so i'm about to become homeless. help?

Arachon

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Dahni said:
long story cut very short:

my mum is throwing me out the house for various reasons i'd rather not list.
I'm 16.
I don't have a job.
my only source of income is £30 a week from my school & £40 a month from my dad (which will now, likely, stop)

help?

I don't even know what I'm expecting you guys to tell me, but help anyway?

& please don't tell me to try reason with her because she CANNOT BE REASONED WITH.
What you need to do is to call the police, nothing else, not joining the army, not killing your mother. Throwing a minor out is child abuse, even in the UK, so don't worry about that.
 

Indecizion

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Dahni said:
long story cut very short:

my mum is throwing me out the house for various reasons i'd rather not list.
I'm 16.
I don't have a job.
my only source of income is £30 a week from my school & £40 a month from my dad (which will now, likely, stop)

help?

I don't even know what I'm expecting you guys to tell me, but help anyway?

& please don't tell me to try reason with her because she CANNOT BE REASONED WITH.


EDIT:
why i'm getting chucked out:
Because my mum found out what I'm planning to do after my 6th year of high school (I'm in 5th year right now), because I'm planning to go to Download festival, and because my room is messy because I've been clearing out my drawers & stuff. Throwing me out is an over-reaction, I suppose, but she really doesn't give a shit.

I was planning to go to a university near London because it's well known for being good at providing the course I'm after. Moving from Glasgow to London is a pretty big jump for me. This set her off and she told me that I'm "going to need the fucking practice".
ummm ok nice, had something similar when i was younger but yeah friends are always the answere but not even the ones you would think but like i stayed with some old family friends for a month while my mum calmed down, but yeah theres almost always someone who can help you, elsewise yeah could always do it the main way with getting a part time job and finding a place out in the world youll be stronger for it :D but meh i know you said not to but if you give your mum a month or two she may calm down and realise she misses your pressence in the house among other things i mean just let the guilt set it most mothers struggle with guilt related with their children when they know theyre in the wrong :D
 

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Don't go to this rock concert. Seeing how you are about to throw your life away for some only decent bands, I would kiss as much ass and tell her you are not going. If it is that important to go to the concert, well, you deserve to be kicked out.

Yes your mom is overreacting, but right now you need to except your place in her household.
 

RanD00M

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Dahni said:
Þú varst kliptur!
I'm going to bee a little unoriginal and say either talk to some government official.Or contact child services.Those are the only pieces of advice that I can give you that don´t include leaving the country.
 

Deef

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Your mom sounds like she's crazy, I mean she kicked you out because you've chosen a path to get your career on track? What did she expect you to do? Live with her for your entire life?
I really don't see her point of view here.
 

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I suppose if worst comes to worst, you can always become an emancipated minor and join the military. That's my homeless plan. I know that it may seem like a horrible idea, but free clothes, board, education, and being paid for it all may be worth it if you're really desperate. Not to mention that later in life a military career always looks good on a resume.

I'm going to take a lot of shit for this post, aren't I?
 

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DanielPowell33 said:
Could be a bluff to motivate you to get a job.

If not, you could try a friend or relatives house.

And if that doesn't work, start hobo fight club.
Agreed

Id do that.
 

Rotukai

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If you are getting kicked out I really would not recommend going to download. You can use the money to stay in a hostel for a little while if a friend wont take you in. They are only around £10 a night i believe, and the local council should be able to do something to help
 

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Blindswordmaster said:
I suppose if worst comes to worst, you can always become an emancipated minor and join the military. That's my homeless plan. I know that it may seem like a horrible idea, but free clothes, board, education, and being paid for it all may be worth it if you're really desperate. Not to mention that later in life a military career always looks good on a resume.

I'm going to take a lot of shit for this post, aren't I?
that's actually a very good idea, but I believe things are a bit different in the UK.

as for advice, I know this may sounds stupid/cliche and all, but whatever you end up doing, make sure it's legal. getting arrested when your that young with no place to live or a way to pay for school would be devastating. Everything else has been said before by people who atleast appear to know what they're talking about.
 

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Publicize the issue- like you're doing now. Get people to know about it, and maybe someone with the power to do so will set your mom straight. Also, if a great number of people understand that your mother is throwing you out before you've even finished High School, the public embarrassment might be enough to get her to stop.
Or crash at a friends house. I really don't know anything about what being in your situation is like, so I cant give reliable answers.
 

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I got booted out when I was 17 but I had a minimum wage apprenticeship to tide me over, so I've got nothing mate. I did do some full time tertiary education whilst working 20 hours a week as an orderly at a hospital, its not a glam life but you can get by.
Although most of my mates thought I was crazy I might add.
 

MrDeano89

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wont happen, ive been thrown out hundreds of times and im back in 24 hours

shes bluffing
 

Normalgamer

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reg42 said:
It's illegal to throw someone out before 18 in most countries. You could try the "I'mma gonna sue yo ass" technique
Such a good technique too. Worked for mcdonald's lady :).
 

park92

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join the army then you get free shelter and get paid but you might die so yeah Well looks on the bright side at least your not homeless
 

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You get 30 pounds a week from your school? Please explain this phenomenon. I live in Canada and I've never heard of anything like this before.

Also, about the whole being thrown out of the house thing, that sucks. I'm 16 and I wouldn't last an hour if I were thrown out.
 

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Baby Tea said:
Dahni said:
Baby Tea said:
Dahni said:
The army, although it is a good idea, is really not what i want to do.
I suppose i could always have it as a last resort...
The thing is, you aren't stuck with it for life, unless the Military is very different in Scottland. After a brief Google search, you'd be able to leave after about 4 or 5 years of service.
That means you'd be in your early twenties, you'd have money, and you'd have experience in nearly any field you want! How is that not ideal?
that's 4 or 5 years I could spend doing a Masters Degree in something I want to do for the rest of my life. 4 or 5 years of service in the military is a waste of my time.
Well, again, I'm not sure how it is in Scotland, but the Military here (Canada) will pay for all schooling, or send you to a military University, where you get your education and come out an officer, serve 4 or 5 years, and have experience, money, rank, and an education.

And if 4 or 5 years of guaranteed food, shelter, and money is a waste of your time, what's the big plan without it then?
You came here asking for help, and beggars can't be choosers.
So you either have a place to live, and therefore don't need our help, or you have no place to live and in 4 or 5 years you'll be still working at burger king without a degree.

I'm honestly not trying to be rude, but if the situation is a severe as you say it is, then now is the time to think realistically. You need shelter (Rent), food, and education to 'do what you want', and money to do all of those things.
If you're out on the street, and the military isn't 'what you want to do', then what's the big plan?
If you have a car, there are a few websites that list safe parking lots to sleep in (for the US at least, not sure about the UK).

When I faced a similar situation, the Marine recruiter told me they could offer me 3 meals a day and a roof over my head (not a bad deal).

If UK military doesn't want to pay for you, you can always enlist in a foreign military. Not sure if Canada offers it, but the US Army and USMC do.
 

Therumancer

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Dahni said:
long story cut very short:

my mum is throwing me out the house for various reasons i'd rather not list.
I'm 16.
I don't have a job.
my only source of income is £30 a week from my school & £40 a month from my dad (which will now, likely, stop)

help?

I don't even know what I'm expecting you guys to tell me, but help anyway?

& please don't tell me to try reason with her because she CANNOT BE REASONED WITH.


EDIT:
why i'm getting chucked out:
Because my mum found out what I'm planning to do after my 6th year of high school (I'm in 5th year right now), because I'm planning to go to Download festival, and because my room is messy because I've been clearing out my drawers & stuff. Throwing me out is an over-reaction, I suppose, but she really doesn't give a shit.

I was planning to go to a university near London because it's well known for being good at providing the course I'm after. Moving from Glasgow to London is a pretty big jump for me. This set her off and she told me that I'm "going to need the fucking practice".

I can't help but think there must be more to this story than we're hearing. Mainly because a 16 year old with no money who wants to attend a mega-concert and move to a major city is not all that uncommon all told, even if most never do the latter at least for practical reasons.

I am unsure of the laws where you are, but it may or may not be a bluff under the circumstances since a lot of civilized countries make it impossible to do exactly what she's threatening to do. I also have no idea what options might also have.

HOWEVER, I'm somewhat jaded when it comes to pleas for charity over the Internet (which is where I see this going). Over the years I've seen many attempts similar to this to get people from various communities to send people money due to a sob story. With 500 posts under your belt you also hardly seem to be a regular here, which leads me to wonder why you'd be putting this up here of all places. Unless of course your another person who realized that the majority of posts on game forums are left wingers, who obviously have enough money to throw into games, and figure with a sob story you can collect money.

Sites like Encyclopedia Dramatica have run articles on things exactly like this, with users who have gotten "nailed" for crying poverty and desperation on furry sites and the like and getting a bunch of people to send them money. One guy they did an article on was allegedly busted for solicitation after he made thousands and spent it all on semi-pro furry porn artwork of his favorite character.

I have personal experience on the Palladium books website (the guys who make RPGs like RIFT, Heroes Unlimited, etc...) with someone who realizing the EXTREME liberal orientation of the site went around begging money for transgender surgery with mixed results (and no, I am not making that one up).

I guess that is where this goes, since really I can't expect many people here to be able to offer detailed advice on UK social services, since while we do have people from all over the world here, the vast majority of users seem to be Americans.

But hey, if you are serious, I do wish you luck. Not much I could do about it since I myself am disabled and live at home at 34. I watched my entire life (such as it was) fall apart, and get to have the wonderful of experience of growing ever softer and fatter while taking ever increasing doses of medication and wondering WTF is going to happen to me in the long run because while okay now, if anyone had an uncertain future it's me. I mean my parents won't live forever if nothing else, and they are sick also. Thus I guess I can see what it's like to some extent, though admittedly in my case I *DO* have a little money coming in from social security because I worked a decent job for a little over 10 years. Not enough where I am confident of being able to support myself under the circumstances totally on my own.

In the end though, things DO tend to work out. The worst that is likely to happen is you'll wind up in a youth shelter for a couple of years.

Though personally if your being serious I presume at 16 you've already been accepted to this college in London? Well heck, if that's the case play it for what it's worth. If your parents don't like your choice of school, point out that at least you've been doing well enough were you (presumably) get one. Of course this could also be your mother's way of telling you she can't afford to send you to school which blows chips all around.

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TheYellowCellPhone

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It's best to tell someone, I'm sure it's illegal to toss you out now.

But, if that does happen, move in with a friend or relative and wait for your mom to cool down.

I'd hate to be in your shoes, man. Good luck.