Colour Scientist said:
So, this is a thread about the number of sexual partners you've had, if any.
Do you think your number is too high, too low or completely meaningless? Do you judge other people based on how many people they've had sex with or think there's a limit to the amount of sexual partners a person should have?
Do you perhaps think that sex should be reserved for two people who are in a relationship or do you skulk around dance floors and chip shops at four in the morning desperate to find a decent looking randomer to bring home for the night?
If you've never had a sexual partner, is there a reason you don't want to or has the opportunity just not presented itself?
Including your age would also be helpful. I say helpful, it's not really helpful as this entire thread is stupid, it just provides a more complete picture.
I'm 32 years old. One sexual partner. Lost my virginity at 28 the day I got married. Same thing for her, but she was two years older.
I think the number of sexual partners a person has is meaningless. I really don't care how many partners someone had, as sex is something different in today's society versus 50 or 100 years ago. Thanks to medical science, women are allowed to have sex for fun the same ways guys are. Of course, a long time ago, thinking like this was just crazy. Weird world we used to live in. But I don't care, honestly. If that's how you want to have fun, do it. Just be safe and if you get a disease, stop.
My reason for waiting until I was married at the age of 28, even though that meant turning down a half dozen girls over the years? Well, that question has many answers. All of these little things sort of added up to a 100% abstinence in my head. In no particular order, this is why I decided to wait.
1. I didn't want children. My luck is horrible. And a 99% chance of not getting someone pregnant wasn't good enough for me. To my knowledge, the only 100 percent way not to get someone pregnant is not to have sex.
2. Backing up number one, of the six close female friends I had, five of them were using birth control and had children anyway.
3. The town I lived in had a 63% STD infection rate. I would often see the health department van parked around town, giving free screenings. I hate playing with fire.
4. I was a nurse for six months. Ever see an STD test from back around the the year 2000? Do. Not. Want.
5. I also worked in the third and fifth floor of the hospital. Those were considered the rooms where patients go to die. Ever seen an AIDS patient dying? No fun at all. And I had all this medical knowledge of other STDs that were just as bad.
6. I saw everyone around me having fun having sex and stuff. And then hear people talking like "Yea, you can do this and this to spice up the night you get married, even though you've already slept with him or her." That didn't seem too...romantic to me. So I thought, what would it be like to wait and have sex with the woman I loved most out of all the other women I met? For the record, awesome doesn't begin to describe it.
7. Drama. Drama. Drama. Nearly all the fights both my guy friends and girl friends got into were over sex. I had a job, was an aspiring writer, and had tons of video games to play. Ain't nobody got time for that!
I guess that's it, really. When a person decides to have sex should be no other person's opinion, and a person shouldn't be thought less going in either direction. Sex has evolved into just one of those things people do together, in my opinion, and no one should feel forced to do something they don't want to do, nor should they be criticized for doing something they find fun and enjoyable, as long as they are safe.
P.S it's also been my experience that a lot of people respected my decision when I told them. I honestly don't think I can come up with a point where someone made fun of me, especially when sexual partners are so easy to find. I mean, come on. I'm an honest to goodness nerd in every way imaginable, down to being skinny with glasses and good with computers. And I actually had to turn down several women. It can't be that hard, can it?