Panzer_God said:
LastGreatBlasphemer said:
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No, they like assholes because assholes treat them like dirt in comparison to a 'nice guy' who'd bend over backwards for her, and that makes them a challenge. That's it. Also, many girls want to 'tame' the bad boy, or take in and nurture the broken one. And in the end, these relationships mess up and the first person the girl complains to about the lack of 'good guys out there' is one of the nice guys who WAS actually interested until she dumped him 'Friendsville' with all the others.
Many 'nerds' are only so because somebody else is too insecure to let them be. But actually perhaps they DO have confidence, because that's why they are being nerdy in the first place, to a girl likely adore. And is that not also great confidence of a kind, whereas the asshole's 'confident cockiness' and trademark aloofness could easily be construed as a crutch intimacy and commitment issues. Confidence is also a far wider spectrum than represented by assholes. A man who's kind, considerate and respectful is showing confidence in himself as a mature and intelligent man.
A lot of the 'assholes' out there are merely showing how little maturity they've managed to amass in their lives, and so much of their confidence is really just a mask for selfishness. Many 'nice guys' get discarded for the most idiotic preconceptions, like 'oh no! he let ME choose the restaurant!'. FFS.