- Oct 5, 2010
It doesn't matter what name you use, you just make it clear that you are trying to hang onto any kind relationship you can get with her, which puts pressure on the other party who just wanted a fun time. And if I noticed it as a guy in this very short exchange then you can be absolutely assured that lady knows without a doubt where this train is going, places she didn't want to go, places that remind her of bad shit.auron200004 said:I'm just referring to it as a relationship in the very bare-bones definition. If you'd prefer "interactions" or something, that's what I mean by that.
Are you sure that won't just serve to alienate things further? She's made it pretty clear that she doesn't want any sort of substantial thing right now, and if I refer to it as a date she will probably assume I'm trying to kickstart a relationship. I mean, we hang out, sometimes alone. Those are...effectively, I guess...dates in all but name, yeah?
And yes resetting things will alienate what you have going on completely, that is the point, because your situation can not improve the way it is going. So if you make it clear this can't go on but you are available for a fun date and leave her to ponder, things should break down to "This cool guy I met and had a good time with has an open invitation for a fun date."
If you try to press the issue however it will remain at "This guy I'm unsure of wants me in a relationship."
Also as long as the current friendship keeps going everything will only ever count as a friendly exchange, you need to decide if you will stick to only that or break the mold all together.