So... I just found out my brother is gay.
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I never really came out, because I was never really in the closet to begin with. I didn't show intrest in either gender until my sophmore year of highschool though. While eating dinner with my family one of my brothers asked if I had a boyfriend yet. I said no but mentioned that there was this girl I was kind of into. Cue everyone staring.
Dad: Are you gay?
Me: I prefer the term lesbian.
Dad: /shrug
Mom: Whatever makes you happy, just be safe.
Older Brother: Wait, what?!
Oldest Brother: I knew it.
My partner had a much more difficult time with it than me. She'd been straight up until a few months ago, or I thought she was. She'd actually been intrested in me, and by extension women, for six years. When I finally found out and she told me she was afraid to tell her parents and sister because she didn't know how they'd react. It was rather...awkward, but they were mostly fine with it. Her mother was expecting lots of granchildren, but she understood that her daughter wanted to be happy. Her dad had figured it out a long time ago and her sister was overjoyed with the news.
Dad: Are you gay?
Me: I prefer the term lesbian.
Dad: /shrug
Mom: Whatever makes you happy, just be safe.
Older Brother: Wait, what?!
Oldest Brother: I knew it.
My partner had a much more difficult time with it than me. She'd been straight up until a few months ago, or I thought she was. She'd actually been intrested in me, and by extension women, for six years. When I finally found out and she told me she was afraid to tell her parents and sister because she didn't know how they'd react. It was rather...awkward, but they were mostly fine with it. Her mother was expecting lots of granchildren, but she understood that her daughter wanted to be happy. Her dad had figured it out a long time ago and her sister was overjoyed with the news.
My friends are fairly open, though I do get called things from time to time by the more strict persons around. Revealing it hasnt been a big issue, though one friend just stopped all contact with me. She was kinda religious. : ( I miss her a bit.
I never been big on revealing it, I aint in the closet, but I dont go around telling people I am gay. If they ask I say yes, if they dont. Then they live in the dark, muahaha..
I never been big on revealing it, I aint in the closet, but I dont go around telling people I am gay. If they ask I say yes, if they dont. Then they live in the dark, muahaha..
Well, in a society where many of our parents are religious, at least in my generation, generally it's hidden because we don't really want our parents to have reason to hate or look down on us. So we keep it secret to avoid making things worse. In my case, I'm also religious, which complicates things further. I'm a bisexual, just not a PRACTICING one.
Knowing my brother was bisexual made me a lot less homophobic. He told me in sixth grade when I was in my "durr gay=bad i dun wann b associated wit dem" phase. (I actually spoke like that)
So at first I was weirded out but as time progressed I became much more tolerant and now he can comfortably talk about guys he find attractive around me. I feel like by telling me, my brother changed me for the better, and I am still grateful towards him for that.
So at first I was weirded out but as time progressed I became much more tolerant and now he can comfortably talk about guys he find attractive around me. I feel like by telling me, my brother changed me for the better, and I am still grateful towards him for that.
My Sister told me she was bi, i replied that she just doubled her client list, she hit me over the head with a pillow, that was really it, except sometimes she tells me about a hawt actress/model/pornstar i might want to look up on the net, which is pretty cool.
my sister came home with her girlfriend one day and had sex in her room, there was no talk, everybody was just like: "Huh, I guess she's a lesbian now." /reads newspaper
I often think we dutch folk are weird.
I often think we dutch folk are weird.
I've never really had anyone 'come out' to me. Well, last year but she didn't make a secret of being bisexual. We just never got round to discussing it. When we did it was literally two sentences and then we went back to our original topic. I've never had a problem with it.