Question of the Day, July 25, 2010

[Mookie_Magnus]

Of course they can... There are lots of Lesbians and Gay men who are friends. And don't say they don't count, because you didn't specify.

Now, being serious. Yeah, you can be friends with a member of the opposite gender without there being any secondary sexual attraction between the two. If there is any primary sexual attraction, that is all just based on physical appearance, and that usually cannot be helped.

I had lots of female friends in high school whom I had no romantic feelings for, and we got along just fine.

 

[ARatherHandsomeGent]

As a a majority of my friends are female (me being male) yes, yes they can.

 

[superbatranger]

It's possible. I have friends who are girls. Do I like them? Yes, but only as friends. Hell, isn't it actually common?

 

[Grayjack]

No offense, but this is the stupidest question I have ever seen. Of course you can be "just friends."

 

[Odbarc]

Can you be just friends with your sister? Cousin? An ugly chick? Yes. Yes. Yes. So long as you have the self control or lack of sexual interest in such a woman, you can 100% absolutely be just friends with them.

 

[David_G]

Well... duh. I have friends who are girls, and I'm not attracted to them, I might find them pretty, but that doesn't mean I want her to be my girlfriend, it's like finding a guy attractive, it doesn't mean that you'd go gay for them, but that you acknowledge their hotness.

 

[coldfrog]

Most of my friends are girls...
It says an unfortunate amount about my growing up (and my current girlfriend isn't always to happy about it either).

 

[dmase]

yes...with some sexual tension every once in awhile but thats a given.

 

[veloper]

In most cases there will still be sexual attraction, repressed or not, unless the girl is ugly or the guy is gay. People are animals like that.

 

[Timbydude]

As bad as it sounds, the likelihood greatly increases if both people aren't too attractive. And there are plenty of unattractive people in the world, so yes.

 

[Kraj]

Yup. Since I have a long list of requirements to find someone attractive; I've only ever felt even mildly interested in maybe 15 women in the 22 years I've been alive. And only 4 of them enough to date, "long term relationships"

For all the other women; friendship is their highest hope for me. I'm not going to budge on standards.

 

[reg42]

Of course, take all my female friends for example.

 

[Captain Pancake]

I'm sure it can happen, but it's never happened with me. If I have a friend who is a girl I'll feel some sort of attraction pretty soon just for being around me that often.

 

[LordWalter]

Yes, but one (or both) must find the other at least slightly sexually repulsive.

bahahah

 

[StriderShinryu]

Very rarely, yes. In the vast majority of cases, however, even if it does appear to be a platonic friendship at least one of the two parties is going to be hiding their true feelings or desires for things to go further.

 

[Sprntr_Zomby]

Almost all my female friends (about 70% of my friends) I feel no sort of atraction to. I don't know it's different for non-autistics, but I've never had a problem being just friends with a girl.