that I was taking advantage of them somehow; "are they only obliging me because they get little of such attention?" sorta thing...
I used to think that no, but now that I'm a little older I realized it's all about the love man. No point in being turned off because of a physical handicap as long as the girl loves us yeah? That's how I think now anyway. So yeah I would. If anyone is to say they wouldn't then that's fine too. If you can't bring yourself to do it then just don't.
It depends on whether I find it (or more likely one of its consequences) disgusting.
So in many cases probably not.
It's simply one part of the person, but it is likely to matter in any case. And those where it doesn't matter as much are when disabilities are more or less equal.
So in many cases probably not.
Perhaps the correct terminology is something that you consider an archaic slur.Grey Warden said:
I believe there is an exchange theory [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_exchange_theory] explanation for this behavior. It seems to me that in the general case, having a disability will limit activities in some way. This will either impose costs on a partner or close off certain avenues of reward. So what will be the equilibrium? A massive increase in the likelihood of someone with a particular disability becoming involved with someone who has the same disability-- because having the same disability makes its presence in each partner have the lowest cost. There is a comparative advantage because of an absolute disadvantage. We see this all the time in microeconomics.
It's simply one part of the person, but it is likely to matter in any case. And those where it doesn't matter as much are when disabilities are more or less equal.
All I see is people having perfectly legitimate preferences. There is a difference between being "accepting" and wanting to share a bed or have a close relationship. Having preferences is not ignorant, it's simply exercising one's judgment.
If they were in a wheel chair and I had to do stuff to take care of them occasionally that might even add to the attraction, if we're talking about a loving relationship. If I love someone I tend to want to go out of my way to help them/make their lives easier in any small way.
In the end, if I find someone attractive, I find them attractive. I don't know the formula for it but I can't see any of those things affecting it.
In the end, if I find someone attractive, I find them attractive. I don't know the formula for it but I can't see any of those things affecting it.
Depends on the sort of handicap. As some people have mentioned before me, if they were blind, deaf or mute, certainly. I would be sad that they could never hear my voice/see my face/talk to me the same way I can see/hear/talk to them, but otherwise, no problem.
A person whose legs don't function, maybe, if I liked the person well enough (altough I'd imagine it's take some getting used to).
A person with one or more missing limbs, tough...?
Probably not. Not that I find them worse people or anything, but I just can't see myself sexually attracted to someone who misses an arm or a leg (or something like it). I find a lot of people attractive and a lot of people unattractive and amputees would fall into the latter.
Of course that doesn't mean I can't befriend one
A person whose legs don't function, maybe, if I liked the person well enough (altough I'd imagine it's take some getting used to).
A person with one or more missing limbs, tough...?
Probably not. Not that I find them worse people or anything, but I just can't see myself sexually attracted to someone who misses an arm or a leg (or something like it). I find a lot of people attractive and a lot of people unattractive and amputees would fall into the latter.
Of course that doesn't mean I can't befriend one
Yes, i would. I see no reason that any physical handicap should mean that they're any less interesting or attractive. I dated a girl who couldnt speak. She could hear me, of course, so generally conversations were brief but you know, it was a good relationship, none the less. She was always attentive to what i was saying, and always liked to hear what i had to say, and she was very passionate with me.
... point taken, though some may still find that attractive.gmaverick019 said:
However, my second girlfriend had a massive scar through her eyelid and down the left side of her face... how'd I do?
EDIT: Also, we're skirting the line between disfigurement and disability...
