Sexy Sex and You

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Itdoesthatsometimes said:
Closed doors!!!! so limiting.
You know those really tiny apartments where they save space by having kind of a half-story gallery, which is like cheating an extra level into the flat, but everything is still in one open airspace with no walls or doors?
When two of you decide to have at it in one of those when there are people "down" in the living "room" trying to sleep, things tend to turn funny. Or awkward.

Usually funny, though.
 

nightmare_gorilla

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7, I've been with 7 women, 4 of which I was in a relationship with at the time. I think it's about right for me because it is how many I've been with, had I been with 35 women that would still be right for me because that would be the number I was with.

Honestly I think we care way too much about what other people think of our sex lives. what you dig is what you dig and what you get is what you get. just because you've been with 5 and someone else has been with 500 that doesn't make your 5 any less special unless you personally regret the experience. I only marginally regret one of my partners but that's mostly because I found out later she had a boyfriend.

my thing is I don't drink, nor do I particularly enjoy the company of drunk people, so no bars and no house parties which substantially cuts down on opportunity for one night stands of course it also cuts down on the negative side effects of one night stands. Personally I don't like 'em but I don't judge anyone else's sexuality. one girl I was with there was no relationship attachment either way but we had a crazy sex drive whenever we were around each other it was just nonstop sex or resting up for the next round. we parted pretty amicably when she started dating a guy she really liked but had one last going away weekend long sex session. She had this weird thing where she wanted me to beat on her while we were having sex, like really hit her and smack her and choke her. I couldn't do it, I don't have it in me to hurt someone I feel close to and being buried to the hilt IS pretty close even if not in a relationship manner.

I've never been smooth, I tend to be upfront about that because I can be kinda corny or dopey in conversation when I like a girl. what I do claim is honesty or being genuine. I'm just me and I don't pretend to be anything i'm not. which actually tends to work out better.

When it comes to sex my general rule of thumb is there's something you do that someone else thinks is kinky as all hell and obscene while someone else thinks that same thing is tame and boring and not worth even doing. so I don't judge as long as everyone involved gives consent.

for the record i'm 28.
 

gonzo20

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ive only done it once, with one of my friends, did it on the beach cause we were both drunk.

i was 19 at the time and im 23 now and had no other sexual encounters, mostly cause im an antisocial fuck who cant talk to girls but for some reason they think im humorous when i do muster up the courage to talk to them, must be cause im a bit clumsy or forward at times, or i sound sarcastic as hell.

ive considered going to see an escort to be honest because i think about it all the time and masturbate a lot, I MEAN A LOT! im not the worst looking guy once ive had a haircut, i just need to be a bit more confident.

so there is my incredible sex life clearly.
 

gonzo20

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also im not very picky, i even find some girls who have a little bit of weight to them kinda attractive at times. ladies! single man here and i can be all yours.
 

Evil Moo

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I have had none at 23 years old. I don't expect that number to increase in the foreseeable future. I have a habit of not leaving my house and a complete aversion to social events/situations which basically precludes any possibility of sexual encounters (or any other encounters for that matter).

I've nothing against casual sex in principle, but I'm not sure if I would be comfortable exposing myself to that extent to someone I don't know well. At the same time I doubt I'll ever get a chance for a relationship given that I can't bring myself to care about the strange social dance that seems to go along with acquiring and maintaining one. I've heard it said that one shouldn't go out looking for a relationship, you'll just find it, however, the whole not leaving the house and disliking everywhere with lots of people doesn't help in that regard. So essentially I'm opting out of both sex and relationships by default. This is something I'd be fine with if not for the biological drive to have sex, which serves only to create internal conflict. If I could get rid of that with no unwanted side effects, I'd be set.
 

Foolery

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So, this is a thread about the number of sexual partners you've had, if any.
Zero.

Do you think your number is too high, too low or completely meaningless?
Low.

Do you judge other people based on how many people they've had sex with or think there's a limit to the amount of sexual partners a person should have?
Nah. I don't really care. That's their business, not mine and if I was to judge someone it'd be for more serious reasons. But I know people often do. Teasing their friends and such.

Do you perhaps think that sex should be reserved for two people who are in a relationship or do you skulk around dance floors and chip shops at four in the morning desperate to find a decent looking randomer to bring home for the night?
I have heard it's better with a close partner you trust and that's likely what I would prefer, were I in a relationship.

If you've never had a sexual partner, is there a reason you don't want to or has the opportunity just not presented itself?
I just don't how to talk to people. I never really have. It's painful. I can't make friends easily. So trying to meet women in a romantic or sexual capacity likely won't happen. I'm not hideous or the elephant man, and I take care of myself, but social anxiety hinders me. My resting face is also very intimidating. Like Clint Eastwood. I look stern as fuck. Been told I don't smile much, and it's true.

Including your age would also be helpful. I say helpful, it's not really helpful as this entire thread is stupid, it just provides a more complete picture.
22, nearly 23.
 

Andrey Sirotin

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Colour Scientist said:
Do you think your number is too high, too low or completely meaningless? Do you judge other people based on how many people they've had sex with or think there's a limit to the amount of sexual partners a person should have?
I don't think it matters. The one thing I judge people on in regards to sex is honesty; I definitely loose respect for people who cheat.

Colour Scientist said:
Do you perhaps think that sex should be reserved for two people who are in a relationship or do you skulk around dance floors and chip shops at four in the morning desperate to find a decent looking randomer to bring home for the night?
As long as both parties are consenting adults it's none of my business.

Colour Scientist said:
Including your age would also be helpful.
I'm 23 ; I've had 9 partners.I guess five should be considered relationships.
 

Plasticaprinae

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Female, 20, I have been with 1 woman, who I have been seeing for the past 5 years.

I do admit i do judge people by the number they have, not necessarily in a bad way. Virgins, dont care. Lots of sexual partners? I just dont understand how that can happen. It might be because I don't go out very often. I usually like to have some romance or at least close friendship when it comes to sexy times. I dont like flirting with strangers. I'm pretty paranoid of falling on a landmine of a person.

Also, I do feel like my number is a bit low, but Im not about to ruin a good relationship over it. She feels like its a bit low for herself too and we are seeing about making the relation open, but we want it to be natural.
 

Itdoesthatsometimes

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I'm lazy and unmotivated, also terrified at the prospect of being a slave-boy to someone who doesn't give two shits about my feelings or needs, yet expects me to fulfill theirs without even communicating with me what they want. That's pretty much what's expected of me as a man looking to get into any kind of romantic or sexual relationship with a woman, and i'd take internet proxy over that any day of the week.
Well, I understand this view. I sort have that same view going on right now. However, you can not apply this to every woman. Like I said I am going through a similar thing, but I know for fact that there are great women out there. I've earned my right to be a bitter old shit. You should be more concerned about having fun. Speaking of...


insaninater said:
22yo mostly-striaght, probably-at-least-a-bit-bi male.
Do you have deep eyes? I am basically a virgin when it comes too men.
 

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shrekfan246 said:
I seem to have the unique ability to kill the mood with any girl no matter the situation or what they're into.

I don't get it. Just the other night even I happened to screw everything up again. Can someone explain where I went wrong?

We were chillin' out, mackin', relaxing all cool on the bed when she leaned back and said, "Tell me what you want." Naturally and without missing a beat, I said the only thing I possibly could: "I want ethics in games journalism."
...


You, sir, win the internet.
 

Xan Krieger

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24 never even been kissed. I've been hugged though if that helps any. Never been on a date either.
 

JB1528

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22 years old, lost it at 16 and I'm around 25 sexual partners and dated 3 of them.

My best friend however dwarfs my number at over 80 and I don't know how he does it.

Edit: I've noticed some people count second base and beyond, when you throw that into the mix my number jumps up to around 50 (College makes this type of thing really easy). But me personally I only count it if penetration occurred.
 
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Colour Scientist said:
Brought to you by Colour Scientist, resident pervert.

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You may be the resident pervert but I am the resident deviant!
I think that outranks you :D

I've had around 30 female sexual partners and exactly 10 male ones. I don't like talking about my male experiences though.
I was drunk for a good half of my sexual experiences so the exact number is really foggy lol.
I'm not counting oral, groping, heavy petting, other acts.
Full on vaginal and anal intercourse only.
Mmm, those words make it sound so sexy.

I feel my number is a bit high, makes me a bit uncomfortable now for reasons.
When it comes to my long term partners I'm generally uncomfortable with anyone thats had more than 10 or so partners.
Doesn't bother me much though.

I prefer relationship sex but most of my partners came from one-night stands or a "friends with benefits" type situations.
I don't care how other people prefer to get their sex though.

I'm 21 and lost my virginity when I was very young.
I'd rather not say the age.

Currently hoping to add @T0ad 0f Truth: and @Imp Emissary: to that list.
>.>
Am I serious about that? Nobody will ever know >.>
I'm not serious about that guys. Sorry, you're devastated, I know.
 

Zombie_Fish

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Colour Scientist said:
Brought to you by Colour Scientist, resident pervert.
Aren't we all?

So, this is a thread about the number of sexual partners you've had, if any.
Two. Both when I was eighteen.

Do you think your number is too high, too low or completely meaningless? Do you judge other people based on how many people they've had sex with or think there's a limit to the amount of sexual partners a person should have?
As long as it's consenting and legal, I couldn't care less. That goes for my life and others.

Do you perhaps think that sex should be reserved for two people who are in a relationship or do you skulk around dance floors and chip shops at four in the morning desperate to find a decent looking randomer to bring home for the night?
Again, couldn't care less. Both of the people I slept with I was friends with,[footnote]Well, one was a one night stand that became a friendship.[/footnote] but neither were relationships.

I would like a relationship at some point, but given my degree and my terrible time management I wouldn't trust myself with one right now.

Including your age would also be helpful.
Twenty one.

I say helpful, it's not really helpful as this entire thread is stupid, it just provides a more complete picture.
This is possibly the first time I've ever seen a self-deprecating thread on these forums. Either that or I can't remember the last time I saw one.
 

Imperioratorex Caprae

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I was 18 when I lost mine, since then I lost count during my 20's because I didn't really care and they all sort of blur together. Since I've been married, I stay with my wife. Sex isn't that big a deal for me, never really was. Just when I was younger it was something to do and I hated sleeping alone but didn't want a relationship. I'd say its more than 20 and less than 120 and leave it at that because I'm both unsure and possibly misremembering parts of life. Everyone has the same issue with memory though, we tend to remember things different than what actually happened or inflate or deflate numbers because of that. Its nothing bad, but I can say with certainty that it was definitely between 20 and 120... Makes me feel awkward actually just thinking about it now that I'm older and way different than I was back then.
Put it this way, moved from Florida to California at 20, lived there for a year and somehow got an education on how to get laid and came back to Florida armed to the teeth with a lot more experience and self-confidence than I'd ever had. Now I'm 34 and I wonder how the fuck I was able to do any of that...
Also wonder how the fuck I managed never to have kids or get a disease, yes I used proper protection but I've known folks who have had both happen despite using protection.
 

Vault101

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I'm 22 turning 23 and have never had sex, had a relationship at 18 but that never went that far (mainly because of me) aside from that I'm not very social so I've never had the opportunity

but just recently I met a guy, reasonably hot and we seem to be on the same page in a lot of ways, and I'm unless I'm completely socially inept I'm fairly certain he's interested...or at least the possibility

but then I thought to myself [I/]"do I actually want to have sex with him? or would I just be happy having a friend?"[/I]because I'm not sure I do

then the other little voice said

[I/]"but you gotta do it man! you ain't getting younger! YOLO"[/I] but then I'm like [I/]"I don't want toooooo"
"that's cause youre letting fantasy take over reality, cmon he's attractive! what more do you want?"[/I]


ugghhh so frustrating not knowing what I want

I don't are what other people do with their sex lives....I'm also not against casual sex though I don't think its for me
 

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So, this is a thread about the number of sexual partners you've had, if any.
Had two sexual partners. One was a boyfriend (of about six months), and the other was a friend.

Do you think your number is too high, too low or completely meaningless? Do you judge other people based on how many people they've had sex with or think there's a limit to the amount of sexual partners a person should have?
I don't care much about my number, though I cared when I was on zero. It's fairly meaningless, and I don't judge others on it.

Do you perhaps think that sex should be reserved for two people who are in a relationship or do you skulk around dance floors and chip shops at four in the morning desperate to find a decent looking randomer to bring home for the night?
Shouldn't be reserved for those in a relationship. I did it with a friend, and no real awkwardness ensued. We did it a few more times.

Nothing wrong with one-night-stands, though I would be completely shite at making them happen.

Including your age would also be helpful. I say helpful, it's not really helpful as this entire thread is stupid, it just provides a more complete picture.
Early twenties. Lost virginity at 18.