So I accidentally revealed a surprise party...

[KaosuHamoni]

To understand this, I have mild Asperger's (which i am VERY open about to all of my friends, and most people involved know this)

Title says it all, I accidentally let it slip, as, when came the reply of "What party!?!", i didn't take the hint, having Asperger's , and not recognising it. I now have several abusive Facebook messages, and I am in the worst mood i have been in, in months, and it is 99% probable that i am going to beat the shit out of someone tomorrow, just out of anger. I don't like this, it's happened one time before, and ended badly for someone else. I can feel the anger and adrenaline. My hands are shaking as i type this. Advice please?

 

[Sneaky-Pie]

I don't recommend fighting anyone.

It was an honest mistake. It's not like you did it on purpose. Unfortunately, you just have to give this situation some time and then things will be back to normal.

 

[Nickolai77]

A couple of weeks ago I did similar. I texted my friend, presuming she was hosting the party, about transport issues. She replied "what party?", and i had a huge "Oh, Shit!" moment.

But, i saved the situation by texting her back "Sorry, texted the wrong person!" and by some lucky miracle she believed me. Unfortuantly for you, it seems like the problem is beyond salvage.

All i can suggest is that you wait it out, don't go to the party, unfriend anyone being abusive, and re-work your friendship group. Tbh, if they are giving you abuse because you spoilt a surprise party, then it's doubtful that they were true friends anyway.

 

[Cpt_Oblivious]

The surprise bit's boring, plus once the person who wasn't supposed to know is there, everyone will forget about it. As it's an honest mistake, you'll probably be forgiven pretty quickly.

 

[Frequen-Z]

...really? I frequented an autism based IRC channel for 2 years, not one of them ever misspelt Aspergers, it just never happened, nobody misspells their own diagnosis.

On that alone, I question your story.

 

[Amphoteric]

...really? I frequented an autism based IRC channel for 2 years, not one of them ever misspelt Aspergers, it just never happened, nobody misspells their own diagnosis.

On that alone, I question your story.

He may be dislexic.

using violence to solve a problem is how wars start.

 

[Jedamethis]

Shout: "FUUUUUUCK!"
And then laugh. Makes me feel better when I fuck up...

 

[Jack and Calumon]

Being a sufferer of Autism, I can almost understand your pain. Just stop, taking a breather and relax. Firstly, Facebook is not good. It allows people to give you abuse from the comfort of their home, which is why I don't use it. Second of all, if you're angry, that's only going to make things worse. I mean, I get angry, but I can subside my anger by say... watching something funny or laughing. Some people call it me repressing my emotions but that's why every now and again I take it out on some raving dickhead talking shit about video games whenever The Escapist points it out. Honestly, it's like they want me to stay calm.

The point is is that getting angry and beating the crap out of someone won't solve a thing and just go out and blow off some steam. In which there are many ways.

And about the party? Who cares? Mistakes happen. If they're giving you grief, laugh at them. That's my method.

Calmon: Just be happy. ^^

 

[KaosuHamoni]

...really? I frequented an autism based IRC channel for 2 years, not one of them ever misspelt Aspergers, it just never happened, nobody misspells their own diagnosis.

On that alone, I question your story.

He may be dislexic.

using violence to solve a problem is how wars start.

I'm angry, upset, and shaking.
[Sarcasm] Sorry if I hurt your feelings Mr Autism-Expert [/Sarcasm] You don't know me, and also don't know that I have been diagnosed and have a statement.

 

[KaosuHamoni]

Being a sufferer of Autism, I can almost understand your pain. Just stop, taking a breather and relax. Firstly, Facebook is not good. It allows people to give you abuse from the comfort of their home, which is why I don't use it. Second of all, if you're angry, that's only going to make things worse. I mean, I get angry, but I can subside my anger by say... watching something funny or laughing. Some people call it me repressing my emotions but that's why every now and again I take it out on some raving dickhead talking shit about video games whenever The Escapist points it out. Honestly, it's like they want me to stay calm.

The point is is that getting angry and beating the crap out of someone won't solve a thing and just go out and blow off some steam. In which there are many ways.

And about the party? Who cares? Mistakes happen. If they're giving you grief, laugh at them. That's my method.

Calmon: Just be happy. ^^

I'm trying, the shaking has now subsided but I'm just as angry, and, as my main method of blowing off steam is out of action (my dirt-bike), that may be difficult.

 

[luckycharms8282]

If you're trying to calm down, go for a walk or jog. The 'surprise' part of the party is gone, but that doesn't mean the party itself is affected. Your abusive friends need to realize that it was an accident and that shit happens. If yu explained to them what happened, and they're still mad even after the party, they dont sound like good peope to be around.

 

[Evilsanta]

Well if you want to blow of some steam...Just play something that allows you kill things in very horrible ways. I have Bayonetta.

 

[Miumaru]

If they really hate you that much for ruining the lame and unimportant surprise part of a surprise party, then its them who have the problems.

If someone revealed a surprise party to me, it wouldnt matter. I still was getting a party. Im lonely :x

 

[Blackadder51]

Fuck them, if there going to give you that much shit it shows how much they care. A mistakes a mistake and hell a surprise party is a normal party that the host didn't know they had. Once the surprise is gone its a normal party right?

Anyway go play some video games, or play guitar (I can't) or whatever you like to do to relax. If you can't (sorry bout ur bike) do something else, a good walk is surprisingly relaxing and calming.

 

[Danzaivar]

...really? I frequented an autism based IRC channel for 2 years, not one of them ever misspelt Aspergers, it just never happened, nobody misspells their own diagnosis.

On that alone, I question your story.

That coupled with the fact that half of the Internet thinks they have Aspergers, or OCD, or ADHD...

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OT: Here's how you deal with it; act like a jerk and pretend whoever planned it was being silly by making it a surprise. If you pull it off right then mob mentality will make you right and them wrong.

 

[Ninonybox_v1legacy]

well ill tell ya that puching someone in the jaw won't stop the negitive attitude that is being thrown at you...it will probobly make it worse.

 

[dallan262]

"fuck it!"

very minimalistic but it works for.. but yeah if your so called friends are giving you abuse over ruining a suprise party they are

a) not good friends
b) have ludicrous high expectations of a suprise party and will be dissapointed anyways

...really? I frequented an autism based IRC channel for 2 years, not one of them ever misspelt Aspergers, it just never happened, nobody misspells their own diagnosis.

On that alone, I question your story.

my mate has dyslexia and he spells it wrong....alot

 

[Ninonybox_v1legacy]

A couple of weeks ago I did similar. I texted my friend, presuming she was hosting the party, about transport issues. She replied "what party?", and i had a huge "Oh, Shit!" moment.

But, i saved the situation by texting her back "Sorry, texted the wrong person!" and by some lucky miracle she believed me. Unfortuantly for you, it seems like the problem is beyond salvage.

All i can suggest is that you wait it out, don't go to the party, unfriend anyone being abusive, and re-work your friendship group. Tbh, if they are giving you abuse because you spoilt a surprise party, then it's doubtful that they were true friends anyway.

it sure was lucky...did you thank your...*snikers*...Lucky Star?

 

[Paksenarrion]

It seems like some of your friends don't understand what Asperger's Syndrome entails. Not very many people know what it means to have Asperger's.

Unfortunately, I am one of them. What is Asperger's? I wiki'd it, but I'm still confused.

 

[captainwillies]

To understand this, I have mild Asperger's (which i am VERY open about to all of my friends, and most people involved know this)

Title says it all, I accidentally let it slip, as, when came the reply of "What party!?!", i didn't take the hint, having Asperger's , and not recognising it. I now have several abusive Facebook messages, and I am in the worst mood i have been in, in months, and it is 99% probable that i am going to beat the shit out of someone tomorrow, just out of anger. I don't like this, it's happened one time before, and ended badly for someone else. I can feel the anger and adrenaline. My hands are shaking as i type this. Advice please?

whats that werewolf movie were the guy decides to go into troves and find bad guys at rise of the full moon so when he goes berserk he makes the world a better place?