Poll: Your aging parents.
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My grandparents are in their seventies and doing fairly well (my Grandma, mainly. My grandpa has heart issues)
My parents seem like tough folk.
As dickish as it sounds, I really hope I don't have to care for them. To UK Escapists, have you seen Outnumbered? The mum's dad really complicates things for everyone.
I want them to be happy though and would rather pay for a nice home for them rather than put them into a government issue one. Fortunately, both my grandparents and parents were/are very sensible in setting up pensions.
It actually amazes me that people often just don't bother with that. It's idiotic, and a dick move to your kids.
My parents seem like tough folk.
As dickish as it sounds, I really hope I don't have to care for them. To UK Escapists, have you seen Outnumbered? The mum's dad really complicates things for everyone.
I want them to be happy though and would rather pay for a nice home for them rather than put them into a government issue one. Fortunately, both my grandparents and parents were/are very sensible in setting up pensions.
It actually amazes me that people often just don't bother with that. It's idiotic, and a dick move to your kids.
I see what you mean, but chances are I will be a parent someday, and the last thing I would want on earth would be to have my children grow up, then spend the best years of their life looking after doddery old me.Mflick said:
Then again, old age in general is something I wouldn't mind steering well clear of in the first place.
May want to drop this fact to her: If she's going to go to dignitas, or some other euthanization clinic, she needs to do it before senility hits.rolfwesselius said:
They can't legally assist someone who is not of sound mind.
In Australia we have retirement villages.
These are basically nice communities, nice houses, all around the same age. It's like the pre-heaven stage. Lol
These are basically nice communities, nice houses, all around the same age. It's like the pre-heaven stage. Lol
My parents are pretty independent. And my grandparents still live in their own homes despite now reaching... Let's say, quite a good age. 
Through conversations about it, I know that my parents don't want to live in some old-person home. They're both very healthy at their current age, so it's likely they'll be the same as my grandparents and not need assistance, even after they turn "old". But since we're talking about hypothetical situations here anyway, if we assume that things do turn around and they do need assistance, they'd want in-home care. Furthermore, they'd probably want to pay for it themselves, though us kids would indeed want to chip in when we can...
Through conversations about it, I know that my parents don't want to live in some old-person home. They're both very healthy at their current age, so it's likely they'll be the same as my grandparents and not need assistance, even after they turn "old". But since we're talking about hypothetical situations here anyway, if we assume that things do turn around and they do need assistance, they'd want in-home care. Furthermore, they'd probably want to pay for it themselves, though us kids would indeed want to chip in when we can...
Fair enough.rolfwesselius said:
I do support euthanasia, so I good luck if her time does roll around.
You're going to especially love this. [http://thelede.blogs.nytimes.com/2012/02/22/dutch-puzzled-by-santorums-false-claim-they-practise-forced-euthanasia/]rolfwesselius said:
I figured most people (even those whose parents weren't dead) would just choose that option if it were on the poll because it seems like the easiest, and I wanted to get a good diverse range of opinions.malestrithe said:
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Yep. By the time you end up finishing payments you end up paying like three or four times the original price thanks to all the interest. It's crazy. I can explain it to them until I'm blue in the face, but they don't care. I really don't understand how someone can be that bad with their resources. Y'know, I get why people would make only minimum payments if they simply couldn't afford to do more... but my parents never had that excuse.Acrisius said:
I'll probably end up supporting them somehow anyway, because at the end of the day I'm a big softy... but right now, while I can be all-talk, I think I have every right to tell them that I can't drag them out of the hole they've dug for themselves.
Will do!Acrisius said:Happy birthday in advance. Eat an extra piece of cake for me. Promise!!
I'd pay for in-home care, my partner is a domiciliary carer (those who go to the homes and look after people) and it's a great balance between still feeling independent (if they still have that capability) but also being looked after by someone and helped everyday in their own home.
If it came to the worse and they really needed intense 24hour care I'd send them to the best home I could with theirs and my money pooled together.
If it came to the worse and they really needed intense 24hour care I'd send them to the best home I could with theirs and my money pooled together.
I'm lucky in this regard, my folks own three rental properties that they can sell when they get to that point (my mother actually retired two months ago) My Dad has another decade of work left in him, and he loves his job.... So they would probably sell those to help pay for live in assistance.
Wait!Dags90 said:
Are you..
Are you saying that, not everything that's in a cup, is a drink?
Blasphemy! And slightly unsettling to attempt to comprehend.
Anyway, I'm not sure. Havn't thought about this. I think either pay for in-home care or get them into "the nice place" where care is fully provided. Either way, I'm doing what I need to support them as best as I can, for I hope to some day be offered help by my child(ren) when I'm too old to take care of myself.