Sex, how do you see it?

[A velociraptor]

So, I've been reading a webcominc lately called "Niels" and the tagline describes the main character as "Evil. Bisexual. Dane." (he's from Denmark, not a dog.) At one point, the author talks about how Niels views sex as the ultimate act of love. Not only physical, but as a expression of loyalty; and it's really started making me think about how I view sexuality and the act of sex.

To me, the act of sex isn't something forbidden or taboo, but it's not just a hobby either. It's something reserved for someone that you're willing to consider a very long term relationship with. Having sex with someone is saying "I will be there for you forever." For me, it's the ultimate expression of love in loyalty. This is a person that I will be there forever for. Regardless of any circumstance. I suppose that it could be called a physical display of the "to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part" part of the wedding vow.

So, how do you see the act of sex? Is it holy and reserved for marriage? Or do you see it more along the lines of "you and me baby aint nothin' but mammals, so let's do it like they do on the discovery channel."?

Additionally, here's a link to the comic that I was talking about if anyone's interested in reading it.
http://humoncomics.com/love-me-the-scandinavian-way

 

[similar.squirrel]

Both ways. It can be a profound act of love and so forth, but I have no qualms about doing it casually either.
There's a difference between making love and having sex, the way I see it.

 

[AngloDoom]

So, I've been reading a webcominc lately called "Niels" and the tagline describes the main character as "Evil. Bisexual. Dane." (he's from Denmark, not a dog.) At one point, the author talks about how Niels views sex as the ultimate act of love. Not only physical, but as a expression of loyalty; and it's really started making me think about how I view sexuality and the act of sex.

To me, the act of sex isn't something forbidden or taboo, but it's not just a hobby either. It's something reserved for someone that you're willing to consider a very long term relationship with. Having sex with someone is saying "I will be there for you forever." For me, it's the ultimate expression of love in loyalty. This is a person that I will be there forever for. Regardless of any circumstance. I suppose that it could be called a physical display of the "to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part" part of the wedding vow.

So, how do you see the act of sex? Is it holy and reserved for marriage? Or do you see it more along the lines of "you and me baby aint nothin' but mammals, so let's do it like they do on the discovery channel."?

Additionally, here's a link to the comic that I was talking about if anyone's interested in reading it.
http://humoncomics.com/love-me-the-scandinavian-way

Unfortunately for me, it's the latter. I've only had the one girlfriend who even tried to hold sex as something sacred, and that lasted two months before she decided it was 'long enough'.

I've had girlfriends who admit they've had sex with me because they were scared of waiting and losing me, and I've gone along with it because I was sitting there thinking the same thing. Sex isn't sacred, per se, but I make a distinction between "sex" and "fucking"...

 

[megaraccoon]

sex can mean many different thing to different people its all based on thier own world view for e.g. someone like charlie sheen hardly see sex as an expression of love more a fun way to pass the time where-as my partner (were gay) feels it is a sacred bond shared between people who care for each other deeply IF they arn't wearing a condom otherwise its just meaningless pleasure I on the other hand view it as a physical expression of pleasure were ove is concerned I see that as more a metaphysical connection to a person rather than physical after all i'd still love my boyfriend even if we couldn't or did'nt want sex at all. and as for the "ultimate expression of love in loyalty" i believe not cheating on your partner qualifies for that position.

 

[The Rockerfly]

Sex is fun and at some point in my later life I will use it to have a child spawn of me

That is all of sex that is relevant to me

 

[Vampire cat]

Sex is just sex. It can be fun and interesting, most of the time it is, but it's still just sex. It's like cops and robbers, but for slightly older people =3. Everyone involved have fun while it lasts, and it doesn't really matter if they'll meet again tomorrow.

If I want to talk about the emotional version of it, I'd call it "making love". Guess love is the key word there, it implies that there is more than just a physical attraction. It also sounds so much cleaner and purer than sex, so it's a great word for those serious relationships.

But sex is great, and I kinda think it's silly when people say they are saving themselves for the right one. It's great fun and really really uhm. Good (god that sounded clichè)... It always leaves me feeling great and if I'm lucky I'll end up with a cute sex buddy for future playdates ^^.

I see sex as the bonus to a relationship.
I love to snuggle and cuddle and I view that in a very high regard.
Sex however.. Is just the bonus.

It may well be due to me being shallow and all that noise, but I can't agree. I'd go mad if I couldn't have sex for too long. Not only is it great fun in the act, but after you feel sooooo relieved and relaxed, like all the worlds troubles just resolved themselves. Then, after a little week, I'm all tense and angry again...

 

[RobCoxxy]

Both ways. It can be a profound act of love and so forth, but I have no qualms about doing it casually either.
There's a difference between making love and having sex, the way I see it.

Nailed it. No pun intended.

 

[The Wykydtron]

I tend to view it as something slightly disgusting, but then again that's just me overanalysing everything as usual

[sub]And yes i'm aware of the "but if you watch prOn how can you say that?" contradiction[/sub]

 

[LoFr3Eq]

Chrome Internet Browser.

 

[DefunctTheory]

Sex is exactly what you put into it. nothing more, nothing less. It can be the ultimate expression of love, or just sweaty exercise.

 

[Aetera]

I think that it can be either. It depends on whether you feel the need to satisfy yourself physically or emotionally. Same basic act, but very different motivations and... I can't think of a better word than "technique" at the moment due to it being 7 AM here and me being still awake, so it will have to do.

 

[Aphex Demon]

If it's a girl I am 'seeing' then I guess it's a bit of fun, and yeah I do really enjoy it at times (Preferably before 10 beers...)

Although if you devote your love to a girl and want to show that I suppose sex is a way of doing so, in some cases I think it's how passionate you are in the bedroom that expresses how much you love a girl.

 

[dex-dex]

I don't see sex
I feel it!
also I have no idea why it is taboo to some people. I mean if it was not around, then you would not be here!

 

[laserwulf]

I'm curious to find out from some of my waiting-until-marriage friends what they think about sex six months or so after their wedding night. Maybe it's different when your social conditioning makes it the ultimate forbidden fruit, but from my perspective once you've been in a loving long-term relationship, the magical feeling wears off and sex becomes just another activity. Granted, it's a -really- fun activity, but that sense of bonding with your soulmate can happen regardless of what you two are doing (such as cuddling at a Laser Daft Punk show).

 

[Vault101]

I guess it can be what ever you want it to be

for me personally I dont see it as particually sacred

and as for the whole "saving yourself" thing, well for religious reasons yeah I guess but really I think thats kinda niave

 

[BonsaiK]

So, how do you see the act of sex? Is it holy and reserved for marriage? Or do you see it more along the lines of "you and me baby aint nothin' but mammals, so let's do it like they do on the discovery channel."?

Depends on who I'm with. I like the "deep meaningful lovemaking" scenario but I'm more than happy to settle for the "hey we just met, you're hot, let's do it", and in my experience, the second often leads to the first anyway.

 

[katsumoto03]

Sex: Nothing special about it, it just feels really fucking nice.

 

[Arkynomicon]

Sex: Nothing special about it, it just feels really fucking nice.

Pretty much this.

 

[Superior Mind]

Sex can be the "ultimate act of love". It can also be a way to work off steam or just something to do when bored. I keep thinking all those who claim that sex is just the ultimate act of love reserved for that one special person are those who don't get any.

I'm a romantic, I like the idea of sex being a deep meaningful thing - which it can be - but I'm also a realist and most times sex is purely physical.

 

[joshuaayt]

Sex is that thing you have more often then a mutually respectful, loving relationship. It is capable of disguising itself as the latter, however, so you must be wary.

I don't see sex as anything other than a means to an end- a way to end the natural discomfort that accompanies a deficit of sexual activity. I respect the views of those who apply some sort of importance to the act, but I certainly don't.

I will agree that it is an entirely personal act- I'm not implying, by saying it is unimportant, that non-con is ok.