peruvianskys said:
Callate said:
peruvianskys said:
John Funk said:
ITT mostly-privileged males misunderstand rape culture.
Rape is never the victim's fault. Prevention starts by changing how we men treat women, not by trying to control how women dress and act.
Perfect!
I'm tired of people saying, "Men already know not to rape, we don't need to tell them." If that were the case, then women wouldn't get raped. Obviously quite a few men think it's a perfectly fine thing to do, considering one out of every four women are raped in their lives. If men didn't need to be taught about consent and respect and all that, then there wouldn't be rape!
...Did you sleep through the "Drug War", by any chance...?
What do you mean? I don't understand.
Thirty years or so ago, the United States started an
enormous media campaign against illegal drug use, hand in hand with stricter laws and enhanced law enforcement efforts to curtail drug crimes. There were posters and presentations in schools, after-school specials and cartoons, advertisements on the radio, on television, in magazines and newspapers. "Just Say No." "This is your brain on drugs". "Winners Don't Use Drugs."
For thirty years, people have been carpet-bombed with messages that they shouldn't use drugs, information about how drugs can harm them, and a pretty clear understanding that the powers that be felt that you should be ashamed of yourself if you used drugs.
The number of people who come into emergency rooms for drug overdoses have steadily
climbed over the last three decades. So have the number of teenagers who admit to using drugs. So have the number of drug-related deaths. And if you ask someone in one of the border towns in Mexico about the success of the "War on Drugs", they will probably be too busy ducking bullets to talk to you.
The "War on Drugs" did not fail because people hadn't been told that they shouldn't use drugs.
Your statement is that rape occurs because rapists haven't been sufficiently educated. This does not follow. One would not conclude that everyone who commits murder is unaware that murder is wrong, or that everyone who commits arson is unaware arson is wrong, or that everyone who commits grand theft auto is unaware that grand theft auto is wrong. And none of those crimes- at least, usually- have anything like someone's sex drive backing them.
In matters of sex, people are perfectly capable of doing things they
know are wrong. Indeed, some people specifically
gravitate toward sexual acts
because they know they are wrong. And that's even before alcohol or drugs enter the picture.
I'm not adverse to reasonable campaigns reminding men, especially in the teen years, that they have a responsibility to receive active consent rather than merely overcome resistance to sex. But I
strongly feel that failing to advise women that some actions may put them at greater risk of sexual assault out of fear of mis-assigning blame is grotesque. If our goal is to
prevent sexual assault- and if it isn't, it should be- then heaping disdain against
one message about avoiding risky behavior skirts dangerously close to saying that it's acceptable that some women be raped, so long as
we aren't
offended by the tone of the message.