Pressured to Play

Lord_Ascendant

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I can't take it anymore,

I spent the past three days playing Tribes: Ascend. I didn't play it because I wanted to, I played it because everyone else I know plays it and kept asking "Why don't you try it?". I was pressured to play it not just by friends, I can ignore them when they plea for me to do anything. The internet itself seemed to be alive, and commanding me to play it. Several youtubers I follow extoll the virtues of Tribes: Ascend as the best PC shooter and the most competitive and that all other PC shooters paled in comparison to the mighty behemoth of amazing that Tribes: Ascend was. Reviews were nothing short of glowing praise, finding nothing wrong with the game and even going so far as to say that the game itself was perfect. Video walkthroughs and guides of all kinds appeared to teach new players how to play Tribes, something veteran players of previous games took to with gusto. But the difficulty curve is steep and progress is slow. Gamers all over the web praise Tribes: Ascend as being as close to perfect as a shooter can get and that if you don't play it you're an imbecile and should play it right now because it's free and who doesn't like free stuff? Alternatively if you play it and hate it, like I did, you're a moron because it is so perfect and you just suck go QQ moar noob etc etc.

This isn't the first time I felt every angle of my life was pressuring me to play a game. It was like this with Halo, a game I only begrudgingly respect for being a good casual game to play with friends and only have ventured online to play Grifball. It was the same with Gears of War, which I despised as being bland and monotonous. Same again with Killing Floor which I do respect for being tight and focused, I also damn it giving my fragile heart a scare every time the Patriarch appears suddenly and shoots me dead or any one of the mutant freaks attack me to the point where I couldn't play because I was so afraid I had panic attacks. The same for Global Agenda, Magicka and many other games I own. I can even count Skyrim but that I am okay with because I love Skyrim.

I feel like the gaming community asserts a lot of pressure on its members to play certain games not because those people WANT to, but because if they don't they aren't considered part of the group. As if playing Deus Ex was an entry fee to an exclusive club and daily games of Starcraft II or Tribes: Ascend are the dues. Tribes: Ascend is too obtuse and difficult. It makes me motion sick with its skiing mechanic and I don't like it.

Have you, the community, ever felt pressured to play a game not out of curiosity but because "everyone else" was playing it?
 

Sean Hollyman

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Call of Duty.

Literally in school, everoyone played it. Everyone talked about it. Nobody ever shut the fuck up about it.

I'm past it now though.
 

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You're letting yourself get way too emotionally involved into opinions and thought-spaces across the internet. You should be trusting yourself, and your judgement, while still being able to listen others. I constantly frequent sites like the RPGcodex, which makes heated discussions on boards like this look like child's play, and I don't get overly worked up if they disagree with what I perceive as good. This requires some semblance of detachment, so I'd suggest working on it.

Its good you're trying different things, but don't be dominated by opinions of the internet.
 

ultrabiome

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play what you like.

the hype surrounding a released game from players (forums or friends) usually means that there is something people like about it, so of course that could be argued as 'mental pressure' to play it, but it would be better to use the judgement of what YOU like and use hype as well as reviews from multiple source to decide whether to try a game. then only play the ones you like. there are way too many games, many of which are excellent (at least to some people), to play stuff you don't like.
 

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The problem I'm detecting is that you're trying to be a part of the group. When talking about gamers, that is a terrible, terrible idea. Just play whatever the hell you want and don't rage when someone likes something you don't like.
 

oplinger

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I like tribes a lot. I made the mistake of playing is as soon as it was released, the grind was about twice as terrible, and there was no variety in the game at all. :( So you at least got a better experience than me.

I have, however, not been pressured into playing a game. I deal with people talking about it, and when it all goes away, and I find it cheap as hell on a slow period in my gaming, I pick it up. Generally I am disappointed..

Pressuring me into playing something usually makes me that guy who hates the game, even though he's never played it. That kinda clouds my judgement on the game, so...me playing it later lets a lot of that go. I'm never part of "the group"
 

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Occasionally, I've played something a lot of people played simply because I'm curious. Mostly if something had really mixed reviews, I always like to be able to form my own opinion on it.

I've never felt pressured into playing a game, though.
 

teqrevisited

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Nope. Though I do know a lot of people who clamour for my return to World of Warcraft. Thankfully I escaped the event horizon of that time & money black hole at least a year ago and it's looking much better from where I am now.

I play what I like and I like what I play. Right now I can take about an hour or so of Tribes before I feel like jumping off of a bridge. It's not bad but it's nothing to write home about and not something I'm going to spend money on. I don't play it enough for a start.
 

Rawne1980

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Nope, because I can think for myself.

May sound like a silly thing to say but this isn't the first time i've seen someone saying they felt "pressured" and not just about games.

If I don't want to play/do something then I simply won't play/do it. They can tell me to do it or play it and advertise it until the cows start farting rainbows ... I'f it's not for me then i'm going to tell them to piss off.
 

lRookiel

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Rawne1980 said:
Nope, because I can think for myself.
Pretty much this, haha

My friends in secondary school were all begging me to play Gears of war 2 when it came out, I eventually got it for a Christmas present or something...

Play what you want is what I think....
 

Redlin5_v1legacy

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I enjoy Tribes.... <.<

Anyway, the only thing I was pressured to join by those I game with is Steam and when I finally did I fell in love.

So I guess I don't have a comparable experience.
 

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I normally play what I fancy, but Half Life 2 and Portal I had to play just to shut up my housemate. Then he stood behind me and kept asking me if I enjoyed it. Glad to say that keyboard did not die in vain. Strangely enough I really enjoyed Half Life 2 when playing it on my own terms some months later though.
 

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Lord_Ascendant said:
It's a terrible shooter, I wouldn't feel bad if you don't play it. I was in Alpha testing, shitty then and shitty now.
Whoooh I can slide down a slope and then jetpack whilst shooting people.

Fan.Fucking.Tastic.

I've never felt pressured to play anything, I tend not to hang around with cunts who make me feel like that.
Playing something with your friends is because you want too, not because they ass ram your chat logs until you do so.
I've turned myself to offline mode when my friends annoy me by talking to me, I don't care.
 

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Erm... No, I can honestly say I've never felt that pressured into playing something. There have been times buddies of mine have said "dude, play this" and I have, only to find it mediocre, but I've never felt like I had to do it to be part of a "group" of some sort. Hell, I had a Halo PC clan for years, and when Halo 2 came out most of the clan switched over to that. It took me another two years to pick that up and, aside from the occasional jokes about how I was so behind, no one gave a crap. Usually when I'm "pressured" into buying something it ends up being a good investment, and I don't buy it until I know it's a good investment.

Hell, it took me until this current Steam summer sale to buy any of the Half-Life games, any Bioshock game, the Assassin's Creed games, Fallout: New Vegas... I just never cared about them and didn't bother buying them until they were at a price range I felt was worth it (in this case, $20 for the entirety of the series in all cases, except for the $5 F:NV).

I will say that right now a few friends are bugging me to buy and play the DayZ mod for ARMAII, but I'm waiting to see if that ends up going on sale before I get it. And I've watched them play and know I'll have fun when I do buy it.
 

Delsana

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Peer pressure works for everything.

Getting naked in front of your peers.

Trying and then later smoking cigars (sometimes it works for other smoking too).

Trying and then later drinking alcohol.. first socially and then.. more.

Joining a private group.

Killing someone you know.

And now apparently games.
 

Delsana

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Apollo45 said:
ERm... No, I can honestly say I've never felt that pressured into playing something. There have been times buddies of mine have said "dude, play this" and I have, only to find it mediocre, but I've never felt like I had to do it to be part of a "group" of some sort. Hell, I had a Halo PC clan for years, and when Halo 2 came out most of the clan switched over to that. It took me another two years to pick that up and, aside from the occasional jokes about how I was so behind, no one gave a crap. Usually when I'm "pressured" into buying something it ends up being a good investment, and I don't buy it until I know it's a good investment.

Hell, it took me until this current Steam summer sale to buy any of the Half-Life games, any Bioshock game, the Assassin's Creed games, Fallout: New Vegas... I just never cared about them and didn't bother buying them until they were at a price range I felt was worth it (in this case, $20 for the entirety of the series in all cases, except for the $5 F:NV).

I will say that right now a few friends are bugging me to buy and play the DayZ mod for ARMAII, but I'm waiting to see if that ends up going on sale before I get it. And I've watched them play and know I'll have fun when I do buy it.
If they said play something and you did as they said, then you were peer pressured, doesn't matter if it was to fit into a group or not, you did it.
 

Apollo45

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Delsana said:
If they said play something and you did as they said, then you were peer pressured, doesn't matter if it was to fit into a group or not, you did it.
Sure, if you want to go at it that way, then I suppose playing games at all, unless you discovered them by yourself and no one has ever suggested anything of the sort to you, is peer pressure. That's how I got in to gaming in the first place; a friend of mine was playing Red Alert and said I should pick it up.

There's a difference between feeling pressured into doing something to the point where you explode like the OP did and a buddy telling you to play with him and going sure, why the hell not. And I can safely say I've never felt the first kind of pressure in the gaming world.
 

Delsana

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Apollo45 said:
Delsana said:
If they said play something and you did as they said, then you were peer pressured, doesn't matter if it was to fit into a group or not, you did it.
Sure, if you want to go at it that way, then I suppose playing games at all, unless you discovered them by yourself and no one has ever suggested anything of the sort to you, is peer pressure. That's how I got in to gaming in the first place; a friend of mine was playing Red Alert and said I should pick it up.

There's a difference between feeling pressured into doing something to the point where you explode like the OP did and a buddy telling you to play with him and going sure, why the hell not. And I can safely say I've never felt the first kind of pressure in the gaming world.
When you are suggested something, no that's not peer pressure. When you've already decided not to do and then you're told to and then you do it. For whatever reason you want to call it, you are receiving peer pressure.